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Evolution Revolution : Using Our Brains Differently

Whether you know it or not, there’s an evolution revolution currently occurring. We are being asked to raise our consciousnesses and consider how we treat ourselves. We can move from reactive living to proactive living if we use our brains differently.

All the buzz about mindfulness isn’t bunk and here’s why. We have two different parts of our brains that we use. There’s the back brain and the front brain. The back brain is the primitive brain that works on autopilot and is responsible for fear. It says it’s keeping us safe but actually would keep us from evolving if it had its way.

The front brain is the place where we make intelligent decisions. It’s our proactive place, our “I’ve got this” place, and we’re woefully under-utilizing it. In fact, we don’t trust it, and consequently ourselves. The need to connect with ourselves has brought on an onslaught of self-healing practices of which meditation is truly the best bet on self-connection.

When we sit and allow ourselves to be instead of do, we come to understand what we can and cannot control and who we are and aren’t. We connect with ourselves and a higher power to simplify life and magnify what it is that is truly important. In order to make a difference and help our world, we need to be humble enough to know that trying is all we can do but we must try. And we must have compassion for ourselves when we fail. And try again.

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In order to change the world in a fearlessly all in kinda way, we’re going to have to act more from the front brain mode. We’re going to have to figure out how to raise a generation that isn’t constantly apologizing for itself. That knows what stellar treatment it’s entitled to. We are going to have to intentionally improve our souls to pass the betterment on to the next generation. So that they may feel entitled to evolve out of Fear and into Love.

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How We Learn to Be More Self Aware

I often say, “The reason that teachers know their subject so well is because they’ve taken classes in the same subject and reviewed the material over and over until it’s drilled into their heads. By the end of their educational careers, soon to be teachers will have had four or five years of concentrated studying of their specific subject. Can we learn to be self-aware in the same way?

I began to think about what this meant when applied to the work of self-actualization and self-development. I have been studying concepts on raising self-esteem and being mindful and creating self-trust for a long long time. I think you have to be exposed to something for a long long time, over and over, especially something that is so personal to your perceived survival, until it starts to make the truest sense to you.

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This can take the form of classes or books, but I realized that it has been real people that have influenced my awareness shift mostly. People who I may have never met but whose words clonk me over the head with their truth. Many of these amazing people I’ve found on Instagram. Like Anna Lovind. Or at the library. And my therapist who is a third party neutral, giving it to me straight without a stake in my game so I know it to be true. And as you begin to steer your thoughts toward the place that you know is better for you, safer and less anxious, you surprise yourself with the ideas and better conclusions you come up with.

The self-awareness that you’re having these happy positive thoughts about yourself is what raises your conscious level and your esteem by understanding and acknowledging your choice to change. And change feeds back to your thoughts about yourself in a happy feedback loop. Change first only asks that you be aware it’s possible.

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Why Do I Do It? When My Reasons Don’t Ring True

I recently told you that I did not achieve the weight loss I had hoped to withing my given amount of time. In fact, I admitted I think being on Weigh Watchers seemed to make me gain weight. As in, who are you to tell me how many points I need, I’ll decide that. 4 months later, I ask myself, what if my why is just wrong. Because no matter the physiological cause and effects, “Whys” run the show.

So I am regarding those today and seeing what my truth might be. In the case of the losing weight, I think my reason is to be skinnier because I hate myself larger. Right there, the anger and judgment is what I’m stumbling on. “So you’ll like me” is never a good reason.

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A year ago when I was anxious and feeling down on myself for not being more successful. I should be publishing more, I should spend ore time writing seriously. But what I realize there is that “Because I should is also not a very good motivator.

These are habits which are tremendously hard to break. The habit of self-judgment. The habit of not enough. And after you recognize yourself participating in this habit, the only thing that can be done is to heap giant doses of self-compassion on yourself, consider that you are always where you are supposed to be despite all your rampant shoulds, and fin a bigger better why.

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So, what is another Reason Why I would like to lose ten pounds? What if I don’t need to be fixed? What if no one cares what I look like but me. What if I would like to prove that I could despite my old lady metabolism? Something needs to change in my thoughts before I can change anything.

But one things for sure, I need to be OK right where I am or I’m not going anywhere.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Low Self-Esteem is Debilitating

There’s a problem I have with how people give you instructions and advice. That “All you need to do is” attitude may work great for some people. Yes, you really may have no idea how to build a readership or self-publish an E-book. Most of us can find a number of resources to tell us how to get there. I stumble don’t stumble with the how but with my low self-esteem. My can’t.

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For people with low self-esteem, it isn’t as simple as just do this to get that result. There’s another layer of difficulty that blocks us from even beginning. It’s the belief that we’re not even worth the effort. That we have no permission to rise above the place we’ve been keeping ourselves and ask for followers and assistance. This is unthinkable. We’re fairly certain everyone regards us as we do, not much there worth working for.

So until I began, and I think I have, to raise my self-value in my own eyes, I might give you a blank stare when and if you tell me that all I have to do is such and such. It’s just not that easy for everyone. Some of us have more to wade through to get to the “just do it” place than others. And being aware of that can make us all a little less judgmental and a little more compassionate for the stories people are not telling us.

Until I can, I can’t.

And that’s a harder place to fight your way out of than you might think.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

The Alone Zone

Undeniably, we spend our lives alone. We are the only ones in our bodies, in our minds, and in our souls. Our family and friends will love us but they will always think of themselves first. It’s just humanity in action. We are loyal to preserve ourselves.

Yet, we are also pack animals. We need to be in community, to be witnessed and heard by our fellowship. To hear that we are in fact not alone. That we aren’t the only ones feeling this way.

Leave me alone but hold me.

Stay away from me but I’m lonely.

Love me but don’t get too close.

It costs your soul a high price to stay alone. I spent a lifetime of searching for partners only then using them to hurt myself. It was a lonely hard life where I perpetually gave up on myself. And I decided that it was harder to perpetually give up on myself then to give myself a chance. And I gave myself a chance to be happy even if I didn’t think I was worth it.

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Now I have a huge community which I don’t even give myself credit for. I love to exchange ideas with like-minded people and my blog and Instagram posts allow me that privilege. And recently, I’ve been having prophetic community dreams. I think I am giving myself the high sign that it’s time to come out of hiding. Time to stop being alone and circle my wagons with others for some meaningful work.

Alone time is good and necessary for me when I need to ponder and work through stuff but then team work makes me feel truly alive and part of something bigger than me.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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