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100 Day Challenge and a Spring Soul Selfie Challenge

Back on March 16th, 2018, I announced that I would be participating in this year’s 100 Day Challenge. Because it seemed I’d already done that last Summer thinking the entire time that I’d never be able to commit to anything for that long. The 100 Day Project starts tomorrow on April 3rd and you are all welcome to join this global creativity project with me.

When we commit to our creativity, we commit to being our authentic selves. We build self-trust and end up feeling more involved with a community of like-minded people that at any other time, provided we are sharing our process. It’s been a while and it’s time.

The same goes for my Soul Selfie Challenges. There’s a group of super spectacular awesome women who join in this challenge with me. We explore deeper subjects of self for a week through pre-chosen prompts. This was my blog post wrap-up from last Fall’s Soul Selfie Challenge. We always have such an intense and wonderful time when we join together and bear our old souls.Self-Recovery For the Ones You Love on Shalavee.com

I’d like to announce the dates for the Spring of 2018 Soul Selfie Challenge as April 9th through April 13th. A mere five days of being truthful can clear away some spiritual cobwebs. Definitely consider joining me.

 

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Give Yourself the Credibility for the Courage You’ve Already Shown

It took me exactly 51 years and 179 days to have the courage to get here. There’s much that I will not remember about this half century I’ve lived. And there’s much that I could remember if I put my mind to thinking about it. But I think the greatest tragedy is the disrespect we can show ourselves as we forget ourselves. As we underplay our achievements.

When we invalidate ourselves by blowing off a compliment or comparing how we feel about ourselves compared to what we perceive someone else is/has/has done, we commit such a crime against our own humanity. We invalidate our own existence.Give Yourself the Credibility for the Courage You've Already Shown on shalavee.com

We invalidate our own existence.

But what of all the people who benefited from our actions and our presence? Like in It’s a Wonderful Life, were we to take ourselves out of the equation and nullify our actions, we’d most likely cause irreparable harm to those people whose lives we’ve touched.

It takes tremendous courage to be us everyday. It takes courage to get married, get divorced, have children, and endeavor anything. We make creative risks daily whether they’re what we cook for dinner or what jobs/tasks we take on outside our homes, we are using courage we apparently undervalue.Give Yourself the Credibility for the Courage You've Already Shown on shalavee.com

Yesterday I remembered a challenge I’d hosted that I’d forgotten from a year and a half ago. I am re-losing the weight that I’ve lost before. I’m full of so much more talent and experience than I ever give myself credit for. And while I’m not going to rewrite my resume today, I’m going to be extra mindful about what I tell myself I don’t have the courage for and can’t do. Because after a half a century plus, I think there’s a lot I can in fact do and do well.

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Hide and Seek : The Invisible Woman

The process of valuing myself and what I have to offer the world all comes down to visibility and on choosing whether to be seen or whether to stay the invisible woman. Fear of unspoken imagined horrors like public ostracization will keep us from coming out and being our truest selves. We’ll put on “I’m fine” shows for our perceived audience while all the while hoping no one gets wind that we are anything but fine. I am so guilty of that.

I’ve written many times about how I felt I was invisible. I couldn’t see myself in a mirror because I had no value. And then I came into the public eye online. And as much as you’d think I’d think myself so so visible now with Twitter and Instagram accounts and two Facebook pages plus a blog, I still manage to stay hidden.Hide and Seek : The Invisible Woman on Shalavee.com

I maintain my own status quo. I write three posts a week which may or may not be read. And I show up on Instagram everyday and repost that to Facebook, but I am still very hidden. Crazy considering the content I share is very deep right?

But I am holding myself back from risking more rejection to gather more readers. I do not care for playing the numbers and counting my followership. I care about providing real people with the real truth I have to give and hope that it will be of help to them. But if I do not reach outside my comfort zone and risk to write for a bigger audience, I am stifling my reach and my writing. I am choosing to stay invisible. And I think my message and many other messages in the world are worth receiving.

So, as with many of the moments when I find that what I am doing is no longer serving me but feel stuck against changing them, I am going to make myself a challenge here. A hundred days of visibility challenge. Yes, I’ll post for a hundred days in row on my Shalavee.com Facebook page about the stuff I’m doing to be more visible or tell the public telling things about myself. I will risk. And I’ll do it daily. I honestly didn’t think of doing this until I began writing this post so WOW. We’ll see what this does for me. I will start my challenge today so if you are on Facebook, I encourage you to find my Shalavee.com Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/ShalaghblogsatShalavee/ .Hide and Seek : The Invisible Woman on Shalavee.com 

How does one be more visible you ask? Instead of doing constantly for others,you choose to do things for you and for the greater good and you own those self goals out loud. You ask for help for yourself claiming your worthiness in your community. You tell people about feeling scared or vulnerable. You show your imperfections. You apologize for your mistakes. Be truthful and see how quickly you are freed from your fearful bonds of the “what ifs”. You see yourself as being there for yourself and reliable and trustworthy to have your valuable needs met.

