search
top

Accepting Who We Are

I have reached a new place here at 52 where I want to understand who I am. It occurs to me that I have judged myself by who I am not. Compared myself to bars constructed at heights I saw others reaching. And that is always a half full place to occupy. Instead I want it to be easier. I want to want to be me in the place where I am right now today. And that requires an understanding of who me is.

Science is revealing that our family’s history of trauma may be embedded in our DNA if not just our understanding of the trauma we’ve known and had passed down. We also are told that people are born homosexual, its not a choice always. There are many choices and yet more givens than I think I understood. The world is starting to ask we accept just what is.

Accepting Who we Are on Shalavee.com

Coming to a place of acceptance, compassion, and understanding of ourselves is the only true gift we can give our fellow beings. How can we hand these gifts to others if we don’t have them within ourselves first? What I am beginning to understand is the way I convey and treat myself is the way the world will treat me.

I accept that I am completely gray. I will keep dying my hair all the same.

I accept that I tell you like it is. I will always be kind about it though.

I accept that I may have anxiety embedded in my DNA too. I will continue to take this medicine that made a world of difference and broke me through to the other side for long needed perspective.

I accept that my low self-esteem has kept me small and scared for a long time but I refuse to let that be my life story.

Telling ourselves the truth and seeing ourselves for the fallible human beings we are is one step closer to accepting ourselves. And when we accept ourselves, we belong to ourselves. And everyone wants just this. To be home in their own bodies is to start from home base and go out from there to tag others with our acceptance. To spread our gifts of understanding and compassion and acceptance costs nothing and starts in the ways we treat ourselves today.

Love to you ! And you! And you!

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

A Hard Time Requires Our Humanity

This is hard time for some to live. Embracing all the sadness and shame of our fellow men and our sister women, we would drown if we stayed in some places too long. We could dip into despair for the helpless feeling we empathize ourselves into.A Hard Time Requires Our Humanity on Shalavee.com

We can only do what we can do. And can only know what we can do if we try. We can feel proud of us for the efforts we do make with the limitations we have. We aren’t enlightened or rich but we are compassionate and dear. Well meaning counts tons.

When she’s struggling with depression and anxiety, let that person know that you’ve been there too. Listen to her and know that place again. There is no shame in not being in control. And knowing our limitations will set us free. Acknowledging our humanity will allow us to be human.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Action Brings Courage

In a recent perusal of my favorite inspirational bloggers and speakers, I rediscovered and owned that my chosen method to accommodate my fears is to procrastinate. Ah yes. However,when I do this, I end up feeling ashamed that I am not getting on with making my purpose a reality and a shame storm repeats itself. More reading brought me this simple nugget of wisdom: Action brings Courage. 

Take any action towards the perceived goal and suddenly, it all feels better. The antidote to hopelessness and unworthiness is action. It immediately resets everything. The action says that you are not in fact stuck but in motion! And you feel suddenly relieved of the previous definition you had of you being lazy and unworthy.Action brings courage on Shalavee.com

The trick is to figure out how it is that you can keep yourself choosing this action which propels you a bit further and a bit further. I find talking about it gets me going. Handing over my intentions to other people becomes a form of accountability. They heard me say it so I now probably should do something about it. The idea of an action list with steps broken down and actually scheduled into your calendar is also a very crafty to outwit yourself.

But in the end, I suppose you should make double-decker sure that the thing you think you want is actually for you and not for someone else. And then just have compassion for yourself for putting it off. And start again. That is the current story of several different areas of my life which I will be sharing soon.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Forgiving the Stuck

Ah the stuck. It smells of mildew and shame. It’s the place that you dread being when things need to happen. It’s the place you don’t want to admit to being, especially when everybody knows you just need to do “this” and “that” and it will all be done. Over it. Moving on. But here you are, still stuck, feeling bad, and generally sad.

Oh I know I look super busy and productive to you making all these things happen and those things shiny and feeding my kids. But honestly, there’s always that thing that you can’t see that I really have intended, meaning to get to. And all the things were just a way of avoiding that one thing.

Call it Self-sabotage or procrastination, it’s just fear. I fear that I can’t do the other things when I get there. I won’t be in the right place. I will be in the right place and it won’t be hard anymore and that will be hard. Whatever the reason I am here in the Stuck, forgiveness is the way out.Forgiving the Stuck on Shalavee.com

You be my witness dear reader as I shower myself with compassion. I am sorry that you feel you let yourself down Shalagh. You are stronger than you think. I am sorry that you have held yourself hostage to a daily dose of “Bad Dog”. You do so many other great things, it’s sad that you get judged for this one failing. I’m sorry you are scared of your future because from where I stand, if you keep doing what you are doing and following your intuition and your heart, you will only experience joy when you get there. I’m sorry that you are afraid of just being you. I think you are pretty great without ever doing a thing.

 

Much Love to you,

Shalagh

 

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Let Joy and Glee Rule

You can start over at anytime. I say this and I believe it yet there are layers to every awakening and restarting. And today I’ve, discovered another layer.

In order to move onward, I am in a perpetual state of revisiting and re-asking myself the same questions. What makes me happiest? Where is my joy and my glee? What makes me think that life isn’t supposed to have joy and glee ruling my decisions?Joy and glee on Shalavee.com

When we ask our inner selves questions like these instead of bullying ourselves by telling ourselves what we think we should do, we open up to a different place and process. When we neutralize the judgments we may keep heaping on ourselves and take a moment to ask if they are true, we may discover our truer selves. What am I fighting and frightened of by issuing these shoulds?

And then, do what you feel is counter intuitive and forgive yourself for being mean and start over with compassionate queries of what will bring bliss. Help yourself to the permission to choose again what is for you. What you could become and wait for the whispers of gratitude from your soul.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

« Previous Entries Next Entries »

top