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Stop Apologizing to Me People

During the past month, I have noticed a rather disturbing trend. People perpetually apologize for themselves. I’ll just be walking, enough room for all of us to walk, and suddenly someone will pass me by and apologize for themselves. I can not figure out why they have apologized. And this has happened at least four times in a month.

Why are we compelled to apologize for our existence? Am I truly sorry I was born? While I’ve met people who are mad that they were born and there’s not a daggone thing you can do for them, however being sorry for taking up space in the same area as another person seems weird. Now if you ran over my foot or took my parking space or burped in my face, you can totally apologize to me.Stop Apologizing to Me People on Shalavee.com

I found myself saying out loud, “Oh please don’t apologize.” Or “there’s no need to apologize”. Whether they believed me or not is theirs not mine. But I can tell you, I won’t be uttering any random apologies this year. Only well founded apologies with good cause. Because I believe in good manners, but I will not apologize for my existence anymore. Sorry not sorry.

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A Little Post Christmas Blues

Yesterday, began the first full week back to school after the winter holidays. And I was feeling a sudden bout of post-holiday-partum. We celebrated a beautiful holiday with surplus time spent with family eating sumptuous food. I coordinated the event to end all events, because we are all event planners at Christmas. And now I have to strip it all apart. Dismantle the happiness. And then I have to re-purpose myself. Ack!

To find some inspiration, I began to poke around Instagram, clicking on hashtags in curiosity. And I fell upon a woman creating a beautiful mind map which listed all of her different categorized goals for the year. And I said, yes to that idea because art and purpose! Of course, I got halfway through and my family descended on me. But there’s something about being midway through a project that makes you excited to go back to it. I’ll show you more as it progresses. I promise.

I was floundering for a little while there until I intuited a creative way out. I get to decide what I want to have fun accomplishing in 2020. Because, as my husband says, if you are not having fun, you’re not doing it right. So here’s to fun and creativity in 2020 and connecting and creating with my community in more and more ways!

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My Word of 2020 is “And” : Word recap for The Past 6 Years

This word of the year thing is an interesting ritual I found and began when I became a member of the online community. I thought it odd but was also intrigued with how it might benefit me, to have a word to inspire me. And yes, I also wanted to fit in with the cool kids.

My first time choosing one was in 2014. I chose Edit. I wanted to impress some cool kids in a community project called Bold Brilliant Beautiful.

In 2015, I chose Opportunity and Abundance and added Permission as my extra word. A conversation with Fear Mother made that post was a wonderful reread !

In 2016, Release was my what word and Perspective was my how word.

In 2017, I chose Courage. But I remember I didn’t I end up feeling too well about how that one played out.

TRUST – Take Root Under the Self Tree.

Let yourself be your protector.

Feel your values be your roots.

Invite people under your canopy and together, listen to the rain fall.

 

In 2018, I chose Trust and I can say that I finally truly felt like I lived my word that year. 

And in 2019, I chose Focus. I said, “I absolutely know that when I focus, stuff happens. It seems the operative word for Proactivity. I am capable of doing great things. I have come to understand that once I allow myself to focus, these great things happen.” It was a year of focusing on who and what I truly was with the removal of a lot of the anxiety jibber-jabber.

So this year, I am attempting a little magic mojo against the remaining anxiety. In my explanation of my word on Instagram, I said, 

 

 
 
 
 
 
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#Decemberreflections2019 – My word for 2020 is “And”. Because I want to stop thinking in extreme “Or”s. My life can be chaotic and perfect. I can be over my ideal weight and be valuable. I can never publish and still be a great writer. I am always comprised of who I was, who I am, And who I will become. I am not the sum of my body parts, my accomplishments, or my bank accounts. I exist and I belong here without earning the right to be here. “And” allows for my humanity much more than “But” or “Or”. I want to embrace all the paradoxes which belong in my life. Allow myself the perspective to choose my own best and messy life on my own terms. . Again, I am grateful for Susannah Conway’s assistance in greeting the new year with hope, perspective, and amongst friends! Happy New Year Lovelies! . #Christmastree #selfdevelopment #wordoftheyear #taleswithfriends #gaslogfire #And #mywisdomlessons #paradoxicalthinking

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All or nothing thinking does not serve us well. So today I said, I can go to an exercise class and still be overweight. Today I said, I can get some blogging and some housework done. I can be afraid and do it anyway.

And so can you.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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