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When Being at Home Can Happen Anywhere

My daily prayer is for a shift. Please let my mind shift to see me and my world and my potential differently today. To value what I have and what I know with respect and reverence. I leave the house hoping to break my “same brain”. And I do for a little while driving or shopping. And then I return home and I feel the inevitable slip back into my rut.

In the light of the upcoming birthday party and having guests over, I am doing some home renovations. Throw a party and you’ll make progress. My hallway is getting a long overdue facelift. 2 gallons and two quarts of paint later, the hallway is completely different. And while I am feeling thrilled and empowered with this change, I also have simultaneously discovered the home and safe passage I am looking for is nowhere I can physically touch. The home I truly seek is within me.When being at home can happen anywhere on Shalavee.com

Whether in my heart or in my soul, the safety and comfort I’m seeking is inside of me. It’s the comfort of a place where I can trust being me. It is the safety of knowing that I will not allow anyone to mistreat or disrespect me here. Trust in myself is like the biggest most comfortable couch to lounge on. You either own it or you don’t.

Although I do think the change in my abode will do me a world of good, the courage for the change is coming from a change inside of me. 12 years ago I renovated a house down the street and made it my shop. I boldly painted the floor there and loved it. Today I took the chance again and painted the floor of my home and I love it again. Go figure.When being at home can happen anywhere on Shalavee.com

I had to toss out some of the same fears that I always had about painting wooden floors and just had to do it to make me happy. I am certain that, in this same way, I need to just plow over some of my fears about success that keep me stuck. The fears need to be renovated or tossed because they have kept me staring at the same ugly uncomfortable couch for far too long. I’d rather sit on the floor with some nice throw pillows than feel the burden and dread of that same old seat on that smelly old fear couch. What would you do to be your own hero today?

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Hallway Renovation Update

I notice that sometimes there are items that will sit on my to-do list for an uncomfortably long time, taunting me with their incompletion. The reasons why they are not being accomplished had evaded me. But they linger like a pain deep in my hip saying there’s something worth an x-ray going on in there. And this hallway renovation had become “one of those things”.

I recognized the hold up sometime ago when I wrote about the stalled renovations in this post titled Weird Spaces and a Plan and what I realized it meant in the bigger picture. I had yet to see myself as my future self. I was stuck in a purgatory between who I used to be and who I’d yet to decide I’d become. And so the hallway sat, halfway undecorated, dark, and a victim to whatever fell there. Until I began to decide to stand for what I am already. When I decided to be me again. And I bought this beautiful kilim rug.Hallway update on Shalavee.com

I hadn’t spent any money on anything new for the house, other than appliances, in a very very long time. But I suddenly became obsessed with the idea that I wanted a kilim rug and that once I had the rug of my dreams, everything else would fall into place. True and truth.

Once the rug was in place, I felt hopeful. And then I began to plan my daughter’s birthday party. And I had to renovate something because, as we all know, parties are really just an excuse to renovate. So I scheduled the hallway painting for this week. Which meant, working backwards, I had to buy the paint beforehand. And this meant, I had to choose the paint colors. So one morning a couple weeks ago, I sat down on the rug in the sunshine and I picked out all the colors.

But it wasn’t until yesterday standing on the ladder with a roller in my hand, that it hit me. This hall was being completely transformed in one week’s time and this had taken me ten years to give myself permission to do. Yes there had been a question of how to “deal” with the bas relief diamonds I had so cleverly adhered to the walls 15 years ago. And then the other day I realized I just needed to spackle over them. Duh. So queen of the spackle bucket went and bought a $20 bucket of spackle, which seems to have gotten way heavier in ten years, and in one day the walls were ready.Hallway update on Shalavee.com

We are not ready until we are ready. The lesson isn’t about time restraints or monetary resources. The lesson is about being ready and being patient until you are. I can’t say I have all the details hammered out yet. Because sometimes we need to be in process to decide and sometimes we need to live with stuff before we can make a decision. And of course, I may also need to change my mind about any of the redecoration choices I have made. The point is, you will start when you are ready and finish when you are done. And allowing that to be the truth will save you many years of judgement on yourself and others.

It is what it is until it isn’t anymore.

Here’s to having most of it completed when the birthday party happens in a month!

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The Big Tree With a Lesson

If you have read my blog for a year at least, you may remember that I decorate the 15 foot tree at the Unitarian Universalist church we attend in Easton, Maryland. This year I added a new element or two which brought a little different texture to the tree’s design.

