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Can I Allow Myself to Make Mistakes?
Self-Discovery | Wisdom Lessons

Can I Allow Myself to Make Mistakes?

ByShalagh Hogan January 20, 2023April 29, 2024

Trying to book plane tickets to Ireland, I made a very expensive mistake. Could I allow for this or did I need to allow for a happier ending?

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Our Parents and Ourselves
Daily Shalagh | Family

Our Parents and Ourselves

ByShalagh Hogan November 20, 2020February 26, 2021

Anne Lamott said “Write as if your parents are dead.” In an attempt to save people from your truth, you censor yourself from writing about your pain. This pain has made you you and may have been caused by them. And this mutes your most important story. And now Their Shames have become yours. You…

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Now is When We Need Self-Compassion
Ahas | Wisdom Lessons

Now is When We Need Self-Compassion

ByShalagh Hogan April 27, 2020February 26, 2021

Now is when we need self-compassion.But what if I told you that self-compassion equaled feeling sorry for yourself. Boom, you’d say no, I’m not allowed to do that. I need to suck it up, do the hard things here, and put on a good face for my family. I’d get it if you told me…

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It’s Monday, Be Here Now
Ahas | Community | Daily Shalagh | Wisdom Lessons

It’s Monday, Be Here Now

ByShalagh Hogan February 18, 2019

Twitchy and his /her mate are helping themselves to the cat food outside on the back porch. I just told Crackers to go enjoy squirrel TV at the window. The heat just kicked on and the heat registers are creaking and squeaking their symphony of protest. No school and I am leisurely writing my post….

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Garden Grief
Ahas | Daily Shalagh | Wisdom Lessons

Garden Grief

ByShalagh Hogan May 1, 2017July 13, 2024

I told my husband this morning that I’m beside myself with frustration and grief from the garden shrub and tree flowering that got screwed up with our early warm spell and freeze this March. There was no umbrella of blossoms on the weeping cherry tree. There are three blooms on the wisteria. And the beautiful…

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He Gave Up On Me, So I Did Too
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He Gave Up On Me, So I Did Too

ByShalagh Hogan April 24, 2017August 19, 2024

My Dad left our house when I was little. I visited him on designated weekends. He wasn’t particularly cuddly but I was wanted. In fact, he wanted to own me. Until he gave up. And because children believe that how they are treated is what defines their worth, I wasn’t apparently worth it. So I…

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Aging Issues or My Issues With Aging
Ahas | Daily Shalagh | Midlife Motherhood

Aging Issues or My Issues With Aging

ByShalagh Hogan February 20, 2015August 26, 2024

It’s a slow insipid slide down the aging chute. And my body betrays me despite my best efforts to ignore it. I have just a few issues with getting just a bit older. I ‘d like to claim them and then just leave them where they lay here on this page and walk away. Today,…

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More Flowers and Sadness
Daily Shalagh | Pretty Pictures

More Flowers and Sadness

ByShalagh Hogan May 27, 2014March 12, 2021

After my April post on traumatic stress had diminished, I began to warm up to Spring and the hope it brings. Eventually I was convinced by May’s visual barrage of green and the loud insistent chorus of birds to accept Spring’s arrival of Hope. We’ve taken strolls and played in new sandbox sand. Powerwashed and…

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Buddy Buddy Butthead
Daily Shalagh | Essayist | Wisdom Lessons

Buddy Buddy Butthead

ByShalagh Hogan November 3, 2011March 3, 2021

At 9am on a mid-October Saturday, my husband had called me at our home in Denton from his cell phone. Neither of us recalls the reason for this call. Before the line went dead, he utters the equivalent of “Freaking cat” and probably more unheard expletives. Our cat Butthead had stowed away in the back…

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