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Addiction Pimps Out Your Anxieties to Feed its Need

Fear, anxiety, and addiction work together in a hooker and pimp relationship. In order to quell the fear of death or abandonment, an addiction was created to cope. Not the truth necessarily but our primitive brains think it is. The addiction is then an alleviation of the fear of something that isn’t true. Often the substance or act releases the calming hormones in our brains that we are also addicted to releasing. So addiction relies on anxiety to amp up the fear trigger and give it a reason to feed. Fear’s lie is that if you don’t quell it, you’ll die. A shortcut and circle has been made. Anxiety equals feed or die and repeat.

Fear’s lie is that if you don’t quell it, you’ll die.

Breaking the cycle however, may actually be the only way to in fact survive. Quelling the anxiety medicinally with an anti-depressant helps immensely to clear the brain from rapid fire lies but the battle to retrain these repetitive malicious thoughts is the true war winner. Augusten Burroughs, in his book Dry, referred to the addiction as a sort of hungry beast that will always seek to quell itself and recreate reasons to be in peril. Always. Until the fears that cause it stop. The image he created struck me as the addiction is a dark beast with a controlling mind of its own. It makes nice normal people do crazy things because they are convinced they will die otherwise. Refuting the lies is the only hope. And that is where I discovered the beauty of Cognitive Therapy. Conscious and mindfulness used to their greatest potential. Addiction on Shalavee.com

Practice Cognitive Therapy on yourself. Refute one lie, one cognitive distortion, at a time. Be wise.

Will you always be a loser?

Will you never get what you need?

Does everyone you meet think you are a bad person?

Look hard at those thoughts. It’s possible that occasionally any of those thoughts may be true but they’re not always true. Tell yourself the truth that you find. Believe that feelings are not always facts. What do we achieve by swamping ourselves with tsunamis of self-hate and judgement? When the truth may be a trickling brook that you may be able to easily step over and continue your life journey. Why is cruelty and condemnation our first thought, our default? The quickest route to wrapping up our worth on earth and delivering ourselves to the garbage heap every day by noon.

What do we achieve by swamping ourselves

with tsunamis of self-hate and judgement?

Fear, anxiety, and the addictions they create keep you from living, from hoping, and from moving. You are standing on the shoulder of the road of life while people are passing you who owned their choices and chose life over death or misery. You wouldn’t wish that fate on anyone so why are we living this fear loop for years? Because we don’t recognize our choice to choose hope. Addiction on Shalavee.com

Your life is what you choose to do with it. And know that when you choose misery and hopelessness, that is still a choice. When I realized that’s what I’d been choosing for myself, that I’d served a life’s sentence and incarcerated myself for having a soul unworthy of love, I grieved. Hard. And then I went about figuring out the choices I could make that would be the opposite. Like happiness and adventure and family. And tons of Hope. I gave myself permission to hope. And I’m still high on it. I believe in it with so much of my heart that I hope it spills out onto other people. And that is one of the few best reasons why I write and try to do any and all of what I do. For you to find one small spark of hope that can light the flame under the worthy fire of your hopeful future.

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September 2016 : A 31 Day Creativity Challenge

My recent discovery that I had truly been standing in the way of my creativity had me shoving this self-created blockage out-of-the-way. I am beginning a daily creative practice. And what better way than a month along creativity challenge for the month of September. If I can do an Instagram photo a day, I can do a 5 minute art piece. Or 15 or 30 minute art piece. I am making art a non-negotiable.September 2016 will be a 31 day creativity challenge on Shalavee.com

And so I’m announcing my 31 Days of Creativity Challenge for the month of September. It’s my way of putting it out there and being accountable to myself by telling you. You are more than welcome to join me in creating for as many or as few of the days as you’d like. Or you can cheer silently from the sidelines.

This is about creating habits Y’all. They say the easiest way to do that is to couple the new habit with one you already have. I am not at all sure what that will mean in my day except perhaps my first thing coffee drinking. I am also still living by is no housework while I’m alone in the house. And I am following the “Do your work First” guidelines. Before you web surf or get your quip out in some forgettable online conversation, get your work done.

 

September 2016 will be a 31 day creativity challenge on Shalavee.com

So starting on Thursday, September 1st, I’ll be making art daily and posting it to my Shalavee Facebook page. I’ve done these challenges before most notably with The Curious Love of Green’s blog mistress Jane Barry. Read my summary of intentions for one here. There’ll be picture round-ups thrown in with my regular blog posting on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. And I’m still doing the live Facebook chat on my Shalavee FB page at noon every Friday. If you can’t join me, you can always drop by and watch later as they go to tape afterwards !

I appreciate your support and am thinking I’ll be doing an art give away in the middle of the month to share my love. Thank you lovely people and wish me luck and stealth.

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Non-Negotiable Creative Soul Living

My therapist chuckled a little and said, “You know you get to live an extraordinary life. Where you can live your creativity every day. You live in your house that you made pretty for you and you’re creating your world daily according to what you need. That is a precious way to live. Don’t forget that.” Because , yes, I had forgotten that. Or perhaps I’d never realized that. And these doses of perspective are one of the many gifts I greedily gobble up with my world interactions these days.

I am so busy doing doing doing all the things I think I should do and the things that need doing to keep me slightly ahead on the mothering treadmill, that I lose perspective on what my world truly looks like. I see that my children are happy and sweet and fed. I see that the sheets are clean and the beds are made. But I can’t say I notice and appreciate the creative world I’ve woven around me. Yet in missing that, I’m missing out on giving myself credit daily. And sharing this better with the world which might need permission to create as well.The Non-Negotiable Creative Soul on Shalavee.com

Creative Living is My Journey.

My Goal is Creative Soul Salvation.

I’ve been at war with myself for a while. Caught up in what I’m calling a “should storm”.  And what I stole from myself, permission to create just for joyful creating’s sake, I’m beginning to regain. What I’ve also noticed is that when art is a non-negotiable in my day, much like brushing my teeth or getting my exercise in several times a week, I become happier and more grounded. I don’t have to have that argument with myself over whether I feel like it or have time for it. When something is non-negotiable, it’s just getting done. Worked in and accomplished.The Non-Negotiable Creative Soul on Shalavee.com

My soul is in need of the healing that the lack of arting has wounded me. I do not care if my efforts culminate in works of brilliance or crap. I only care that my brain and soul have a few minutes to wander around and connect with what they need to outside or inside, wherever they need to go. And that having happened, I can get on with my day grateful to myself for the permission I gave myself. What more can a creative life provide?

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

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