The bigger tree on Shalavee.com

The bigger tree on Shalavee.com

The big tree on Shalavee.com

The amazing paper snowflakes are courtesy of the talent of Nancy Sawyer. And the embroidery hoops hold fabric from an beloved and ill fated tablecloth. See the backstory post here and know that this eureka of recycling absolved me and my heartbreak.

The bigger tree on Shalavee.com

As I was standing there festooning the tree with a few of my favorite helpers, it dawned on me that like all the ornaments on this tree, each of us is unique and homemade in our own way. And like the re-purposed materials I used, we are made of the recycled experiences of our family and our own lives. It seemed a simple and yet profound concept. The bigger tree on Shalavee.com

 

Merry Christmas to One and All ! I hope you all find a single moment to know your life is filled with magic and blessings!

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Christmas 2016 is Decorated

When asked why I hadn’t gone to any effort to wear an ugly sweater to our neighbor’s party, I answered, this is not my realm of effort. I use every drop of my holiday creativity to decorate my tree. My tree is for me and it kicks everyone else’s tree’s butt. Plus at my age, you don’t want to waste an opportunity to look good at a party. Please.xmas tree 2016 on shalavee.com

I usually don’t like to start decorating too early, as in right after Thanksgiving. Because, if I only have a month’s worth of joy for holiday decorations, I want to make sure it extends into the New Year a little. So we collected our tree on December 10th. Got to see our friend Sue too.

The tree took three days to decorate. One session to light with nearly a 1000 lights. One to swag and swath in mesh and ribbons. And one day to put the ornaments on. Because that’s how I Christmas tree decorate. Christmas 2016 is Decorated on shalavee.com

Christmas 2016 is Decorated on shalavee.com

Christmas 2016 is Decorated on shalavee.com

Although the tree got done, the other places in need of styling remained unsatisfactory. And then my inspiration dried up. I lost my mojo, my creative momentum. Until finally, yesterday, I finished up the job. Sheww. Christmas 2016 is Decorated on shalavee.com

Christmas 2016 is Decorated on shalavee.com

I want to have fun every year decorating. And the fine line is between having it be fun and having it be a chore. Between doing it for me or for a greater audience. I watch myself very carefully and I can say that I did well this year. When I was done, I was done.

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Great Gatsby Garden Party

This past Saturday at the end of May, I gifted my services to decorate for our friends Paul and Peggy’s Great Gatsby Garden Party. I luckily was also an attendee so I enjoyed spending most of my day in their lovely garden. under the rose arbor on Shalavee.com

Mark and Shalagh at the garden party on Shalavee.com

Gatsby garden party on Shalavee.com

As I take my party decorations very seriously, in planning my decorations I went right to Pinterest and trolled around for ideas for this theme. The black and white and sparkle was definitely a nod to the Deco era and black tie fanciness but I also knew that this was a garden party and we needed some soft and elegant to balance the glitz.

decorations for the Gatsby party on shalavee.com

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A side table croquet court side was peopled with a flask, a fan, and flowers. And we chose to lay blankets and pillows on the ground for a lay-about feeling. The host organized a horse race game from 1930 which was equally entertaining with our friends as horses.

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Dress dummy and mirror for the garden party at shalavee.com

I used a dress dummy and full length mirror as a vignette in the corner of the garden.

Draped rose arbor for the garden party on shalavee.com

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The rose arbor was the food area and I felt it necessary to visually soften the supports by draping them and then I added a sisal rug to the patio for the indoors outside feeling.

I ordered a lot of flowers, “Ascot” roses, calla lilies, green button mums, and snapdragons to make arrangements for the food and bar tables. The florals turned out way better than I had hoped.

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bar table for the Gatsby Garden party at shalavee.com

Garden party food on shalavee.com

When we arrived, the host and hostess had us all open envelopes with secret identities of famous people of the 20’s in them.  I was Georgia O’Keefe. Why not Dorothy Parker I wondered. Thanks be I wasn’t Zelda. secret identity gatsby party on shalavee.com

The hostess and friends at the garden p-arty on Shalavee.com

Florals and lemonade on Shalavee.com

Blush champagne and sparkling pink lemonade, mini quiches, smoked salmon deviled eggs, and lemon bunt cake were all served with flair and care. The day was a little hot but we all chatted in the shady spots and the whole occasion was jolly and lovely. Cheers to a garden party effort well done by the host and hostess Paul and Peggy, and the supporting cast.

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