I used to have a friend. I think of her often. And the question she used to ask when there was a moment of strain or uncertainty was, “Is it Ok?”I thought about her and this today. What was that about? Do I do it too? Because I think there’s a lot more here than meets the ear.
I absolutely believe that the outcomes of your day (and your life) will work out the way you think they will. Manifest destiny. These are the handful of outcomes I see playing out.
Outcome Number one : The day will work out well, barring any truly unforeseen circumstances that you may have to deal with.
Outcome Number two : Your day will become good or bad depending how you and your feelings interpret it. Your mood and your level of positive or negative deserved-ness will sway your feeling of your day.
Outcome Number three : Or your day will suck because your life usually sucks and you have no hope for recovery.
I used to be a number three. My first marriage was a suck-fest mostly. And then I decided that was no way to live my beautiful life. I chose to stop that relationship. I’ve lived outcome number two ever since. Hormones can throw my day under the bus. The baby’s arrival and being in the trenches for the first three months is a very difficult thing. But knowing this too shall pass is about confidence and a faith in life’s kindness. And this week I experienced 9 days in a row of number three. Where life and what I had going on pretty much was wonderful and good to me even despite the butt kicks I got. I think I may be graduating.
My story is constantly being written by me yet the question, “Is It OK?” asks for someone else to verify how the story will end. I need another’s approval to move on or decide if it’s enough or too much, good or bad. And how many of us have felt so relieved when we got validation that our goals or dreams were pretty cool? Yes recently for me. But I’ve been struggling for a while trying to make sense of what I felt and what I needed and how that worked into the wider world. So sometimes, it’s OK to ask if it’s OK? But make sure that when they poo poo an idea, that you have the wherewithal to thank them for their advice and then you go on and do it anyway. Because if it’s yours and it makes you tingle when you think about it then it’s better than OK. It’s your destiny.