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When Not Getting What You Want is a Good Thing

Sometimes what we want isn’t really good for us. Our want can be based on what our inner 6-year-old wants but she doesn’t have the reasoning that the rest of her life could have given her. Sometimes, what she wanted wouldn’t have given her what she needed and that’s a blessing.

It’s the “be careful what you wish for” scenario. To be so invested in any outcome as an absolute necessity is to forget the universe might have better plans for you than your inner six-year-old. Also remembering that everything that happens to you may not be personal. When applying it directly to our feelings it will always Feel personal but it more often than not isn’t. When Not Getting What You Want is a Good Thing on Shalave.com

We want people to like us but sometimes the reason is that we don’t like ourselves. So their like isn’t going to help us. This one stings most of all because deep down we align our self-worth with social acceptance and if that is denied us, it feels like a death in our hearts. I’ve done and said things I wished I hadn’t and then waited to see if I’d be unfriended secretly thinking I knew I wasn’t good enough to be accepted by them. This has happened a couple of times and the agony is palpable.

If someone does not want me it is not the end of the world

but if I do not want me the world is nothing but endings

~ Nayyirah Waheed

We want money, fame, or power but when we get it, we squander or abuse it because we haven’t the emotional wisdom to manage our gift. Do you remember that TV show where they’d build houses for people and surprise them? American dream come true accept then you’d learn later that they couldn’t pay the taxes on their free houses so they we taken from them. It seemed so sad. Like the ugly backside of the American dream. Earning enough to be philanthropic would be a better goal. Having clout enough to champion a cause would be a better reframe of fame.When Not Getting What You Want is a Good Thing on Shalave.com

I’ve spent five years creating a body of blog posts and wishing I had more readership. But I really didn’t want that because I’ve been afraid that would mean I had more responsibility than I could bear. I tortured myself none the less with the “why am I not like them”, wanting to be popular, all the while refusing to do the exact things I needed to make that happen and sabotaging any chances. Then all I wanted was to be validated by others. Now I want to increase my like of me. And that change in what I want is what my shift is all about.

It’s quite OK to want things. That is the cookie, or the carrot for you vegans, that keeps us going and innovating and creating. But what we are wanting has to align with our values about the kind of people we want to be. I want to always be honest, have integrity, be a good friend, and lead by example. And when something doesn’t feel quite right, it’s usually an indication that my why for my want is unaligned. The truth then will set me free or at least put me on a better path.

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A Warm Salad?

This is a republication of an old favorite from 2012. Hope you feel inspired to cook from it. I can always use some inspiration.

I’d promised to pass along my recipe for a yummy warm salad with garbanzo beans (aka chick peas), orange zest, tomatoes, and salmon to my friend. Having pulled the recipe out of the box, it was last spotted with a pile of papers in the office area. That was about a week ago. I seem to have misplaced the recipe card. I have searched for it under my chair, inside my books, and even online but to no avail. And thinking about it gave me the appetite to have it in my belly immediately. So this was my solution with what I had on hand.

Warm some olive oil in a skillet.

Then Add

2 stalks of celery, half-inch sliced across

Half a red onion chunky chopped

A cup of red cabbage chunks

Sauté for two minutes to take a little of the edge off. Then add

Small can petite diced tomatoes

Can of garbanzo beans

Half cup each sliced dried apricots

And pitted kalamata olives

Then stir and add

Homemade balsamic dressing

Dash of Herbs de Provence

Ground coriander

Ground marjoram

Salt and pepper

Juice and zest of an orange or even some fruit juice

 

Serve on a bed of mix greens topped with warmed salmon filet and a slice of toast. Because it was a warmed salad , it still feels good to eat even on a chilly day. And visually, it is an edible rainbow. Gorgeous red, purple, orange, and brownish purple chunks amidst little beige orbs and green crescent moons. All atop leafy greens and a salmon pink crown. I was even thinking a nut on top would be fun. Or crumbled feta or blue cheese.chickpea salmon aka warm salad on Shalavee.comsalad

This isn’t exactly what I had in the other recipe. And I didn’t have an orange in the house or I would have added the juice and zest. But it hit the zone if not the spot of what I was after. Righteous in many ways, sweet and salty, it reminded me of a caponata. Create variations according to your taste. Enjoy your food or you’re doing it wrong.

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Crunchy Christmas House Tour 2016 – 2017

Oh the inferences I had trying to film this video! I had every intention of filming it way before the holiday was over. But then the kids were home. And then it was overcast. And then winter hit and it was overcast all the time. I picked the whole house up one day and was just about to film and then everybody came home.

Here’s the thing, I’ve got a family and a life. I like to separate them and sometimes they can’t be. So here’s the crunchy Christmas House Tour 2017 with me studdering and stumbling and it’s OK. Find it on You Tube here.

Today I actually removed said crunchy Christmas tree. It put up a fight all the way out the door leaving needles and tree bits all through the house and on to the porch. But I’m OK with the mess and the fight as I know it’s the price I pay for the tree that I want.

I do suggest that you replace the tree lights with another light display for the winter. Drape the lights around a mirror or in some twigs in a pot. Our brains need the light source during these long dark winter days.

I hope you have transitioned your holiday hours into happy enough days until the spring comes. And that the sunlight comes, you bask in it.

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