I Need a Little Christmas Foreplay to Get in the Holiday Mood
Whether I like it or not, I’m The Event Planner for the holidays. I need to make myself happy to be able to make anyone else happy.
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We moved from a big city to a small town into a 150 year old house in need of sooo much work. I spend a lot of time nesting and spent a lot of time at home with small people. I don’t just decorate, I live artfully, I love to cook and eat and , sometimes I like gardening with its share of mishaps and metaphors. My home is where I show my family, friends, and myself love.
Whether I like it or not, I’m The Event Planner for the holidays. I need to make myself happy to be able to make anyone else happy.
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