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The Artist I Am

Are You a Noun or a Verb?

Posted by on Nov 4, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

Are You a Noun or a Verb?

If I had to tell you what I would do when I grew up, I’d say “I’m going to be a Momma. I’m going to be an Artist. I’m going to be a Writer. And I’ll expect all of those things of myself that go along with being the best Momma Artist Writer that you think I can be. I mean I think I can be.” Who gets to decide if you are what you say you are? Are you legitimate only when someone says you are, gives you a certificate or a diploma or an award? Because if the answer is anyone other than you deeming you legitimate,...

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The Invisible Duties of Mothers

Posted by on Nov 1, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

The Invisible Duties of Mothers

I often have people remark that they see me doing a lot and they are impressed and/or shocked at how much I seem to get done. I wonder if they don’t recognize how much they accomplish too. And then recently it became clear that women often have many invisible life duties that add up to way more than an 8 hour day. I feel like we women are often dutiful and humble, we just see what we do as necessary and move on. Yet there are so many tasks without which life would be uncivil and unkept. Besides the homekeeping, laundry, and meal...

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Do You Belong to the Cult of Zen Okayness?

Posted by on Oct 30, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Do You Belong to the Cult of Zen Okayness?

I had heard rumors about the Cult of Perfect on the internet. And although I have stayed away from much of the perfecty picture world, there is definitely a cult of Okayness that exists. Women posting about how zen their lives, clutching their cupfuls of okayness while they practice mindfulness and home school their children. While I aspire for the zen okayness, and no, homeschooling isn’t for me, I can’t help but sense that the perpetual claiming of this smacks of a Lady Macbeth flavored lack of achievement. If I keep claiming...

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An Ode to the Women Who Have Shared Before Me

Posted by on Oct 28, 2019 in Ahas, Community, Creative Soul Living, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

An Ode to the Women Who Have Shared Before Me

If you have been with me for a short time or a long, reading my stories of my journey and milestones towards increased self-esteem and awareness, you will know that this doesn’t happen in a vacuum. There are many people who have inspired me and encouraged me along the way. And it is this dynamic that I want to extoll today. Were it not for the many women out there who have simply, or at length, told their story, or even a part of their story, in a way that I discerned that there was more for me than where I was, I wouldn’t have moved. I had...

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Chaos is comfortable to me

Posted by on Oct 16, 2019 in Creative Projects, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Homebody, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

Chaos is comfortable to me

After much thought about how to make more time in my schedule to be creative, I decided that I’d approach life more proactively again. I’d schedule meals, blog posts, and laundry so I could write more. And what happened was that I experienced more ease. You have less to do and you get more done. It was a lesson I’ve learned before and knowing this made me uncomfortable. Fear is so idiotic. Like those highway patrol people with their speed guns, it leaps out into oncoming traffic and has you pull over to the side of the road...

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Write Like Your Parents Are Dead or Alive, Just Write

Posted by on Sep 30, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons, writing, Writing Life | 2 comments

Write Like Your Parents Are Dead or Alive, Just Write

I’ve been listening to a lot to talk of telling your story. When we write and tell our stories, we own them. Our stories become grounding and good for our souls. But the Stories We Live are tricky to tell when they involve other people and you wonder, what are the rules there?  The primary question I heard, and have asked myself, is what impact will this story have on the other people in my story and in my life ? And here are the answers I’ve heard. If you need to tell your story, tell it. Don’t worry if anyone will read it...

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I Can is About to Fuel the Rest of My Life

Posted by on Sep 25, 2019 in Ahas, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

I Can is About to Fuel the Rest of My Life

Somehow I’ve decided that there is a box I am supposed to stay within. That to venture from the box is certain death. I somehow always know that I am not allowed to imagine myself anywhere else but in the Fear Box. I am denied access to the world of possibilities outside. But I also know that the key to freedom is in having self-esteem enough to fill my balloon and sail over the walls of the box and out into the world. Feeling capable is the updraft. Capability however is stolen by low self-esteem. I have honored my creativity over and...

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Neutrality From Your Fear Takes Practice

Posted by on Sep 23, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Neutrality From Your Fear Takes Practice

I am still figuring out what happened to me last year. I had a rough Fall and an emotional fallout that left me raw and frightened to be myself in ways. The months since have been a time to grieve and reassess and move myself onward. A year later, I am at the dawning of a new period in my life. I can see what may have happened and I can see what truths and lies I’m telling myself. I thought that my fear was telling me something I couldn’t do but in fact it’s leading me to prove that I can do whatever I want to and that I...

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Glam It Up

Posted by on Sep 20, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Random, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

Glam It Up

A 20 something girl got onto the elliptical next to me and I caught a whiff men’s cologne? Smells have a way of taking you to a third dimension, to memories and feelings that would not usually occupy your day. And now they do. I realize that the memories of the showboating that were my 20’s, could be a bridge to making my 50’s a little more interesting. I just turned 53 and I’m finding my life a little blah. It’s midlife motherhood combined with the aches and pains of becoming old … and I’m bored with...

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Joy May Be Purpose Enough

Posted by on Sep 18, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 4 comments

Joy May Be Purpose Enough

So much emphasis is put on making sure you live your life purposefully. When I find my purpose, my life will make sense. I must take the Purpose challenge because I’m missing out until I find this Eureka information that will reveal my life’s path with the biggest AHA I have ever uttered ! But somehow, this quest eludes my everyday plodding. It’s all so importantly complicated. But it occurs to me, complicated may not be the answer. That even the most simple intentions can be profound. The cool breeze coming through the...

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