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The World Could Be Healed By a Weighty Blanket of Compassion

You’ve heard it over and over. The antidote to our toxic self-hatred and judgment is compassion. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We agree but somehow that doesn’t seem to fit with how we feel and treat ourselves on a daily basis. We count on our driving ourselves hard to make progress, to make money, and to make our lives worth it. Compassion is not productive.

I’m in my therapy appointment today and it occurs to me and my therapist that perhaps I am still judging my teen self for some things. And where I may have forgiven my parents or you for doing your substandard best, I may still be holding myself in a vice for some choices. And frankly, I don’t want to hold myself prisoner anymore. I want to be allowed to be human.The World Could Be Healed By a Weighty Blanket of Compassion on Shalavee.com

The one and ONLY way to counteract self-hate, and that oogy sub-human feeling we bathe in consistently and unconsciously, is self-compassion. Instead, we only gently need to say I am sorry that that happened. I know you must have been doing the very best you could. I’m sorry I couldn’t protect you from that. That must have sucked. I forgive your humanity. I forgive you.

Try it sometime. Heap a weighty blanket of compassion on yourself and everyone. Break the spell and be what the world needs you to be, Human.

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The Lesson I Relearn : It Takes as Long as It Takes

I am ecstatic to report that I have made such immense strides lately. I saw my therapist yesterday and I had so much progress to report, I was almost surprised for all I had to tell her. And I talked so non-nonchalantly; no big deal. But let me tell you, this progress is a very big deal.

I can remember often holding myself emotionally hostage, frustrated because I wasn’t further along than I was. How come that person seems so far along in their journey? They apparently have figured out how to move beyond their fear so why can’t I ?

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But those thoughts are crap and here’s why. Their progress and mine are apples and oranges. Most likely, their origin stories and mine are nothing alike. And the more I do this comparison crap to myself, the more I guarantee that I will stay exactly where I am.

In order to move from where you are,

You have to allow yourself to be

exactly where you are.

Forgiveness and compassion are the only ways that you will move from where you are. Shame will keep you cemented interminably in this spot and you are doomed to repeat the crappy feeling cycle like some sort of living purgatory.

I sat back and watched myself for a while. I gave myself compassion as I had the strength and wisdom to give. And then, I made one change, did one thing that I needed to do to move on. Started one habit, reached out to one person, gave up one ultimatum and moved on from where I was stuck.

And it’s feeling really really good. Stay tuned for more updates on the progress.

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Evolution Revolution : Using Our Brains Differently

Whether you know it or not, there’s an evolution revolution currently occurring. We are being asked to raise our consciousnesses and consider how we treat ourselves. We can move from reactive living to proactive living if we use our brains differently.

All the buzz about mindfulness isn’t bunk and here’s why. We have two different parts of our brains that we use. There’s the back brain and the front brain. The back brain is the primitive brain that works on autopilot and is responsible for fear. It says it’s keeping us safe but actually would keep us from evolving if it had its way.

The front brain is the place where we make intelligent decisions. It’s our proactive place, our “I’ve got this” place, and we’re woefully under-utilizing it. In fact, we don’t trust it, and consequently ourselves. The need to connect with ourselves has brought on an onslaught of self-healing practices of which meditation is truly the best bet on self-connection.

When we sit and allow ourselves to be instead of do, we come to understand what we can and cannot control and who we are and aren’t. We connect with ourselves and a higher power to simplify life and magnify what it is that is truly important. In order to make a difference and help our world, we need to be humble enough to know that trying is all we can do but we must try. And we must have compassion for ourselves when we fail. And try again.

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In order to change the world in a fearlessly all in kinda way, we’re going to have to act more from the front brain mode. We’re going to have to figure out how to raise a generation that isn’t constantly apologizing for itself. That knows what stellar treatment it’s entitled to. We are going to have to intentionally improve our souls to pass the betterment on to the next generation. So that they may feel entitled to evolve out of Fear and into Love.

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Accepting Who We Are

I have reached a new place here at 52 where I want to understand who I am. It occurs to me that I have judged myself by who I am not. Compared myself to bars constructed at heights I saw others reaching. And that is always a half full place to occupy. Instead I want it to be easier. I want to want to be me in the place where I am right now today. And that requires an understanding of who me is.

Science is revealing that our family’s history of trauma may be embedded in our DNA if not just our understanding of the trauma we’ve known and had passed down. We also are told that people are born homosexual, its not a choice always. There are many choices and yet more givens than I think I understood. The world is starting to ask we accept just what is.

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Coming to a place of acceptance, compassion, and understanding of ourselves is the only true gift we can give our fellow beings. How can we hand these gifts to others if we don’t have them within ourselves first? What I am beginning to understand is the way I convey and treat myself is the way the world will treat me.

I accept that I am completely gray. I will keep dying my hair all the same.

I accept that I tell you like it is. I will always be kind about it though.

I accept that I may have anxiety embedded in my DNA too. I will continue to take this medicine that made a world of difference and broke me through to the other side for long needed perspective.

I accept that my low self-esteem has kept me small and scared for a long time but I refuse to let that be my life story.

Telling ourselves the truth and seeing ourselves for the fallible human beings we are is one step closer to accepting ourselves. And when we accept ourselves, we belong to ourselves. And everyone wants just this. To be home in their own bodies is to start from home base and go out from there to tag others with our acceptance. To spread our gifts of understanding and compassion and acceptance costs nothing and starts in the ways we treat ourselves today.

Love to you ! And you! And you!

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A Hard Time Requires Our Humanity

This is hard time for some to live. Embracing all the sadness and shame of our fellow men and our sister women, we would drown if we stayed in some places too long. We could dip into despair for the helpless feeling we empathize ourselves into.A Hard Time Requires Our Humanity on Shalavee.com

We can only do what we can do. And can only know what we can do if we try. We can feel proud of us for the efforts we do make with the limitations we have. We aren’t enlightened or rich but we are compassionate and dear. Well meaning counts tons.

When she’s struggling with depression and anxiety, let that person know that you’ve been there too. Listen to her and know that place again. There is no shame in not being in control. And knowing our limitations will set us free. Acknowledging our humanity will allow us to be human.

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