Mar 21, 2014
I have finished my charity chair project. I put three coats of polyurethane on the chair, dragged her inside for a photo shoot in Fiona’s room, and then delivered her to the Talbot Humane Society today. She’ll be named “Oh, Promise Me !”, as that was the song by Clement Scott on old sheet music I ended up using for some of the decoupage. So without further ado, I give you the pictures of my version of the gorgeous cedar Adirondack rocking chair I volunteered to decorate to be auctioned off for the benefit of the Humane Society in Talbot County, Maryland, USA, in May, 2014.
Fiona was really sad when I told her the chair was for a charity event and wasn’t going to stay in her room.
If you’d like a look into my creative process for this chair, look at this post. And extra good news, my chair will be living at Moonvine during the month of April with Pama’s beautiful stuff. If you’d like to take a closer look, visit her shop at 22 N.Harrison Street near the Goldborough Street intersection in Easton, Maryland.
Mar 19, 2014
March’s “Bold Brilliant Beautiful You” question was posed and asks, What Do I Need? Seems I had asked myself this same question last year. There’s a page in my journal proving I was equally confused then in defining wants versus needs. I promised I’d return to answer later but I haven’t. I supposed then, the best time is now.
- Wants vs. Needs -
I will simply define wants are desires for possessions or glamor unrelated to our basic existence. I shudder at the American mentality of more more more for less less less as we are lured in by our confusion in defining wants versus needs. Supplies necessary for survival would be needs which are both tangible and intangible. And yet, I would still not have included emotional needs as necessary. Dismissing these is second nature to me.
In my Those That Blog post from last Fall, I listed a few of my needs. I’m still in need of like a babysitter once a week, garden help, or someone to explain #hashtags to me #onceandforall. But sometimes needs seem superficial, dishonest. It feels their root is something deeper, more emotional in origin. And I also suspect that these are the needs I’ve denied for so long that I can’t see my need forest to make my way through my need trees.
- Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs-
So I set out to define the meaning of needs, hoping this knowledge would help me then feel entitled to have and fulfill them. I looked up Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs courtesy of my freshman year psychology. And what I rediscovered was very eye-opening.
Maslow stated there are five levels of needs. The first two levels include the basic needs and the last three are the psychological needs, the top most level being self-actualization. The catch is that you can’t really fulfill the next level up if you are missing something on the level below. I can remember suspecting this was a stumbling block for me years ago. Here I am again and I was more right than I knew.
Yes I have food, clothing, shelter, a loving 2nd husband, healthy children, etc.. The first basic need level is covered but it seems, at times, I have lacked some basic safety and security needs from Level 2. For years, my husband and I have had no health insurance, no savings, and my husband started his own business while freelancing which is a tenuous existence.
Things have improved for us but periods of want, fear, and sadness meant isolation and not actively seeking out the 3rd level’s Social Needs for new communities to belong to and be accepted by. This was an “Aha” moment explaining my long running low self-esteem and I suddenly understood a lot about America’s need for healthcare as it relates to productivity and the emotional well-being of a society.
-BBB You Project-
And then I see the 4th level and I know getting these needs met is exactly why I joined the Bold Brilliant Beautiful You group. This level is about the Esteem Needs. Our need to be appreciated and respected. Our need to be validated for our existence. This then becomes our motivation for accomplishment and our search for prestige. Um, Heck Yeah!
I hadn’t any idea those needs were mine and yet, that is exactly what I’m feeling these days. When I understood the purpose of the BBBY project and the support and acknowledgment I could gain, my gut feeling was Joy. To be able to create a mirror from others that says,”What you’ve got is good stuff and keep putting it out please”. It’s not narcissism, it’s necessary.
Once you’re on this need fulfillment roll, your brain reaches a place of potential fulfillment. Not having to worry about much of anything takes you to a place for safe play and creative freedom. Einstein was grooving on some self-actualization and creativity.
- Eight Solid Needs I Have Now-
And so I come to a place where I can state my own needs. These were the ones that popped up for me.
- I need to keep prioritizing creativity.
- I need to see my talents and feel proud to gift them back to the world.
- I need to find a way to be OK with being paid for my creativity.
- I need to ask for emotional, financial, and physical support.
- I need to have and make time for my priorities.
- I need to stop trying to take care of too many other people’s needs which distract me from mine.
- I need to spend more time with girlfriends and create more friendships.
- I need to regularly reconnect with a husband and a little boy who’ve been bumped for a baby.
Yes, I still need help with my garden. I still need a babysitter. I still need a decorating friend to come and help me scheme up a new design plan for my hallway/dining room/anywhere else I am sick of. Surely some needs will work themselves out. Meditated on and intentionally thought of until they become a need ready to be fulfilled too. Because I get the feeling the more you have your needs met, the easier it is to have needs.
I am immensely grateful for being given an opportunity within my Bold Brilliant Beautiful You group to safely discover my need acceptance was “normal” and that my creative heart can excel from this nourishment. I’ve gotten a creative transfusion and my hope is for other creative women busily fulfilling everyone else’s needs, can fulfill one of their own needs today.
Mar 18, 2014
Was it cruel of me not to have shown you the chair? I’ve had it all to myself for a couple of days now. Coated it with one coat of poly today. Fussing a little about a detail or two. And I thought, I could give everyone a peak. Not sure what I’m saving the reveal for. Or where it will go on display once it returns to Easton, Maryland to the Rock On Talbot coordinators. Here you go then, a few pictures of my shy chair.
That’s all for now. Pretty isn’t it. In love with it and I hope it sells for a good amount at the auction in May to help the humane society. Two more coats of polyurethane and then I’m sending her away. I’ll make sure to take some parting shots. Hopefully the snow will melt soon.