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Making People Do Things

Anyone notice how hard it is to “make” people do things? You know, your mother/father/sister/brother/spouse/child/friend really needs to take care of themselves by exercising more/eating less/taking responsibility for their own stuff/ditching the toxic spouse and/or calling you up to hear your amazing wisdom more often!?

What we come to find out however, is that, just like toddlers, we all feel the need to figure it all out on our own. No one needs anyone’s well meaning advice, even if we do. It’s not that our well-meaning bad choice-making loved ones don’t value us, it’s just that they are stuck where they’re stuck until they’re not and there’s not a damn thing we can do for them but wait it out patiently.

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Best advice ever given is to just lead by example. You keep to valuing your body-temple and staying aligned with your values and integrity and show the people you love what it looks like to treat yourself and your life with respect. You are the only difference you can make and the only thing you can control. And you and your loved ones will see that even if they’re too entwined in their self destruction to see it just now. It’s a matter of time.

The last clue is that when others’ lives are bugging us, it is often our way of distracting ourselves from our problems. And that in fact, the very thing that bugs you about anyone else is the one thing you may need to take care of in your life.

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