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“Practicing the Art and Mystery of Housewifery”

We took a trip to Williamsburg, Virginia in the summer of 2012. Standing in the hot kitchen building where the cooking hearth fire had just been extinguished, the living historian explained the duties of the woman of this house in the 1700s. She oversaw all the domestic activities and practiced the art and mystery of housewifery. I asked him to repeat that. He repeated this and added, you didn’t want everyone to know all your secrets. I am, however, willing and glad to share mine here.

My definition of Housewifery encompasses mothering, housekeeping, gardening, and cooking. And includes decorating, diapering, and ridding my house of squirrels.

 

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The Mother Buffer Zone

Posted by on Mar 2, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 0 comments

The Mother Buffer Zone

I’ve always said she wants to be my hat and sit on my head. When my daughter is feeling needy, she can’t be on top of me enough. Everything that she emotionally needs is drawn from me and it’s more than draining. The give and the take between a girl and her mother is exhausting and it’s necessary. I need to be very conscious of creating a mother buffer zone. The obstinance and the emotional output she aims at me however… isn’t personal. But most of the time, it feels that way. If there’s an issue of...

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How Mrs. Doing was Forced to Have a Seat

Posted by on Feb 9, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Keeping House and Mind Alligned, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

How Mrs. Doing was Forced to Have a Seat

My old nickname used to be the Energizer Bunny. I like doing. I have valued myself for the amount of doing I get done and that’s the way I’ve coped with my stress (see industrial overfocused). And while it has worked for me that I made it through the holidays feeling pretty proactive and deserving of a few relaxation hours, I have been on a familiar treadmill during January with an obligation to coordinate a fundraising event in addition to my regular parenting band. And so I kept the relentless treadmill running in my head week...

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January Decisions

Posted by on Jan 10, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery, The Good Mother | 4 comments

January Decisions

Like a permanent pause, the winter break has extended out with snowy weather. We are all at home again today doing what work or play needs to be done. I am trying stay patient, understanding that this too shall pass and we’ll be busy busy busy again soon enough. It’s an odd place to be. But I also realize it is an opportunity to look at the decisions I need to make about who I want to be this year. And see if I’m prioritizing others over myself. And what fears I may be avoiding. See, not too long ago I was an underachieving...

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December 2017 in Pictures

Posted by on Dec 22, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Keeping House and Mind Alligned, Nest Feathers - Home Design, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 0 comments

December 2017 in Pictures

Christmas is a force to be reckoned with. It rolls up on you like some sort of stealth vehicle running on joyful intentions with wicked time constraints. Here’s my thus far pictures to prove that we’re moving right along through the season. And my story is that this Christmas, I was more proactive than ever before so that I can be more present when those wrapped presents are being torn asunder.         Enjoy your Holiday Happenings wherever and whoever you...

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Belief

Posted by on Dec 20, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 4 comments

Belief

( Enjoy this post From 2015)   Belief is the word of the week, of the season. Wrapping up the year, this concept means the most to me now. And so I will start and end on what the word belief has meant to me recently in hopes that I can both make sense and find closure in the way I see things to be now. I believe in the wonder and joy of the spirit of Christmas. That the generosity and kindness of man and womankind can rise us above our basic tendencies of smallness to bring about great moments of small humanity. That is what Christmas is to...

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The Minutia of Christmas

Posted by on Dec 18, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Keeping House and Mind Alligned, Little Guy Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona | 7 comments

The Minutia of Christmas

( From December 2014 ) The sound was a thwap and a roll, hollow plastic bouncing and traveling across the floor. My new Christmas tree balls were this moment’s entertainment. The “ball balls” were being extracted from their big clear box and thrown while I hurried to put my laundry away. Although that’s exactly why I bought those, I underestimated the little monkey’s reasoning skills. Every day is jam-packed with holiday fun. Not unlike any other day in my life, I’ve been cramming the carrying out of Christmas details...

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My Christmas Gift To Me

Posted by on Dec 13, 2017 in Ahas, Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Housewifery | 6 comments

My Christmas Gift To Me

(From Christmas 2013)    PMS, a full moon, and Christmas aren’t a good combo. Even with a whole lot done, I felt incomplete and irritated at everything this past week. Not feeling the ho ho ho in the holiday tone. Here I had a beautiful baby, everything to be grateful for, and I felt resentful. What? I want to judge it and yet I can’t when it may be telling me something needs an adjustment. I’ve been feeling more jazzed than ever to move ahead on my blog. Take the next step. I planned to use all the pictures I’d already taken, enjoy an...

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Does “Self-respecting” Describe the Parent and Self-parent You Are?

Posted by on Nov 15, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 0 comments

Does “Self-respecting” Describe the Parent and Self-parent You Are?

My daughter is just starting elementary school now in Pre-K. I am again besieged by notifications and permission slips galore just like back when Eamon was in Kindergarten and there was “homework”. See my recent repost of my piece Kindergarten Homework here. All sorts of good intentions being bantered back and forth between educator and parent about how to best raise/educate our kids. Within a hunk of papers distributed by the school this week, a subscription newsletter from a parents-institute, I read this headline: “Parents Must...

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Kindergarten Homework

Posted by on Nov 13, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Essayist, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Son Shine, Used To Be | 0 comments

Kindergarten Homework

With our enthusiastic “Go get’em” faces on, we waved our son onto the number 14 bus bound for Kindergarten. Maybe September allergies made my husband’s eyes water or maybe it was his relief that our child survived being stuck at home with me for the past 5 years. I contained my giddiness as I snapped that fateful picture of him waving back from the bus steps. We were each about to learn what going to school and developing new systems meant to us. The little guy loved school. Early in the year, I paid a visit to him and his 17 pint-sized...

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My Remodeled Pink Dining Room

Posted by on Oct 20, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Housewifery, Keeping House and Mind Alligned, Nest Feathers - Home Design, Visual Me | 2 comments

My Remodeled Pink Dining Room

It was recently brought to my attention that I had never posted the “redecorate the dining room” post. This was a May ’17 project I set myself to completing before hosting a dinner party, taking our green dining room and transforming it into a pink dining room. And I was truly pleased with myself and the results. This room reno cost a little over $200 including awesome rug, paint, and curtains. And is a monument to decorating minimalism and intuition.   At least five years ago, I decided to paint my dining room Chartreuse green. I thought...

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