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What Do You and I Expect From Shalavee in 2020

I’ve been keeping this on the down low but there’s really no going back so I might as well share it with you. The blog is actually (for reals) getting revamped. And I can not tell you how stuck and petrified I am.

See at 53, I am no longer eager and naive. I have been writing this blog for near 8 years and still have never had a new format or a bunch of readers. All I needed was just to have a place where I could practice writing and publish my thoughts several times a week. An online journal, as it were, where others could be inspired.

And it has been that way for many many years now. I do not have sponsors, I don’t do giveaways, and I don’t have a huge following. I could always blame it on my outdated platform and that way I’m excused from caring. But today I can tell you that I am progressing, like it or not. And I am scared.

I’m scared that I won’t have as much freedom to just not care. I’ll have to bring bigger and badder and start to care about numbers of followers and likes. But I’m here to tell you, I’m truly devoted to one thing; giving my readership what it has come here to receive.What Do You and I Expect From Shalavee in 2020 on Shalavee.com

To that end, I have decided that there are three categories that I truly love to talk about and ponder, besides just generally my life process which is a combo of all of the following. Those three categories are Creativity, Motherhood, and Self-Discovery & Anxiety. So if you are here because of any of these then Yayyyy! And if you are not then I’m curious what else I share that is of interest to my regular readership. Direct message me however you feel comfortable and let me know. Meanwhile, I have to go back to working on what I want to look like when I come out of the blog closet.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Finding a Way to Be the Most Me I Can Be

I’ve strayed off the path to myself. I’ve been an impostor for a long time. Maybe it began when I was a kid and I was told to be quieter and not draw attention to myself. Maybe that’s why I’m drawn to writing what I feel so honestly; so that I may rediscover my truer self. But I feel like the true destination is an ease within at being me that I have yet to feel completely.

Of course fear is to blame for keeping me in the dark. That “savior’ we hold in our breasts, that bestie for life. But what kind of friend keeps you from community and from your artwork ? Perhaps she will always be here but she needs to have a seat in the thinking chair every once in a while.Finding a Way to Be the Most Me I Can Be on Shalavee.com

Since asking for help and going on Lexipro, an anti-anxiety medication, I have had delicious thoughts of freedom. I am constantly considering how to be more me and what that looks like. The wheels are in motion for a re-engagement in my “work”, in what I do. Taking myself a little more serious perhaps with a little more challenge and a little more fun. I am always reticent to set goals feeling that perhaps I won’t be able to fulfill them and it’ll be a let down. But I know one thing about myself; once I set an intention publicly, there’s no going back.

Stay Tuned!

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Grab the Gratitude as it’s Going By

Today I realized that gratitude grounds me after I fly out of my bounds. Because yesterday was a great day until it wasn’t. I made what felt like a fatal mistake and deleted about 80 posts on my blog out of ignorance, or perhaps it was unconscious self-sabotage. Either way, they were gone and as I tried to right my wrong, I reached out to my community for their support. And they showed up for me.

Gratitude is now what I’m feeling for both the restoration of my posts and the outpouring of love and kindness from my people, many of which I have never met face to face. And my lesson today is about allowing others to support me. That typically I don’t have anything too terrible going on. There’s a general feeling of everything’s OK. But this lack of vulnerability doesn’t allow me to be visible and leaves me disconnected from the community that I’ve created.Grab the Gratitude as it's going by on Shalavee.com

Perhaps all the vulnerability I pour into blog posts about Shame and Paying it Forward (brought tears to my eyes to read these and know they were not lost) seems like I am vulnerable enough. But I suspect that this is then the excuse to not come out in other ways. I am hiding in plain site. I am a hypocrite if I tout community as being the best thing since sliced bread but then hide from it.

After much reading and listening and understanding, I know that each of us needs to be valued in our communities for who we are and what we bring to share there. Our talents and who we like to be need to be appreciated by our people. And if we aren’t sincere about who we are, we can not experience that feeling of being known. We are keeping ourselves from the salvation of acceptance. Of belonging.Grab the Gratitude as it's going by on Shalavee.com

So there’s one lesson I need to take to heart and apply from the blog snaffu of 2018. Will there be more, I have no doubt. And I’ll share them with my community as soon as I realize what they are.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Tweaking My Social Media Settings Makes It a Good Thing

I am a sensitive half introvert and half extrovert. I don’t want to be beaten and battered by too much information via the internet lest it would explode my head. So no news is good for me. It’s taken me a few years to understand how social media works for me. Not to be popular or to be hired but how it works for my well-being. I thought I would share in hopes that it may help give you permission to connect or disconnect in ways you hadn’t considered.

