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Achievement Addiction on Hiatus

My husband and I are from the same camp of hard work. In fact I’d say we’re both addicted to the feeling of accomplishment we get after completing our projects and tasks. So much so that to not be crossing off items from a to do list may feel slightly like failure. There’s no doubt, we’re achievement addicts.

We apparently have forgotten about the “being” part of human being in our drive to do. And thus, there will never be enough “done” to get the feeling we matter. It’s a hamster’s treadmill of promises we overachievers get caught on. It will all be perfect after this project gets done.

And then along comes Summer.

Summer is a concept/mode in which you are asked to relax. It demands you become a relaxed outdoor person with nonchalance and a tan. You are supposed to stop focusing on your list and unplug. Really? Yet, As hard as it is to let go of the “going going” and “doing doing”, I secretly sigh with relief because when Summer comes because it’s just the excuse I need to give myself permission for some long thwarted relaxation.Outdoors person on Shalavee.com

This year I saw Summer coming and prepared myself. I took care of all my self-care items to begin to prepare for the mandatory mood shift, all while still accomplishing my list. Proactivity at its finest. And then I invited friends over to christen the start of the relaxing and celebrating season with an all day chat-fest. And that felt like I’d accomplished a lot for the group of us. We all needed it.

I’d taken care of all my chores in preparation for the gathering. My floors were vacuumed, my shopping done, and my laundry caught up. And I was able to allow for me to do something I wanted to do and not just something I had to do.  I sat all day and laughed and drank and entertained and I was a Being. And I’m thinking this is the way to do Summer alright.My tribe in my backyard on Shalavee.com

So for all you Doers, who are reading this and thinking you probably need to do more for you. You do. I told my husband the other day that you can’t get more work out of a dead mule. Let Summer give you permission to have a seat and not do laundry today. Or ask someone else to make dinner (call for carry-out) and go chat with an old chum on the phone for hours. These are messages to yourself that you are worth more than the sum of you check marks. You get to enjoy and relax just as much as the rest of the world on holiday.

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Trust Your Own Weirdness

Scrolling through Instagram, my favorite spare time wandering place, I read a picture quote that said “Trust in your own weirdness.” I told Eamon to come look and he read it and said “Cool”. And here’s what I then said to him.

All their lives, people wish they had permission to just be themselves. They love/hate people who are uniquely themselves. So when you do your own weird thing, people will like you even more than if you are doing the thing that it seems everyone else is doing. And they’ll resent you for it because they don’t have permission.Weirdness on Shalavee.com

That urge to conform is built into our genetics. We need to be accepted and avoid being outcast from the tribe. Our acceptance by the group guarantees shelter and food. So the primal urge is to conform and live. Being different can cause your demise, your out-casting from your family bed. But for a creative, it’s necessary to heed that call. And so we often avoid our weird convinced we’ll die if we follow it.

Yet, in order for innovation and societal advancement to happen, we need people who think differently. People who risk their comfort zones to think up the tech and the tasks that advance us, cure us, enlighten us, and civilize us. And if we’d embrace our differences, our weird, we’d no longer war, persecute, or hate.Weirdness on Shalavee.com

So today, let’s be weirder than the other people. Let’s join together with other weird people and celebrate our weirdness together. Let’s band together in common causes and innovate our thoughts and processes to help the world advance. And lead our children by example showing that there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting our freak on every once in a while. Let’s be impressed and commend their unique views because those are what will inevitably change the world.

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Summer Madness Creativity Challenge

Ah, it’s been quite the last couple weeks transition into Summer. I was keeping up with everything and then all of a sudden , I wasn’t. On June First I had started a Creativity Bootcamp Challenge and I did well to get up to the craftroom and dust off my pastels and glue bottles and made a few items. But the momentum was soon interrupted with days full of errands, parties, and guests. So be it I say. So here are those pieces I made both from collage and pastels. Pleased that I seem to be able to copy anything I put my mind to in pastels. And in collage, I can make anything with the scraps I leave on the table.

chicago butterfliesfish and mountain collage

ornamental cabbage pastel

pastel bouquet

garden cardcopycat

key to Chicago on Shalavee.com

butterfly envelope in pastels on Shalavee.com

Here’s to a hopeful and creatively productive Summer for everyone. I cleaned my craftroom and I’m ready with a few ideas for more pastels portraits. Wanna read a little about February’s challenge, go here. Or the previous October’s challenge, go here.

If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

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