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How We Learn to Be More Self Aware

I often say, “The reason that teachers know their subject so well is because they’ve taken classes in the same subject and reviewed the material over and over until it’s drilled into their heads. By the end of their educational careers, soon to be teachers will have had four or five years of concentrated studying of their specific subject. Can we learn to be self-aware in the same way?

I began to think about what this meant when applied to the work of self-actualization and self-development. I have been studying concepts on raising self-esteem and being mindful and creating self-trust for a long long time. I think you have to be exposed to something for a long long time, over and over, especially something that is so personal to your perceived survival, until it starts to make the truest sense to you.

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This can take the form of classes or books, but I realized that it has been real people that have influenced my awareness shift mostly. People who I may have never met but whose words clonk me over the head with their truth. Many of these amazing people I’ve found on Instagram. Like Anna Lovind. Or at the library. And my therapist who is a third party neutral, giving it to me straight without a stake in my game so I know it to be true. And as you begin to steer your thoughts toward the place that you know is better for you, safer and less anxious, you surprise yourself with the ideas and better conclusions you come up with.

The self-awareness that you’re having these happy positive thoughts about yourself is what raises your conscious level and your esteem by understanding and acknowledging your choice to change. And change feeds back to your thoughts about yourself in a happy feedback loop. Change first only asks that you be aware it’s possible.

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Permission to Be A Changed You

I was reminded of, or perhaps gifted, a thought today by a wise online connection, Anna Lovind. She said, “I am the person who is allowed to change. I don’t owe anyone consistency. I don’t need to be faithful to what I used to be (unless I want to).”

We owe no one, not even ourselves any explanations of who we are and what we are choosing and how we are acting and how we are changing. Change is hard enough as it is without throwing it on the mercy of the acceptance of others. Being human means we can decide to be someone different everyday we wake.

I just thought you may be able to use this permission this week. Some of us have tough inner critics. Some of us have tough outer critics as well.

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Our Inspiration Makes Us as It Renovates Us

Much that I have seen and read has disappeared from my memory. And still other books have affected me in glorious ways, although I can’t quote passages from these books. Sometimes what we are reading and listening to may not seem to be life-changing , but slight shifts within us can shade the way we progress from thereon.

Last year I read Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic and Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly. But had an immense impact on what I thought about my creativity and my need to risk the outcome of this creativism. But it wasn’t until I started to practice what I had read that it truly came full circle.Our Inspiration Makes Us as It Renovates Us on Shalavee.com

Sometimes thoughts need to percolate. This can be at odds with a culture that has an all or nothing, now or never mentality. But we continue to forget that life isn’t a result but a process. And the self-development process takes as long a it takes. Especially when we start at a deficit of knowledge or confidence to begin with.

Every ‘next’ level of your life will demand

a different version of you.”

–Shaleah Dawnyel–

And I am also in awe at the concept that the more valuable ideas( like the one Brene Brown introduced on vulnerability) are circulated and percolate in our collective minds, the more we all start to shift toward a greater understanding of our collective wellness.Our Inspiration Makes Us as It Renovates Us on Shalavee.com

I owe so much of my thoughts that led to so many of my shifts to the big and small thoughts put out by writers, bloggers, and acquaintances online through posts and newsletters. Small bits and ahas filter through our resistances. And we grow each time we make the creative connections between these thoughts. As one of these acquaintances, Shaleah Dawnyel, put it, “Every ‘next’ level of your life will demand a different version of you.” We are never the same person at the end of the day that we started as. And that’s as it should be. We individually are works of art in progress.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Every ‘next’ level of your life will demand

a different version of you.”

The Year of Doing

This year was about doing. Saying I can because I did. And if I did, what else could I do? Because all the talking in the world doesn’t get it done.

You can certainly plan out your steps. In fact that’s a great way to prepare to get it done. Pro-activity is always a plus. But getting it done turns out to be just you taking the time to do the work.

My fear threatened to take me off the right track on these occasions when I went in for the work kill. There was a chorus of cants. I would just let them blow by me like the hot air that they were. Step away and set the time to return. And then I returned.The Year of Doing on Shalavee.com

There’s power in making your intentions into actions. As I pondered all of this here, I noted there’s power even in the tiniest tasks.

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face, you are able to say to yourself, I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

This is an amazing realization to know you have the power to change your whole outlook by mastering something and proving you can. I am pleased to have learned it and perhaps a little scared that I will never ever be able to say I can’t again. So I guess I’ll just have to keep seeing that I Can.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Choose to Not Choose is Still a Choice

She rather vehemently insisted that there are no choices. Thank you very little, she understands the concept of “everything is a choice”, just not for her. She’s resigned to that comfortable hell of nothing changes because perhaps it is too overwhelming to consider those other choices. To allow for change would be to admit that had always been a choice perhaps? The march of the musts is way more familiar. And maybe familiar trumps joy? At some cellular level, joy is just another hell. It is painfully unfamiliar. Why want something that we’d have to take on faith that it even exists?Choose to Not Choose is Still a Choice on Shalavee.com

This is why dear friend. Because every inner child longs for joy, knows they are entitled by birthright to it, and believes that it is all it’s cracked up to be. And there isn’t any child that is more unworthy of joy than another. No baby ever sinned to deserve a life of self-abandonment and torment.

So the choice is yours to not choose. But when you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.And if what you’re doing isn’t working, try something else less painful. Your child inside is waiting for you to change your mind.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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