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Anxieties and Allergies : You Probably Have Them Too

There are two things I’m certain the majority of the population is afflicted with and yet are in complete denial about. Anxieties and allergies. (Well there’s one more but I’m saving that for next week.} These two had me down and out both mentally and physically for many years with no help to ease the symptoms because I completely ignored them. You can’t get help for something your either sure you don’t have or haven’t been diagnosed with.Anxieties and allerg have them too on Shalavee.comies you probably

In the case of my allergies, it took chronic sinus infections and me on my knees praying to higher powers to go see the specialist that would eventually lead me to the cure. But I had to admit that I was powerless against what my body was doing unless my mind comprehended it. Same for all the other mysterious aches and ailments that over the past five years, I’ve had looked at and had treated. I am currently receiving shots once a month in both arms with a serum developed specifically for me to decrease my allergies to things like mold and maple trees.  I continue to do the most I can to treat this very common problem.

Like allergies, the prevalence of anxieties is no surprise. It’s the number one mental health affliction. It just probably isn’t something you or your loved ones are dealing with or have any problems with, thank you very much. Never ever. Back when I was diagnosed with low self-esteem, the thought of myself as “less than” made me think I’d die. We do not want to embrace our “weaknesses” because that would leave us open to attack, ridicule, and ostracization right? Weakness of this sort belongs to other people, not us ! Better to just say “I’m fine, we’re fine, he’s fine, and they’re fine”, than own the feelings that we are certain are bound to find us out in the cold fending for ourselves outside the camp compound walls.Anxieties and allerg have them too on Shalavee.comies you probably

Except, if we have anxieties, and a majority of the population truly does, then our admission of what we are experiencing might help someone else too. And that’s the healing power of being real and of ownership for ourselves. We don’t owe anyone as much as ourselves the opportunity to heal and move on from where we are stuck through our honesty. Once I really started to work on my anxieties through cognitive therapy, I heard from many people having a similar struggle. I found a method that worked really well for me yet I had to first claim it as mine to then choose ways to deal with it. Is there anything that you may want to claim and get help for today?

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Opinions, Entitlement, and the Value of Your Voice

Opinions are like noses, we all have them. But are we entitled and allowed to have them? If I find it hard to find a voice to express them, I may not feel I’m allowed to have an opinion in the first place.

As a woman, it can prove tough not to judge myself for what I have to say as necessary or valid as I’m considering actually saying it. Then I may choose to keep quiet. I have my own internal bouncer at the thought door checking the validity, wittiness, or profundity of my outgoing thoughts and opinions. And often, they’re just not making the cut as I am weighing them against unseen sources that must be way more clever and insightful than me.Opinions, Entitlement, and the Value of Your Voice on Shalavee.com

I’d like to stop doing that. I’ve spoken about how men don’t do that. But I have no experience valuing my voice. In my life, I removed the need for the approval I would get doing for others. Now I find myself dumbly staring at my life thinking, “What do I do this or that for then?”. Oh right. It’s for myself, my happiness, and my approval. Duh.Reprogramming the people pleasing is tough going.Opinions, Entitlement, and the Value of Your Voice on Shalavee.com

Perhaps it’s slightly a matter of faking this until I begin to reap the benefits. Saying and doing what I know is right anyway even if it won’t be met with a round of applause or approval. But maybe because I need to Hear myself saying it. Hear myself having an opinion, saying what I think, and ideally modelling what it is like to not be a doormat for my daughter. Because I want her to be entitled to her opinion and she will do what I do, not what I say. Mindfulness is the only way on and out my friends.

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Take the Time Now

How often do I look at my email, poke a few mail items gone, and then say I’ll come back and clear out the whole thing later. This happens 25 days out of the month and maybe once a month I actually read what’s in there, apply it where necessary, get the sparkly clean email box certificate for cleaning it, and start all over. But by this point, the cleaning out takes me staying up until midnight.

My husband’s wall pocket over the desk has been an eyesore with overflowing undone filing until our taxes were done yesterday. We’d even bought him an expanding file to file the receipts away as he received them. But he chose to lean right instead of left and put them up there instead of down in the file. Literally, the only difference and extra effort would have been to open a drawer and look for the proper tab to drop the paper behind. Take the time now on Shalavee.com

Your destiny is shaped in your moments of decision.”


― Innocent Mwatsikesimbe , The Reason –

I keep putting my daughter off. “Will you play with me” she pleads. But I say “no”, I have to go do important Mommy stuff now little sister. Oh sorry, Big Sister. Except that if I were to lean into that request and indulge her for ten minutes, she’d happily leave me alone for the rest of the day. So the proactivity of paying full attention to her or any other of the many tasks I delay every day, could end up making my life a little easier. Being present can be a present and keep you from dragging your indecision and laziness into a future spot to torture you more. Instead of dreading, head the task off at the pass and you’ll be not only doing more but proud of yourself.

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