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My friends and I met last night for a small check-in and chat. And we discovered that we’re all reaching a place where we want to reconnect and return to our social places and people. We miss our “others’ and who we are when we are with them. We’re ready to let go of the fear and the guarded facades that Covid had us put on.

I am also finding I want to let go of some long standing judgments I have about what’s tolerable in others. Because what irks us in others is what we are judging in ourselves. And is usually fear based. How can we judge others’ fear.

For example, I’m dubious of people who call themselves coaches because I fear I will never know enough to feel I am an authority on offering life guidance. So you can’t either. If you’re afraid you’re not a good enough parent, you may be extra judgmental of other parents. 

But how is it I judge my value as only being the shape of my body when I wouldn’t actually be so intolerant of others in this way. We don’t know what pain they are living. Apparently I am ignorant and judgmental of something going on in me. I would like to let go of my lack of compassion please. It has never served me. I want compassion to make room for myself and my humanity.

My therapist once advised me that if I was feeling out of control and twitchy, I should go clean out a drawer. Recently, I’ve been feeling the need to do something like this. Maybe it’s the seasonal cleaning I am compelled to accomplish but maybe it’s more. Perhaps I need to shed some of the weight of the things I carry around responsibility for? If everything you see somehow becomes your responsibility, then any amount of clutter can overwhelm you.

Over the last year and a half, I have let go of a lot of obligations and shoulds. With this feeling of lightness I’ve earned a greater understanding of how much energy I really do have to spend per day, week, and month. And it’s a lot less than I used to think I have. So I’m on an energy budget which means letting go of what no longer gives back. And setting those boundaries will be helpful in lowering my stress and my blood pressure.

There’s just me here taking care of me. We can help one another by asking for what we need, saying no, and allowing for others to do the same. What is it that you were sparked to say no to when you read me words?

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In an effort to fulfil our first world dream to achieve and gain, we forget and dismiss ourselves, our lovely lives and potential. In Wordsworth’s poem The World is Too Much With Us, he wrote, ”Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers; Little we see in nature that is ours; We have given our hearts away,…” Our wealth is based on our external and not internal worlds. And this is tragic. 

The recipe to our happiness is not in our chore list or at the Big Box Store waiting for us to buy. The ingredients to create our future joy are in our present. They are with the people we love, the ways that we feel the happiest, and the hopes we carry. The roots are within us wherever we are.

All I ask

is to live each moment

free from the last.”

-Crowded House-

All we have and will ever truly have is in this moment. The past can burden us with loss and regrets. And the future is a ruse, a playing of the odds. We make plans based on the assumption that we’ll get there. Yet the birdsong I hear is more tangible than either the past or the future.

In our capitalistic society we are always playing the striving game, chasing the illusion of enough, completely oblivious to the most wonderful intangible gifts that living can give us. Love, sunrises, and birdsong.

It’s not getting what you want,

It’s wanting what you’ve got.”

-Sheryl Crow-

And yes, if only we wanted all the crap packed and stacked in the boxes in our garages, attics, and basements. Our storage units are full of the obesity problem caused by our not enoughs and none of it can bring us the love and nature that we crave. That can only be found in the life we are presently living. Our lives may need a tune up and focus on what we really want in them.

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