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Project Planning

Seems I have hidden gremlins in my progress process. I want to accomplish some task, say creating an Etsy shop. This project would require me to create and then take pictures of more of these paper butterfly wreaths. Perhaps ask for money and then have to send them to the people who wanted to buy them. I’ve had this task way back on the shelf of “things to do” for so long but for “some reason”, this task never seems to be able to make it to the front of the to do shelf. To banish the gremlins hiding at the back of the shelf holding hard to these tasks I think I’d like to accomplish, I’ve chosen Permission as my extra word for the year.

I spoke about the Fear Mother in the Permission post as a Power in need of respecting. And then I suggested I’d honor her and make room for her in my future. I said I need to “Devote an entire page to each project and leave room for the fears to be expressed”. Well I completed my project planning form sheets ! And believe me when I say, these forms are powerful breakthrough bringers. Manifesters unite, I have a simple tool that will slip you by your naysayer and on to achieving your goals.

This is what it looks like and here’s where to download the PDF of My Project Planner.

project planner final png

I made this form two days ago. And due to my project planner form’s magic powers, I’ve already written the first draft of the stinky newsletter that I’ve been stuck to write and release for at least a year. Seems that solutions / ideas section was a necessary step to thinking it out, as opposed to my usual just blowing off the fears step. Cause that really got me nowhere. Fear Mother needs some RESPECT. So there it is.

As for that newsletter, using the form helped me to decide to not worry as to whether people felt I was invading their privacy by sending it unwanted to their email boxes. Instead, I talked myself into being willing to share the thought stage with success as well. What if it was 50/50 ? Half the people hated me for interrupting their lives while the other half popped over, renewed their interest in my work, found something on my site worthy of resubscribing for, and thus I avoided losing their interest altogether.

That was the rationalization that made me accept the “go ahead” signal. So far so good although I still need to edit it and actually send it out. This was still strong magic. I actually wrote it. Now you have to wait for the results. If you want to receive these additional random thoughts yourself, just sign up via the sign up box on the right hand side bar. And what you didn’t also know is that making a PDF for people to download was one of my other goals. So please be kind.

I hope you are inspired. Ask me any questions, I’m always glad to answer.

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Homemade Granola

These days, watching our food means 90% of the time, I’m abstaining from sugar and white flour. Most store-bought cereals (save shredded wheat) aren’t really a good choice then. Granola is great but store brands are either sugar loaded or too expensive. I have found a fabulous recipe for homemade granola and make this recipe sugar-free by substituting sugar-free syrup for the called for maple syrup. Accompanied by a half cup of yogurt and fruit feels good to eat. That “Yay Me” feeling of eating something good for you.

This versatile recipe comes from a cookbook that changed the way I saw living a lifestyle of wellness and cooking and eating this way daily. Written by Pam Anderson of Cooks Illustrated fame, The Perfect Recipe for Losing Weight and Feeling Great is my go to for this granola recipe, as well as pita and tortilla chips, the multi-grain buttermilk pancakes we had for breakfast, fruit salsa, roasted vegetables, and salad dressings. She’s a wealth of knowledge and I would never have had the confidence to make soup were it not for the template recipe she provides. Another post perhaps.

Granola recipe from Shalavee.com

Great Granola

Makes 1 Quart

2 cups old-fashioned oats

½ cup wheat germ

¼ teaspoon salt

1 cup Extra Ingredients (fruit, nuts, coconut flakes)

¼ maple syrup (sugar-free syrup)

3 TBS flavorless oil

2 TBS warm water

other flavorings

  • Set oven rack to middle and set oven at 275 degrees Fahrenheit or 135 Celsius

  • Spray 13-x-9-inch (metal) pan with veg cooking spray (or just wipe oil in it).

  • Mix oats, wheat germ, salt, and extra ingredients, except the fruit, in a medium bowl.

  • Quickly heat syrup, oil, water, and flavoring ( extracts, cinnamon, or ginger) to simmer in saucepan over medium heat.

  • Drizzle over oat mixture and stir up.

  • Pour mixture into prepared pan and work the granola in your hands to create small clumps.

  • Bake for 30 minutes.

  • Stir in dried fruit.

  • Continue to bake for another 25 minutes until golden brown.

  • Let cool and serve and store in airtight tin for a month.

