We had difficulty naming the first baby and we seem to be having more with the second. And the husband not wanting to know the gender of the baby has put more than just a small twist in this game.
I may have told you this but you can’t stop me anyway from telling you again.We were at our first OB visit with the good Dr. O’Bryan who’s explaining the timeline of fun stuff to come. And when he says, ”That’s when you’ll be able to find out the gender of the baby,” Mark says “We don’t want to know” at the same time I say “I figured we’d find out this time since we chose not to know with the first one”.
On the way to pick up the little boy at day camp, we debated the pro’s and cons of knowing and, not for lack of my trying, he won. Although I did warn him he’d have to show up to every sonogram appointment to make sure I didn’t cheat. And then I wouldn’t be able to keep the secret.
As I said, picking our first child’s name was a bit of a struggle. Mark liked Aiden until he found out there were dozens of them in our county born in the last few years. Aiden was out. He then conceded to my choice of Eamon. We have a leftover girl’s name we’re recycling. But we’re faced with picking another boys name. The odds are 50/50 we’ll have one of those.
As I possess one, I’m partial to Gaelic names. And after a camping trip in July, I wrote Mark an e-mail. And the name game began. In the first e-mail to my baby’s Daddy on July 30th, I said,
“I had an epiphany in front of that fire at Tuckahoe Park. And it was this name darnit. From a 1923 book entitled Irish Names and Surnames,
COLM, genitive — id. (the same), Colm, Colum, Columba; also written Colum; an old Irish name, signifying ‘dove'; made famous by St. Columcille, Apostle of Scotland, whose name signifies ‘dove of the church.’ Latin — Columba. I am really really fond of it.
Mom said she couldn’t believe we were thinking of naming a girl after an ogre. It’s all about perspective. From mine, I feel sick and I’ve had to concede to not knowing the gender after all. Love, Shalagh”
“Would gender identification in lieu of Colm interest you? Mark “
I counter with ,
” I don’t know. What are your terms?”
And he says,
” You get to know gender. I get to choose first name. You get middle name? “
And so the games began. And no, I didn’t accept his offer.
There was a stream of text messages after this. He liked Emmett. And I said that sounded kinda namby pamby. He stuck with names starting with E (so that I can be totally tied in knots when trying to call my children’s names) and offered Evan. Except, he’d forgotten, his cousin already named her kid that.
The one rule is that we can’t have any noun soundalikes as the child will already have the last name of Peach. I was still holding onto a fondness for Colm. But found out that, when pronounced correctly, it sounds like Column.
I had made it known my second favorite was Ewan. But when I read on my lovely Irish friend’s blog, she had visited her friend Niam’s house. And I suggested this name immediately. This name made us both happy. Until we find out it’s a Girl’s Name!
Moving on, I write an email to my husband in mid December which says,
“And so at 5:30 this morning, I’m looking at baby boy names. These are all Celtic. I was intrigued and amused by Ferris.” Then I listed the following names. Feilim, Fintan, Ferris, Emrys, Ambrose, Ewan, Ewen, Eoin, Neese, Culann, Niallan, and Callan.
Mark writes back,
” Well, I guess if I had to pick one of the names listed below it would be Ewan. On the one hand its not what I had hoped for. But on the other it does start with an E. On the one hand it doesn’t have a really cool meaning, which is what I was hoping for, like Eamon which is guardian. But on the other hand it does mean “born of yew” which is a bush type tree. So it would be a constant reminder of the plants out front that you love so much. So… Ewan can stay on the table. But I get to pick the middle name. “
I liked Niallan. Pronounced like Nealan. But again, sounds like the noun Kneelin’. Add Peach and not good. And then, as only an impetuous pregnant woman could, I suddenly liked Nolan. And when proposed, Nolan didn’t meet much resistance. Of course it has to be in the top 100 most popular names but I’m worn out from caring what it ranks or what it means.
Although he’s not a huge baseball fan, husband then tried adding more baseball hall of famers’ names (Brooks) for the middle name. I’d rather go with Eamon’s suggestion for the middle name. Zen. Or Avocado. Then his initials would be nap. Which is exactly what I feel like I want now.
Negotiations are still being held. And we have had a lot of fun teasing each other with this. Because in the end, we really just hope the baby is healthy and whole. Less than 7 weeks to go to know who the mystery baby is.