And you risk rejection in the places that mean the most to you if you win.

So here’s to not being the invisible woman anymore. Here’s to being read and celebrated and supported for my talent. Here’s to no longer fearing just being myself.

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The Fall Soul Selfie Challenge of 2017 Wrap-Up

For two years, in both the Spring and Fall, I’ve hosted this Soul Selfie Challenge. I thought up the #Soul_Selfie hashtag the Winter of 2015 wanting to name the kinds of posts I was compelled to write. And then I realized I needed to search out other people who felt the same compulsion to discover themselves as I did. I knew I needed company in my self-discovery journey. Already an established and happy Instagram user, the Soul Selfie Challenge was born. A week-long prompt using challenge, it’s an opportunity to dig a little deeper and discover what you truly feel about your life, yourself, and your relationship with the words. Read this round’s intro post here.Change for Souls Selfie Challenge 2017 on Shalavee.com

They say you should go and create the very things that you wish to be a part of. And this outpouring of self-discovery is exactly where I feel most alive. Just have a look at my blog and you’ll get me. But I also truly need community to do this journeying with. I’ve been alone for so long inside my head all the while I’m thinking, “It would be nice to connect with others on these soul-searching subjects.” And that is exactly what I got when I created this challenge, and then some.

You get people mirroring back to you what you’ve said and then they add a bit you never thought of which makes you go “Aha”. You take the risks to be a little more vulnerable and you gain confidence when it doesn’t actually blow up in your face and people say they feel that way too and you’re not alone. Gosh that connected feeling is good because that connection is what humanity is hardwired to do.

 

And then there’s the healing power. I have witnessed some amazing things happen through the power of the honesty of this challenge. People moving themselves onward because this challenge came at the exact time they needed to do just this. To step out of their closets and claim something out loud to facilitate their healing. Wow! If I can facilitate a healing moment of any sort for anyone, I’m there doing that.

Choice for Souls Selfie Challenge 2017 on Shalavee.com

And lastly, as we heal ourselves, we become more able to help heal the world. No doubt that on the day of the Women’s March all around the world, many were awakened to the fact that they felt isolated and it didn’t have to be that way. I had a eureka feeling yesterday where I knew I was safe and powerful within my community of women both online and off. It’s a girl club I never felt I was in before. And I like it very much. It is helping to heal me. My gratitude will be the fuel to pay it forward. And these challenges are but one way I’m doing that.

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What Came From The True Self Prompt on My Soul Selfie Challenge

This week I’m in the midst of hosting my fourth Soul Selfie Challenge meant to spur and spark people to dig a little deeper and do some self-inquiry on what they believe about themselves or their lives or life in general. It’s about inner snapshots, not outer ones. We are looking to engage with each other and show a little of our true self.

One of the hardest jobs hosting an Instagram challenge is to come up with prompt words that will inspire thoughtful responses. And where I have picked more specific words in the past that give clear images to the participants, I was a little more vague this second Fall challenge. But the results have been truly inspirational. What Came From The True Self Prompt on My Soul Selfie Challenge on Shalavee.com

The words we’ve covered so far are Balance, True Self , and Choice. And boy howdy, have we got loads of spark thoughts to load into our brains! I was most intrigued by what I thought on the prompt True Self. That perhaps defining this would be of help. This is what I said,

Hmm. Who do I think I am?

Perhaps my true self is the person I think I am. Or is it the person I strive to be? Or perhaps she’s the gal I am under the layers of crap I’m attempting to strip off? Layers of me that I have no use for.

Underneath, I sense the girl I was when I was little, the forgotten one. Maybe my true self is her with some hard-earned wisdom layered on top.

But in the end, I suspect my true self is exactly who I am at this very moment. A girl with a passion for community, an unfailing sense of fairness, an insatiable search for truth, and a compulsion to create. Ever-changing, in search of answers, … Hi . “

And the same day, as I am reading a book by Rhonda Britten (still) called Change Your Life in 30 Days (or however long it takes to read the book), in a chapter on how the words you choose have such power over how you feel about you and your life, I read this :

Your true self isn’t afraid. Your true self wouldn’t put you down. Your true self doesn’t think money is the answer. Your true self isn’t interested in how much time you do or do not have. Your true self makes choices. Your true self understands. Your true self includes others and wants to connect more than anything. Your true self empowers. Your true self relaxes, enjoys herself, and has fun. Be willing to be your true self.”

I am momentarily struck by the truth in this. I am transfixed by the power of words that ring true. I aspire to be more of that person. And I adore all the truth that is pouring out from an ever-growing community of truth seekers through this challenge. This is what I live for.

 

If you are on Instagram, search the hashtag #Soul_Selfie and read a few of these posts. People can in fact be real. It doesn’t have to be a world of fake-o happy flat lays. Pretty pictures are marvelous and I want some meaty brain food to chew on while I look at them. Thanks to all the participants and to the newer ones too! Wow and Gosh! Because self-development is what all the cool kids are doing!

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your email box. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest  too. I am always practicing Intentional In-touchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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