High self-esteem has never been a given for me. Even having mediocre self-esteem was not guarenteed. How about you?
The untold story Is that many people are faking their confidence. You can just sense some people’s desperation and neediness more than others.
Lifting my self-esteem has been a lifelong struggle for me.
Initially, when we are littles, we have a pretty healthy idea of our worth. And then, over time, the idea of our worth is challenged and then stolen from us.
Criticized, unsupported, and unmirrored for my authentic self, I lost myself in my life’s shuffle.
But I never lost sight of the fact that I deserved to love myself. I just had no idea how to find my way back to my little self’s esteem.
Lack of self-esteem looks like dismissing any ideas or suggestions that you are great or even good at anything. That you have no worth or value except for in the things that you do or what you perceive yourself to look like.
And you’ll never be able to do enough to earn that worth.
It looks like self-sabotage, valuing others before yourself, and never thinking you are valuable to the world.
Fear and anxiety often have a heavy hand in keeping you pinned to this spot. Disallowing any information into your thoughts that might alleviate you of your perpetual understanding and shift of your None-ness.
There was one powerful way I found to overcome this dreadful feeling of low self-worth. I connected with others. Ultimately, it was my slow formed connection with mostly women online and in real life that began to erode my thoughts of unworthiness. I finally had mirrors.
As we got to know each other, shared stories, wrote letters, made art for one another, and witnessed one another, I began to see and adopt the image of myself from who they valued me to be.
And this “Peerspective” is some powerful magical stuff. Seeing yourself anew through the generous sight of others is one of the factors that raised me up from my low self-esteem. Have you experienced this as well. Please leave you any thoughts you might have.
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