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The Opposite of Scarcity is Enough

I can hear myself saying more more more, not enough. The house is never clean enough, fixed enough, or redecorated enough. My body is not thin or young or tan enough. My efforts to succeed as a writer, blogger, online maker are not ever enough. And so every day I come up short and scared. If I am not enough, I am plain afraid you’ll find out.

I have lived my life at a deficit for years. All of those thoughts have been real and gone through my head. The standards by which I am comparing myself to are randomly based on an American ideal. The successful outcome will guarantee my happiness for the rest of my life. Except it will be the rest of my life I squander being unhappily fearfully not enough. Enough is the opposite of scarcity on Shalavee.com

I certainly come from a fearful scarcity mindset. Like the Great Depression settled into my family’s bones, it is a ghost in my nursery that I can’t shake. Always be ready for the worst. Hold tightly to what you’ve got. “You will always never have enough and knowing that will keep you wise” kinda stuff. I spoke of this phenomenon a year ago and The Unqualified Enoughs are a cruel trap no one should have to endure.

But while I live that anxious lifestyle, I’m missing moments just to relax with my world, my children, my bounty, my luck, and appreciate it. I can not see what’s in front of me for searching the future for more. If I am to stop living the anxiety riddled life of scarcity, I’m going to have to refocus my lens on my today. And it’s going to have to be enough. Enough is the opposite of scarcity on Shalavee.com

Fierce gratitude is necessary to accomplish this I think. Thank your maker, your world, and everyone in it for everything. Give thanks at your meals for the food that passed through all those hands to get to you. Be thankful for the trees that give you air to breath. Be thankful to your parents and your grandparents for getting frisky and begetting you so that you could have your own beautiful children. And write it all down everyday until you really start to know that you have enough every day. And then start looking to put more love and light and wonder in your life. Because that’s where the abundance enters the picture. Or maybe just the Enough for now feeling. I’m good with that.

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Everyday Posts in October and a Soul Selfie Challenge Too !

As this month wraps up and my month of creativity/Create every day challenge comes to an end, a reminder and perhaps a surprise for new readers, October is the month where I will post a post everyday ! Yes, every loving day! PLUS I will be doing another Soul Selfie Instagram challenge.

For the past several years, I’ve done an entire month of posts in October as a reminder to myself of how much I am capable of. That we can fit a lot of things into our lives with a bit of planning followed by a little autopilot. So 31 days of posting is near upon us. See the start of 2015 here. And the first day of 2014 here. Or peruse the calendar widget in the sidebar.Everyday posts in October on Shalavee.com

It’s a mixed grab bag of posts ranging from pictures without words to evergreen posts (previously published) to all out manifestos. I kinda take it a week at a time and since I’ve done my creativity thing every day in September, it may be a daily show and tell of art pictures.

So set your dials for daily Shalavee and don’t forget to tune in for the Soul Selfie video chats Fridays at noon on my Shalavee.com Facebook page. Or you can just watch it later on my page on YouTube but it sure would be cool if you were there while it happens!Everyday posts in October on Shalavee.com

And yes, I’m announcing another Soul Selfie challenge on Instagram. It will be one week (7 days) of inspirational words for you to use as you see fit to show and tell us what is on your mind, in your heart, weighing you down , or making your soul sail. Soul Selfie week starts the second week of October, the 10th through the 16th.

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Just Keep Swimming : When Perpetual Busyness Isn’t Ideal

I told my husband I felt a little Dory-ish of late. My motto is “Just Keep Swimming”. Generally feeling that the busyness was taking me through my days and I was getting through to get to the other side. Sometimes life is about endurance.

I told him that I missed those days in my distant past when I could be full of myself having known I did something outrageous and righteous, acts of production worthy of pride of accomplishment and feeling like “It’s all good”. I’ve not been feeling that validation for a while.Just Keep Swimming on Shalavee.com

Most days I’m busy just maintaining this ginormous old house and all the people in it. The wash and the food and the dust are managed and then I repeat. Sure I jam in a blog post where necessary, but there’s nothing bigger on my aspiration agenda.

And I think that I give no credit for the job of Mom well done daily but rather judge myself for the other incompletions I live. We collect our judgements of ourselves and when that “Apply” button appears, judgement for a life less-lived, we punch it with a vengeful force. Because what are we worth to ourselves but what we’ve done? What we can show for ourselves? Just Keep Swimming on Shalavee.com

People perpetually want to give credit to ambitious mothers for their good job done mothering but we are blind to that most times. It’s a given to keep them alive. We keep remembering what we valued ourselves for before them. Our looks, our jobs, our minds which are all gone now.

It wasn’t that I wasn’t getting anything done. I just wasn’t crediting myself for my tasks. This week, I’ve been heaping the credit on myself. I have been busy being handy. I fixed my vintage towel bar and the toilet paper holder which small people inevitably rip off the wall, and a toilet. I installed a new doorbell.

I washed dishes,windows, clothing, and my kitchen floor! And everyday, I arted. And showed up to do my live Facebook broadcast on my birthday. I balanced a checkbook, I fed everyone, and showed up for a wedding. I can say that I may not be the sum of my deeds, but sometimes the deeds need to fill and carry my spirit up to the next soul challenge.Just Keep Swimming on Shalavee.com

Here’s a heads up. I’m setting two big goals for October. First is another Soul Selfie Challenge as promised, from October 10th through the 16th. That’s a week-long Instagram challenge with words and pictures based on soulful prompts. A chance to be a little more forthcoming and vulnerable than we usually are. It was amazing and draining and amazing the last time around this past March.

And October is usually the month when I post every day for the entire month. Posts can be long or short, wordy or just pictures, poems or old posts revisited. But there will be 31 days straight of them. I kinda dread it and then I do it and I’m all proud of myself. Please join the peanut gallery and watch the progress of both these events unfold here on the blog. Sign up in the right hand column to have the posts delivered straight to your email box if you haven’t already. And thanks for joining me at anytime. I appreciate all ears and eyes equally.img_20160913_114002946

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