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Self-Efficacy

I’ve been traveling a long bumpy road. Struggling to become a person who can stand up for myself. To become myself. I thought my low self-esteem was to blame for how the steep the climb felt that I’ve been attempting. I worked and worked and felt like I wasn’t gaining a lot of ground to become visible. 

Fiona Marie in the bathtub from Self-Efficacy on Shalavee.com

Then, earlier this year, I stumbled upon a book in one of my ‘go to the library and peruse the shelves for something to spur me on’ modes. The book is called Creating Your Best Life by Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP and Dr. Michael B. Frisch. I was inspired by many many subjects within. The Flow article I wrote was one. And I experienced a HUGE AHA when I discovered the concept known as self-efficacy, the ability to believe if you’ve done it before, you’ll be able to do it again. That has been my missing puzzle piece.

Self-efficacy incorporates the quality of resilience. The person who has this sees challenges as opportunities instead of scary threats. In having faith in one’s abilities, you know that when you reach the other side, you’ll have applied your skills and knowledge and you’ll have proven, like always, that you could do it.

#Hansel and Gretel from Self-Efficacy post on Shalavee.com

A gentleman by the name of Albert Bandura, through his research at Stanford University, developed the self-efficacy theory and revolutionized a method for developing one’s achievement of it.

These are the ways that we can build our self-efficacy.

    • Role Models – Have people in your day-to-day life that show how and what needs to be done to reach a goal.

    • Cheerleaders – You increase your own belief in your skills by cultivating relationships with people who are supportive and believe in you. Their belief in you can get you to reach goals you would not otherwise risk. And non-relatives even more so because they don’t “have to” like you or believe in you. They just do because you’re you.

    • Managing stress appropriately – Low self-efficacy allows bad moods and physical pains to stand in the way of making goals or progress. Proper management of stress and it’s symptoms leads to an allowance for other circumstances and achievements to happen.

    • Having mastery experience – When we are allowed to put a check in our ‘Win’ column, this success spurs us to strive for more. And we redefine ourselves by the sum of our accomplishments.

Let me tell you about my experience so you can understand the hope that this concept has brought to me. My past consisted of being isolated without role models or cheerleaders. I kept myself locked in a scary dark box. My stress level way quite high and I smoked and drank to manage my stress and anything good that happened in my life was met with apprehension. Even if I accomplished something, a piece of writing or a collage, I soon forgot the triumph. Nothing stuck and I slipped back down the low self-esteem slope.

Ditch Lilies from Self-Efficacy post on Shalavee.com

When I finally began to blog and to connect with the outside world, I began to see myself as someone with more. More talent, more to like, more possibilities, and I began to crack the door for more self-efficacy. Recently, I can see how all the successful projects and creative endeavors have given me a surplus sense of “I can do that as well as the other”. And I want to find more to challenge myself with and see what I can come up with next. I no longer feel sad for the waste of my potential. I’m actively enjoying the gifts I have. Taking challenges and now making challenges for myself. And reaping the benefits of success and kudos. I know what I put myself to will not suck. And this is a mighty fine place to be.

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10 Responses to “Self-Efficacy”

  1. Y says:

    Happy to hear this, to read this. Yay you!

    • Shalagh says:

      That book was soooo inspirational. I wanted to write about everything I read in it. So I have had this piece waiting for a while. I hope that it inspired you too, my artful doubtful Northern living friend.
      Love,
      Shalagh

  2. Dawn Pearcey says:

    Thank you for reminding me of the importance of self-efficacy. You are a source of positivity for me! I just read your Creative Expression and Flow article – so good (love the photos too). It’s very helpful to know the difference between creative flow and “junk flow”. Why all the guilt – argh – about creative expression (I ask myself). I love psychology, creativity and the self – and you cover it all so well, Shalagh! Cheers! (and no more scary boxes)

    • Shalagh says:

      Positively thrilled that you found this as inspiring as I did. Like a missing link. And yes Ma’am, I thought the Flow piece wa pretty spiffy too. Thanks for subscribing and for your exuberance and returned inspiration. You are officially a member of the Good Egg Club dear Dawn. Got any suggestions on where I need to be guest posting? I’m all ears.
      Love,
      Shalagh

      • Dawn Pearcey says:

        Thank you for the Good Egg Club membership – I love it! At this moment, the website that came to mind that I could see/read you on is Psych Central, especially the blog “Weightless” by Margarita Tartakovsky and “The Creative Mind” with Douglas Eby – and the links/blogs listed on his own website, “Talent Development Resources”. See what you think!

        • Shalagh says:

          Wow, Psych central’s got a whole lotta knowledge going on. Doctors everywhere.The Talent Development Resources page is a little less intimidating. I can get with some creativity musing. Thanks for the ideas Dawn.

  3. Amy Reese says:

    Shalagh, what an inspiring piece. It’s easy to want to drop everything when we have so much on our plate and little time for our creative selves. I’m so proud of you for seeing the positive and to keep going. We must keep going. Yay you!

    • Shalagh says:

      Oh Amy, Thank you so very much for your enthusiasm and support. You are my first California blog friend and I am always so happy to know you are still reading. And that you are inspired is the cherry on top.
      Love Ya’ Much,
      Shalagh

  4. KB says:

    I’ll always cheer you on! Your blog sista, KB

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