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Co-creating with my Family

You know that I’m all about creativity. I’ve been described as an ambassador to creativity. Putting a slice of yourself into the world is affirming in the most wonderful ways. And I also believe that community creativity is a sure fire way to join people together.Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

My family is regularly subjected to family art projects by me. In the Fall, group pumpkin carving is mandatory. We go out and pick our pumpkins and one night before Halloween, we sit at the kitchen table, draw out our jack-o-lantern faces, scoop out, and carve our pumpkins together. Then have dinner and watch a favorite scary movie with the jack-o-lanterns lit up on the bookshelf in front of us.Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

At Easter, we all dye Easter eggs together. I make sure I have the eggs cooked and we all try different techniques like tye dying and rubber bands and drippy eggs. Our fingers get dark with dyes and we chatter and say”look at this” and there is a palpable feeling of pride in creation. It makes us feel good to create and we feel good together while we do it.Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

So when I had this idea to art these plates for the garden fence wall, I thought why not involve the whole family in making the art? We chose animals and insects that we’d encountered in our backyard. I bought the right paints for ceramics. I downloaded the animal pictures. Then I cut out the animal shapes from clear sticky back shelf paper and adhered them to the plates.  The animal shapes would come out white after we’d painted them and peeled  off the shelf paper.Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.comCo-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

My son chose to paint the turtle and the firefly. My daughter painted the fox, the raccoon, the squirrel, and the rabbit. We joined together with great sincerity and intention in our now air-conditioned garage and set to work to create art. And that’s what we did. Each persons’ was different yet they were all united by a theme. And just this weekend, I finally mounted the last four as I had to go buy more plate hangers.Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Co-creating with my Family on Shalavee.com

Creating memories with my family is always an ulterior motive. But luckily my kids are creative and grab any opportunity to find themselves within whatever medium is laid in front of them, be it pumpkin, egg, or plate. And long after the kids are gone, I’m still have a piece of them in my backyard.

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Making People Do Things

Anyone notice how hard it is to “make” people do things? You know, your mother/father/sister/brother/spouse/child/friend really needs to take care of themselves by exercising more/eating less/taking responsibility for their own stuff/ditching the toxic spouse and/or calling you up to hear your amazing wisdom more often!?

What we come to find out however, is that, just like toddlers, we all feel the need to figure it all out on our own. No one needs anyone’s well meaning advice, even if we do. It’s not that our well-meaning bad choice-making loved ones don’t value us, it’s just that they are stuck where they’re stuck until they’re not and there’s not a damn thing we can do for them but wait it out patiently.

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Best advice ever given is to just lead by example. You keep to valuing your body-temple and staying aligned with your values and integrity and show the people you love what it looks like to treat yourself and your life with respect. You are the only difference you can make and the only thing you can control. And you and your loved ones will see that even if they’re too entwined in their self destruction to see it just now. It’s a matter of time.

The last clue is that when others’ lives are bugging us, it is often our way of distracting ourselves from our problems. And that in fact, the very thing that bugs you about anyone else is the one thing you may need to take care of in your life.

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Let It Be

So many things I think I should be doing. I should have a spiritual practice. I should be exercising more. I should be publishing my brilliant writing in big magazines. But most of the time, I can’t accommodate all of my shoulds. And my day turns into cleaned bathrooms, walk taken, and dinner
made. Throw a holiday in there and I don additional job hats as a fat elf and an invisible bunny rabbit. There’s no such thing as regularity. Yet somehow I keep hoping it’s possible.

Yes I could use a wife. And here comes Summer time when I suddenly become Julie your cruise director organizing all you fun Summer Family happenings and packing and planning and scheduling. But I dare say, I love it in many ways and it won’t be like this always. So I think I’m gonna let it be.

At any given point, your life is what you think it is. If you keep thinking it’s bad, it’s bad. If your think it’s a messy blessing, than that’s exactly what it is.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Let It Be Well

As I write this, it is New Year’s Adam. More visiting with relatives scheduled, German potato to make, and getting presents packed and children readied. And yet, there is a feeling of “all is well” with me. I honestly can not remember the last time I felt so calm and happy knowing that all is as it should be.let it be well on Shalavee.com

I can remember, as if a bad dream, the general feeling of unease that I needed to keep watch, to fix, to guard against, and to keep up the busyness against the doom. The anxiety pervaded every day in every way. And my Present to myself this season was to release that. I chose to just see if that was possible and to my delight, it was. I fought the stigma of treating my anxiety with medicine and said yes to help.

My Christmas was peaceful. My days were worry free as I watched my family laugh and play games. I made marvelous food and listened to my son play music and watched my daughter dance. And I marveled at how much joy there was all around me that I was so privileged to be a part of.let it be well on Shalavee.com

I heard a song this morning that I’d like to share with you because it seemed to convey the perfection of the simplicity of letting go. Rayland Baxter’s Let it all go Man. Follow the link to listen in Spotify.

https://open.spotify.com/track/7Cbz1nHuX3eDskwV566MGB

Happy New Year to you dear readers. I’ll see you next year.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Hail to the Hearth Keepers

Our home fires are both necessary and symbolic. Religious mythology include kitchen hearths and their keepers because the hearth is the place where life and family begins and ends. Heat and life begin within the womb and warmth of the family. And I have always known that my job is to tend that warm place.hail to the hearth keepers on Shalavee.com

I love making fires. I saw an Indian gentleman show the true way to make fire out of forest fodder and I swore I would do that too. What a skill to have. And then I had Fiona instead. She is our “fuego rojo”, a fiery red-headed daughter.

Although our actual fireplaces were long ago rendered obsolete, we bought a gas insert for our living room hearth 15 year ago. I tend that fireplace with a once a year blow out of the dust from the pilot light and relight it to begin our fall season.hail to the hearth keepers on Shalavee.com

My truest joy is how my kids enjoy huddling next to it on the cold days. They ask to light it before school. And pull pillows up to warm themselves. That is the memory I want for them of their home life here. That coziness and kept feeling of home. If they take that with them then I have done my job as the hearth keeper.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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