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Soul Goals

I recently arranged and hosted a Mastermind Meet-up with a group of women who I admire and respect. The purpose of this meeting was to gather to inspire and enlighten each other. And beyond talk of random politics and religion, because how cool is it that we women can do that without conflict, we spoke of what our goals for ourselves may be. Well, I threw mine down on the table and offered everyone an opportunity to consider what their soul goals may be.

My friend and women’s intuitive coach Samantha Wheatley uses this phrase soul goal in her work. And besides the fact that it rhymes, it immediately asks you to go beyond your daily grind and surface to do’s and dig a little deeper for work that may be more fulfilling to your truer deeper you. Because by the surprise of one or two of the women, I don’t think we often ask ourselves to have these kinds of goals.soul goals on Shalavee.com

Goals tend to be body or weight oriented like calorie intake and weight loss. Or fitness-centric as for a marathon goal. Sometimes we have house renovation goals before we host a party say. Or deadlines for work even. But what other kinds of goals are we missing out on? I have included creative goals in my life over the past couple years. In fact this upcoming May, I will be endeavoring to create something every day. That feeds my spirit immensely and setting aside time for it makes me know it is a priority. But when do we call ourselves to the mat for soul goals?

In considering what yours might be, you can include injustices and problems that irk you on a regular basis. Like the acceptance of women’s low self-esteem as OK. For me, this is not OK and so my goal is to lead by example and be brave online as often and in as many ways as I feel good about. But yours could be homelessness or the lack of resources for people with issues. It could be the immigration situation, the local Humane Society, or your own struggle with your relationship with your mother. All of these fall into the realm of outside the daily and require a little more thoughtful pro-activity to bring about change. soul goals on Shalavee.com

So have I got you thinking about how you may want to affect a change in your world or life this year? I admire the littlest of goals as these too seem to lead to greater realization. One woman I know meditated for ten minutes each morning and decreased her anxieties immensely. One woman drank more water and read more books for three months. You can choose your own length of time, a month or 100 days. But the true trick is to hand it over to someone else for the accountability to make a difference in you. Because once you give your word, you can’t blow that off.

Me? I’ve claimed again my intention to submit to be published in online magazines. I said it in the meet-up and I need to make some progress there now. I’ll let you know how it’s going. Think about your possible soul goals and leave me your thoughts in the comments. Because saying it out loud is one more step to making it happen.

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Universal Message

The universe gave me a message this week that I mattered. Not intimidating like God speaking to me, but just a general nudge from my more intimate universe that I am rocking my life in good ways.

We matter. You’ve heard this and blown this off a million times. But those who grab it and put it inside themselves, those people are the one who feel entitled to ask for the changes the world needs to see.

It’s a matter of allowing, coercing, and getting ourselves to see how we matter and agree with the rest of the world on this matter of us mattering. This week this was how I was validated.universal message on Shalavee.com

From my post, My Forgotten Soul in My Writing, I received these marvelous comments and feedback.

Allison Andersen said:
Yes, please keep writing! I know you will and I’m so grateful you will. I can relate to you in many ways and your lovely beautiful words say it all. The words I can’t find. Thank you!!
Martina said:
You have a beautiful way with words! I love how you can express so much in a few short sentences. I love how you can leave me sitting there, nodding and exclaiming..”That’s just how I feel” or how you make me smile as I admire your honesty. You have a gift! Thank you for sharing your gift.
From Instagram, Jennifer said:
Seeing ourselves is definitely one of the hardest jobs, but an important one too – and the fact that you let yourself been seen so openly too through your writing is courage indeed.
 
And Peg Anderson said:
I so admire you and this ability to so openly share yourself. Thank you.
 
And I say:
Thank You All For Reading and For Letting Me Know I Make A Difference. Because You Do To Me Too !

