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The beginning of the year found me dreading my duties ahead. I had somehow volunteered to spearhead our fellowship’s fundraiser and I was not excited. My ego was dreadfully afraid of failing and two wise men gave me some extraordinary advice. One said, “your community will show up for you” and the other said, “if it fails, it’s your community that will have failed not you”. Permission and perspective were gained immediately.

 

Two days ago, I sent out an email requesting help with the food for this Cuban themed event. I needed some traditional cooking as well as some “buy it” and “pour it” in a bowl types of supplies. And within 12 hours, my people showed up and were on board for all the items. All of them. I could have cried.Your Community on Shalavee.com

 

Asking for anything is tremendously hard. You risk rejection when you ask. But when you are asking on behalf of a community, it feels like double jeopardy. Your good name and your cause are at stake. But our egos somehow forget that the Community concept means we are collectively responsible. In fact, those who care about the community as well are so glad that they’re not the one doing all the work, they’ll be glad to grab those chips or make that cake to show their gratitude for the efforts being made.

 

Equally important, how else can you learn your humility life lessons but through being of service to your community? Be that community your church, your school, your county, or gender, showing up holds so much power and impacts everyone. The efforts show us our value and shows others their value to us. In this instance, being in this process showed me how generous and loving my fellowship is when my fear of failure wanted to be my message.

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I will be immensely grateful to have accomplished this Herculean task and proven that I could. But I will also try not to lose sight that I must trust in my community as they have shown me their honor and reliability. Those are good reasons to keep being devoted. And I wanted to make sure that this lesson was not left unspoken.

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The Fall Soul Selfie Challenge is Here

On May 15th of 2016, I hosted my first Soul Selfie Challenge. As you may already know, I’m all about introspection. And I conceived of the hashtag #Soul_Selfie to house posts that I felt were deeper . And so naturally, next I had to offer up a week-long Instagram challenge to share some deeper thoughts with my community. Except, I was terrified!

I direct messaged a group of four people I trusted and asked them if I should host a challenge and their solid advice was to take the Nike approach and “Just Do It”. Bless their supportive little hearts because I went ahead and hosted that first one and it lifted my spirits so much. Some truly lovely people joined in with me on my challenge and I felt so wonderful and validated.

I would go on to host two more Soul Selfie challenges, later that year in October of 2016 and this past Spring in 2017. And it’s time again to do this challenge thing!

The idea is to take the prompt word and think about a story you can tell that you can be a little more honest about with yourself. To be seen a little more by owning a choice or a way of life that no longer serves you. Or perhaps one that changed your life in a great way. We are all so much more interesting than we first offer and that’s what I love about these challenges.

The other part I love about participating in challenges is all the yummy alliances and acquaintances we get to enjoy. I was on Instagram and didn’t have many friends and I dared myself to do a well-known challenge called April Love. I still have friends from that challenge. The Fall Soul Selfie Challenge id Here on Shalavee.com

So here we go… The Fall Soul Selfie Challenge of 2017 starts in three days! And I sooooo look forward to seeing what wonderful offerings show up on that hashtag page which now houses 494 posts! But I look more forward to getting to know more about a community that I hold dear and appreciate for supporting me and helping to raise me up in my self-worth. I am forever indebted.

If you have any questions about the challenge, direct message me on Instagram or Facebook or pop a comment in this post at the bottom.For a sampling of what the last Fall Soul Selfie Challenge held, see this post.

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The Trivia Fundraiser Design

Our Fellowship fundraiser this year happened in the middle of February (since when does February get so busy?).  But the Trivia night activity had me stumped and grumped for a visual theme for a trivia fundraiser.

I like to make one big visual statement with each event. The anchor applique for the Anchors Away fundraiser last year. The huge bandana for the Hoe Down fundraiser. But this theme had no visuals for me to work with, other than heads with gears. So I just went with colorful and cheesy. Set up for trivia fundraiser on Shalavee.com

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I had to have the silver tinsel curtains, known as slit drapes, in the front of the space to give us that game show feeling. I was terribly dubious of the card tables’ stability but they did fine. And the tablecloths, well let’s say that, without paying anything, they were what I was using.

I must pay it forward to my husband and his wonderful lighting toys because those are really what brought this design to life. The LED up-lights are cordless and can be set up pretty painlessly. And those pool balls( yes they’re water tight) change colors slowly if you choose the fade mode.

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Young and old having fun for the trivia fundraiser at Shalavee.com

I hadn’t planned to participate in the trivia event itself but it ended up being a hoot. Our table won second place, no thanks to me truly. And the silent auction items were a nice range of offerings, including a Mexican dinner fixed by me this coming May. And really lovely themed baskets were raffled off.The MC and his Dad at the end of the trivia fundraiser on Shalavee.com

All in all, it was a fun fundraiser and was a complete success!

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We Gather to Feel Hope

As she poured us some of her white sangria, our hostess Annie admitted that she was compelled to organize our Saturday night gathering since she wasn’t a participant in the Women’s March that afternoon. I hadn’t traveled to Washington either and so the six of us, all Moms, sat and shared our feelings and concerns. And I felt grateful to be able to gather and share my fears and doubts with these women. It was validating and affirming and necessary. And as each of us had brought a nibble and a sweet, our opinions and stories were equally nourishing.We Gather to Feel Hope on Shalavee.com

At the close of the lovely evening, we all offered that it was so nice to be able to speak our truths and hear them echoed back. That we’ve never experienced this fearful uncertainty in our country before. As one woman’s wise husband had pointed out, we were not alive during Watergate or the assassinations of JFK or Martin Luther King.This election is our horrible US citizen moment (if you don’t remember the second Bush Administration).

And even though nothing in the world “changed” last night, our inner worlds changed tremendously. We felt like we were facing this together with like-minded women. We felt safer in our collective souls. And that was something I’m so very grateful for. I think we all were. I look forward to hosting similar gatherings in the coming year to keep the spirit of hope alive for myself and anyone who would join me.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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What You Must Think of Me

 

It would be impossible not to consider what others think of me. Were I not a writer, you couldn’t prove I care. But I must care a little to want you to read what I’ve written. Or is it possible to be thankful that others approve but not base your own value on what others think. That has been a problem my entire life. Until now.what you must think of me on Shalavee.com

Surely I can come off to some as a bit pompous and a loopy, talking about all this touchy feely stuff. Liberal spoutings of a girl who refuses to see what the world really is. But I submit that every last thing you see and perceive is based on your assumptions, your perceptions, and filtered by what you need to have it be.

My anxieties have run my picture show for a long long time. You may have noticed I am always busy. I kept busy, never had any ending so I didn’t have to hear what a crappy job I did. Never stop, never get criticized. I really cared too much about what you might think so I distracted you and me with busy. But unless that busy is satisfying for me, it never feels good.what you must think of me on Shalavee.com

To be beautiful means to be yourself.

You don’t need to be accepted by others.

You need to accept yourself.
THICH NHAT HANH —

So this Christmas I gifted myself with the gift of no longer giving a shoot what anyone but me thinks. I can now trust myself to take care of my needs. My anxiety doesn’t run the show and so I am trusting in my decisions on my behalf for my happiness. Turns out happiness is the best everything.

And I’d like to think if it makes me happy, you’d be happy for me. Because what kind of world do I live in if I’m always frightened of the negative feelings I perceive everyone will have about me. Keep your mean to yourself and spread the nice. I hand out compliments because I love how they feel when I receive them. They’re candy to the soul. And everyone can use some soul candy every once in a while.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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