The original granola recipe’s extra ingredients calls for 1/3 cup chopped walnuts, 1/3 cup sweetened or unsweetened coconut, and 1/3 cup golden raisins plus 1/2 tsp cinnamon. The cherry and almond version has 1/3 cup sliced almonds, 1/3 cup coconut, and 1/3 chopped dried cherries with 3/4 tsp almond extract. There are a few more luscious combos but I end up doing almonds or cashews and craisins or raisins, maybe cherries with vanilla and cinnamon.

Granola recipe from Shalavee.com

According to her recipe, it’s 121 calories for a ¼ cup. But since I use sugar-free syrup, it’s much less. And it’s satisfying with ½ cup vanilla yogurt and some fruit as a snack. Perhaps around 225 calories. And her tip on the sidebar of this page? Don’t skip breakfast. I usually eat this for my 3 pm snack and Eamon has it after school. Alas, Fiona doesn’t care for chunks in her yogurt but she’s never met a peach fruit cup she didn’t like. Bon Appetite.

If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

My Drinking

Mark was out-of-town and I was worn out and thin from the daughter I was beginning to now call “toddler”. Fits of crying and negativity left me hankering for a glass of wine night after night.  I “needed” my edge smoother, I thought.

But I also worried that I might have a problem. I worried that everyone else thought I had a problem. Ask an alcoholic and they’re sure everyone is one too. Ask the child of an addict and they are waiting to become one too.  Every man I ever dated, and the first one I married, had drinking or substance abuse problems. So did I have one too? The worrying about it made me want to drink my glass or two or three of wine all the more.

i-wish-i-drank-as-much-wine-as-apparently-all-my-friends-and-family-think-i-do on Shalavee.com

I grew up witnessing my father operate in much the same mode as Stephen King described of his early work process in his book On Writing. Quantities of drinking to get quantities of writing and work done. Drink, work, and repeat. And nights in my youth were sometimes spent drinking to get drunk.

In more recent years, I didn’t obsess all day about my next glass of wine. I wasn’t hiding my use. I just assumed that come wine thirty, it would be time to pour a glass and relax. Although, I didn’t drank until I was falling down or slurring drunk, I worried that this casual use to calm my nerves was a problem that I was not in control to stop. I was building a tolerance and a midsection. Because most of all, I really didn’t like my wine belly on top of my post 40 something pregnancy belly.

wine and cat on Shalavee.com

If I’m a role model who says ‘No’ to her children, doesn’t that mean I should believe I have control and can obey my own No’s? Finally, I tested the waters and said,”Not this week”. Sometimes the biggest dare is to see if we really are in charge and have the guts to do something without ropes. In many cases, I think the wine was a given safety net. And I wanted to prove I could handle life without it. And I did.

Every day I’d say “See, your life is calm enough to do without that anxiety queller.” And it did wonders for how much I trust myself to have restraints. And to know I’m in charge, not the anxieties or the chosen substances to appease these fears. I proved I am running the show and my fears are not. And eventually, even when I am at my most stressed, I do not think about drinking or my long departed pal nicotine anymore.

two bottles are better on Shalavee.com

Wine drinking has reached epic casual joking heights online. So many memes extolling the virtues of this method of “relaxation”. Not enough wine in the world kinda stuff. It’s not the wine that is in question, it’s our assumption that everyone is “using” it in the same way. And it’s a razor wire to walk. These references are shared in the kinda way that makes you complicit for your participation in the joke. You won’t judge me if you and I are both in it together.

Wine times, in my hand now from Shalavee.com

It is OK to be stressed out. And Moms absolutely need to figure out some way to make the stress of today OK in some way. Anxiety is a real feeling, and more common than you know, and despondency isn’t good. Talking with someone may be the better choice to work out other choices. A depressant doesn’t help depression.

Grant that substance use is not abuse, yet it’s over use is also a sign that you may need to step up for your own needs and support yourself through those very real fears. And needing wine isn’t the same as wanting it.

I didn’t believe I could kick my fears or using the wine to quell the fear until I actually bravely did it. And although the first week was a tough one, the next week I said no to playing into the week’s anxieties and I had kicked my daily wine habit. On the weekend, I may say yes. And then during the week cold turkey again if it is an habitual action. I am the only one who knows how much and why I’ll drink now and it’s really my business but… I can tell you, I am not an alcoholic. And that certainty means so much to me in the light of what I grew up with. It really comes down to what I believe about myself and my truth is mine to know and be proud of while I live it.

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