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“Practicing the Art and Mystery of Housewifery”

We took a trip to Williamsburg, Virginia in the summer of 2012. Standing in the hot kitchen building where the cooking hearth fire had just been extinguished, the living historian explained the duties of the woman of this house in the 1700s. She oversaw all the domestic activities and practiced the art and mystery of housewifery. I asked him to repeat that. He repeated this and added, you didn’t want everyone to know all your secrets. I am, however, willing and glad to share mine here.

My definition of Housewifery encompasses mothering, housekeeping, gardening, and cooking. And includes decorating, diapering, and ridding my house of squirrels.

 

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Gardening of Your Soul

Posted by on Apr 6, 2021 in Creative Soul Living, How Does My Garden Grow, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

Gardening of Your Soul

Kneeling on a chair cushion yesterday jamming dirt under my nails as I pulled weeds from my brick walkway, I had one of those garden/life analogies. While the grass clumps came out rather easily sometimes leaving a worm suddenly homeless, the dandelions dared me to yank them. Their tap roots going deeply down between those bricks threatening to leave some of themselves behind. I have worked hard to recover myself and unwind my inner bits from my childhood traumas. I’ve been in counseling a good portion of my life and credit that for the...

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Chosen and Unchosen Changes

Posted by on Mar 30, 2021 in Ahas, Family, Homebody | 0 comments

Chosen and Unchosen Changes

I’ve noticed how I feel differently about my life as we pass the one year anniversary of the beginning of the pandemic of 2020. I feel a lot calmer. How did that happen? Because changes happened, both by choice and by time. I found myself saying no to a string of requests for my time recently. While I made this choice to say no, it has been the time I have spent not doing much of what I used to do that showed me that this is the way I really want to live. I don’t want to rush around anymore feeling overwhelmed with obligations and...

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Torn Between the Garden and the Spring Cleaning : First World Problems

Posted by on Mar 26, 2021 in Homebody, How Does My Garden Grow, Random | 0 comments

Torn Between the Garden and the Spring Cleaning : First World Problems

I can remember being very impatient with the way the seasons would take their time to move on. It seemed like an infinity to wait before Spring would arrive. I feel very differently now at twice the age. I like how long Winter takes because I don’t have as much to be responsible for while it’s cold out. But once the sun begins to shine and the windows open up, I’m screwed. Because suddenly there’s Spring cleaning to do since the beautiful new sunlight angles are showing me exactly where I’ve been missing all...

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Fighting the Scheduling

Posted by on Mar 16, 2021 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned | 4 comments

Fighting the Scheduling

I have been having an ongoing conversation with my almost 16 year old about creating a relationship with his future. He cringes because he is very happy with living in his now, thank you very much. Why would I want to take him away from all the fun he’s having now by scheduling all the boring things he’ll be made to do in the future. And then I realized, I am doing the exact same thing. I’ve been resisting scheduling stuff in my calendar. Stuff that seems to be adult stuff. I don’t want to act like a business...

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What Do You Do All Day Mommy?

Posted by on Feb 26, 2021 in Family, Homebody, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona | 0 comments

What Do You Do All Day Mommy?

She asked me this question when we were waiting in the car rider drop-off line at school. What do I do all day? I told her that I was going to exercise and that when I get home I have to do household chores and writing. And then come back and pick her up at 2:30. That’s 5 ½ hours to do as much as I can. She said that sounded like a lot, bless her heart. Because my work does not compensate me, it may seem less worthy than someone earning a paycheck in a “real” job. But what I can tell you is that you couldn’t pay me enough for the...

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Grow Where You Are Planted

Posted by on Feb 12, 2021 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned | 0 comments

Grow Where You Are Planted

After nearly a year of feeling the pinch of our collective sequestering, l’ve come to understand my ultimate importance. I maintain my family and I care for myself. The normalcy and the creativity are my realms. We all need both of these to keep our sanity. To feel that everything’s Okay in our tiny world but to also express our uniqueness. To hear and feel ourselves getting in touch with our own inner voices. That is what grounds me. Keeps me. Spurns me onward. Because this isn’t about product. This beautiful life we have a...

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Self-Care, the Next Phase

Posted by on Feb 9, 2021 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Homebody, Keeping House and Mind Aligned | 2 comments

Self-Care, the Next Phase

Self-care is a multi-layered endeavor. Brushing your teeth, taking pills, and exercising are all basic bodily care practices that when we are new mothers, seem to be more than we can manage. But eventually we get those done too. I have taken the past twenty years to really delve into taking care of my mental health. To this end, I’ve had a therapist I see regularly, I’ve scheduled procedures to take care of the aches and pains in my body that weren’t normal, and I finally asked for an anti-anxiety medicine prescription. I...

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Emerging from the New Year’s Lull

Posted by on Jan 26, 2021 in Blogging Along, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Homebody, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Emerging from the New Year’s Lull

I am considering how to emerge from the “Lull”. I’ve been working on so much behind the scenes and in my head. Caught up in the doing and not the showing and telling. Coming to terms with, acknowledging, establishing, understanding, and claiming my inner and outer worlds. I always struggle with what is important enough or necessary enough to share. I would tell you anything but where to start? Where to put your attention and my energy? The answer is somewhere, anywhere. Because if you wait until you create the perfect online plan or...

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Sharing Our Space and Our Lives

Posted by on Dec 11, 2020 in Creative Soul Living, Homebody, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

Sharing Our Space and Our Lives

I had a birthday visit from my oldest today. She’s a surrogate daughter, an adopted sister soul to our family. And she spoke of feeling that need to have a nesting partner. That next chapter where you feel the need to share your space with someone and your DNA with the world. I have always been a nester. And there was no one worthy of doing this with me until I met my husband. I knew he’d value the fathering job as much as I honored the idea of mothering. But Boy Howdee, sharing constant space with these mooks for nearly a year...

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I Will Not Ask Your Permission to Parent You

Posted by on Nov 10, 2020 in Homebody, Little Guy Lessons, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

I Will Not Ask Your Permission to Parent You

As you may know, we now have an official teenager in our home. Not the 13-year-old wanna be teen. Not the emerging effort teen. We have the full out hormones are making me weird and mindless teen. And no matter what you say, there are certain things I will not accept as normal for a teen. This is a kid who was so good I used to say he needed a day where he had permission to just be bad all day. He was polite if not thoughtful. Sure Dad, yes Mom. And then, girlfriend, lockdown, and his demands to make his own decisions about his use of “his”...

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