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There isn’t much in my life that happens that I don’t know I can learn something from. As I listen to my intuition to inform my choices, I’m developing self-trust, creating a recipe for my own happiness, and cultivating a sense of belonging in my community which I created to support myself in my self-development journey.
I happened on a blogger’s post about her son empty nesting her. Off to college he went. And she couldn’t believe how quickly the time had gone by. When I had my son, so many people wanted to warn me about the speediness of it all. A bit like the youth is wasted on the…
Why is it instilled in my brain, as in many others’, that it’s not OK to ask for help? You’re supposed to tough it out. Don’t show you don’t know. There’s all sorts of shame in that game. There have been many occasions when I needed help but didn’t ask for it. And had I…
I followed through an idea today that I want to share. Sometimes people talk about artist’s dates. Or a day-cation. The initial idea is that you need a break, even a 15 minute respite, from the slave driving critical parent that’s usually at the helm. The trick, of course, is to decide your worthy of…
(This is the last of three parts as this was too big of a story to tell in just one measly posting. Part Two is Here) On that fateful April Fool’s Saturday night, my bubble of ignorant bliss busted. I “suddenly” discovered I’d been driving illegally for a year and a half and looked for…
(This story has three parts. It was too big to tell in just one meager posting. Here’s the link to the Part One : Serenity Now.) I received my Social Security card in the mail on Thursday, April 5th and I was back at the MVA at 11:39am. Everyone else was there too. My focus…
(This story has three parts because it was too big to tell in just one post. Tomorrow night’s post.? The Beatings Will Continue Until Morale Improves and the third part What Does It All Mean?) A half hour into April fool’s Day 2012, I was being pulled over on my town’s bypass 100 yards from…
I can be a little slow on the uptake, especially in beauty and fashion stuff. My friend once told me to at least trim my eyebrows. I knew all about kohl eyeliner, henna, and stirrup pants in my twenties. But my fashion know-how expired even before my son was born. Motherhood was not just a…
The word ‘control’ seems to embody mankind’s split personality. We profess we are in control and turn around and toss it away unceremoniously. Both precious and free, we play with the word and cheapen its power. We speak of being “out of control” when it seems to me we attempt to and successfully score control…
During a recent coffee talk, my friends introduced to me to “AFGO”, a tongue in cheek abbreviation. AFGO represents your chance for another growth opportunity, plus an expletive. Another Freaking Growth Opportunity. In less than a week, I received my very own AFGO. It’s weird when someone thinks you’re something you don’t think you are….
I try not to obsess over my son’s behavior, bad or good. I spent a lot of time scrutinizing his every twitch and fart as a baby. And then one day he asked me to not call him “Baby” any more. I complied. And my husband assured me that soon enough, my little boy would…
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