My first few faraway online friends were actually made via a site called Divine Caroline where I began to publish my very verbose ramblings cum essays. And then after the blog’s birth in 2011, I was forced into social media usage because of the blog.  Read my very funny how I endured joining Facebook story here.  Although, I could have just blogged for myself, and often I think that’s exactly what I’m doing, it seemed like I might want to invite others to read what I had written ergo the need for social media.

 

I fell in love with Instagram a couple of years in and still detest Twitter except when I’ve used it for a good cause. But the trick to all of it is in being in charge of the media and not having it in your day unless you choose it. In other words, there are no notifications on my phone for any social media apps. None. I have text messages and email notifications and that is all. I changed that in the beginning part of this year. 

Further, I make sure that within Facebook or Instagram, I do not get shown what I don’t want to see. You can quiet people’s posts without unfriending them. You can make special lists in Twitter and Facebook (alas not Instagram) to see only those specifics posts from those specific people. It’s a huge sigh of relief if you’re using Twitter and perhaps Facebook if you tweak the overwhelm to your liking.

Why in the world would anyone want to be on social media at all? Because it turns out there are amazing like-minded people all over the world who show you things about yourself that you would have never otherwise known. In fact I attribute Instagram and all of my connections and challenges there with decreasing my anxiety and helping increase my self-esteem. It’s all in the way that you use it. I use it for connection and affirmation and not to pretend to be someone I’m not.

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
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I’ve been hungry to get back to yummy self time. The starvation has ceased as I am now stepping back into my space (physically and mentally). I #Nourish my self-trust as I show up for me. Revering me-time , quiet space to listen to and explore my thoughts, curiosities, questions, and whims. . Setting intentions for writing and art, creating ways to keep myself to these tasks. . I want compassion and kindness to guide my soul goals and fear can watch and concede defeat. . On the blog today, a pretty comprehensive list of ways in which you can create self-trust! Link in my profile to Shalavee.com and the piece entitled Seven Methods to Help Develop Self-Trust. . #breatheseptember2018 #createeveryday #mywisdomlessons #Soul_Selfie #Introvert #selfdevelopment #emotionalmaturity #perspective #liveonpurpose #selfawareness #personalgrowth #mindfulness #personaldevelopment #innerartist #ourcreativeselves #writersofIG #ontheblog

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Social media and any device for that matter, are only as good as your intentions. I want to connect with the world and with myself in a way that I feel comfortable and not overwhelmed. I need to take the anxiety out of my life and put joy into it. These are the ways that I have found I can do just that without doing an all or nothing cold turkey thing. Did I miss anything? Let me know how you handle your communications. Are you put off by the megalomaniacs and narcissists or have you found a way to navigate the trolls? 

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

A Wholehearted Living Piece : My Growth Life Story

I am overjoyed to announce my participation and publication today on Terri Connellan’s blog, Quiet Writing. My piece titled Gathering My Lessons for her wholehearted living series is live now. 

The back-story? I met fellow writer Terri Connellan through Instagram. She has been an inspiration to me in many ways. Last year, I said I’d love to contribute to her Wholehearted Living series and Terri said “Yes please” for the end of March. My February Viva Havana fundraiser led right into this, essentially my writing my growth life story in March. A wicked doubt storm followed yet I still pulled it out before her deadline. Terri’s kind and gentle support felt like faith guiding me to create this piece I’m pretty darn proud of.

My term for Wholehearted Living is Creative Soul Living. And my piece is sumptuous and full of my truths and insights. Visit my piece on Terri Connellan’s blog at http://www.quietwriting.com/gathering-lessons/ . 

Terri and this opportunity were just what I needed now to show me what I am capable of. I am proud and pleased. I Can.

If you enjoyed what you read, please subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your email box. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional In-touchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

 

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