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The Soul Buffer Zone

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about what it would be like to have a “soul buffer zone”. Having been raised codependent and since having children, my boundaries are a little wiggly. And the thought of having space around me that I keep myself safe within is really appealing to me. In fact it’s downright necessary if I’m ever going to make my life the zen experience I long for.The Soul Buffer Zone on Shalavee.com

The idea is that there’s a mental space between you and the outer world. And you intentionally maintain that by not letting people make demands on you, by not applying what is going on in the outside world to you, and by taking care of yourself so you feel kept safe by you. People’s comments or ideas are outside of you and you decide if you want to let them in. How about writing them down for consideration later even.

We are so besieged by information and demands from our internal and external worlds that we’re exhausted. When my daughter got sick simultaneously coinciding with a snowstorm, I definitely suffered from some post traumatic stress. I couldn’t escape. And what if we do that to ourselves regularly by not allowing for things to bounce off of us. Eventually, we are exhausted by osmosis.The Soul Buffer Zone on Shalavee.com

So I am going to be extra mindful this year about padding myself, creating things to look forward to, talking with my soul sisters face to face, and granting myself permission for time off. Demanding the same from my family. I think they could use to miss me and my efforts and become a little more appreciative. I’m creating a soul buffer zone because my happiness is worth it and other people’s happiness is based on it.

(Pictures in memory of Pama’s shop Moonvine which shut down this past February).

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Craving the Shift

Oh how I crave the shift. I want to see my world as all possibilities, untangled with preconceived can’ts. I want to see my children as cherubs and my career as chosen, doable, and successful. To come home to my body and my house and see them for the fabulousness they contain. And each day passes by me as I await the shift.

From the wickedly talented recently deceased (ovarian cancer at my age) memoirist and author Amy Krause Rosenthal via her book Encyclopedia of an Ordinary Life,

“RETURNING TO LIFE AFTER BEING DEAD

When I am feeling dreary, annoyed, and generally unimpressed by life, I imagine what it would be like to come back to this world for just a day after having been dead. I imagine how sentimental I would feel about the very things I once found stupid, hateful, or mundane. Oh, there’s a light switch! I haven’t seen a light switch in so long! I didn’t realize how much I missed light switches! Oh! Oh! And look — the stairs up to our front porch are still completely cracked! Hello cracks! Let me get a good look at you. And there’s my neighbor, standing there, fantastically alive, just the same, still punctuating her sentences with “you know what I’m saying?”. Why did that bother me? It’s so… endearing.”Craving the shift on Shalavee.com

The shift is when you see the ordinary as not so much. Your perspective is skewed enough for you to appreciate the mundane, even if momentarily. And it can allow you to understand yourself and your role in the world a little more. Certainly death causes shift as does vacations. How do we go about causing a perspective change without nearly dying or paying to stay somewhere else? Have you had any perspective shifts? What did they look like?

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The Value of Doing and Seeing Things Differently

There’s a woman I’m social media friends with who has chosen to engage in a year-long project she has named her Year of Doing Things Differently. When I asked her about this concept, she said she’d seen it in a book at the library. I like this concept a lot.

I always say, “If you change nothing, nothing changes”. The phrase “doing things differently” is just another way of saying change but it sounds better somehow, more enticing. The problem is that our habits are so ingrained, they’re familiar and comfortable and we may honestly think there are no other options or ways to go about it. The Value of Doing and seeing things differently on Shalavee.com

The familiar feeling of being frustrated when I don’t achieve a certain outcome is a sure sign my expected results are at odds with my efforts. I may need to consider more options and bulldoze some of my excuses to make a change. Losing weight falls under this category.

But I’ve also discovered that our thoughts about our lives and capabilities and motivations can fall into a numbing and underwhelming pit for which I can not find an escape. In not seeing my value as an artist or citizen, I see limited or no possibilities for offering my talents to the world. Only in seeing the value of myself, do I find places where I can create and give out my gifts. I am building new value glasses right now.The Value of Doing and seeing things differently on Shalavee.com

I am shifting my understanding of who I am, where I stop, what I know, what I believe, and what I’m capable of. That is me changing my thoughts about how I fit into the world and the power I have. Doing things differently will naturally be followed by feeling differently and thinking differently. Because I’m long overdue for some new views of me and my world that I can proudly hand back to my children and my readers.

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