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My Children are the Bully and the Terrorist

Posted by on Feb 18, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Housewifery, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 2 comments

My Children are the Bully and the Terrorist

It’s conflicting to be a parent. They are of me but not mine. I need to be open and honest for them to trust me. But I need to keep a safe distance when they have to work out who they are because sometimes, that work is at my expense. Frankly, my children will bully me to get their needs met. They’ll be disrespectful but only to me. It’s business, not personal. They’re working themselves out and I’ve got the bruises to prove it. My son’s a bully when he wants more screen time or when he needs food because...

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The Gift of Empowerment

Posted by on Oct 12, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 0 comments

The Gift of Empowerment

The sound of my whining children is like a mosquito circling my head. But instead of swatting the bug/child, I realize that they always think that they are never going to get their way, get their needs met, or be able to negotiate for themselves. Just as you have to tell them that all movies are make-believe and any movieĀ I allow them to see will always end well, you have to tell them they are allowed to ask for their needs to be met. They don’t know they’re entitled yet to positively ask for what they need. They don’t know...

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Trust Fund Addition Mission

Posted by on Apr 4, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 4 comments

Trust Fund Addition Mission

I went on a goodwill mission today and took my son to the movies. He’s moving into that tween zone of growing up. He’s pushing his boundaries out, sometimes even bullying me to get what he wants, much like his little toddler sister. And funds are pretty much depleted in our trust fund. It was four years ago I made mention of this concept in a post called Trust Deposits. Remember the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People? One of the concepts I culled from that book was about the trust accounts you build between you and...

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Belief

Posted by on Dec 23, 2015 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 4 comments

Belief

Belief is the word of the week, of the season. Wrapping up the year, this concept means the most to me now. And so I will start and end on what the word belief has meant to me recently in hopes that I can both make sense and find closure in the way I see things to be now. I believe in the wonder and joy of the spirit of Christmas. That the generosity and kindness of man and womankind can rise us above our basic tendencies of smallness to bring about great moments of small humanity. That is what Christmas is to me. But to a child, the season...

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The Value and Truth About Choices

Posted by on Feb 13, 2015 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 0 comments

The Value and Truth About Choices

I got to thinking about our human tendency to not want to be told what to do. Those who trust in their lives and make choices easily were lucky enough to have their caregivers make the right choices for them. So that they were then able to make the right choices for themselves. The two year-old refuses to do what I ask. She has no self-control and she’s frightened of that. She needs my control, wants me to prove she’s worth it. Even if she doesn’t seem to be scared, she is still a wild beast in need of help taming herself....

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Reading Restraints

Posted by on Nov 5, 2014 in Daily Shalagh, Eastern Shore Experiences, Little Guy Lessons, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 8 comments

Reading Restraints

He came home from school and told me he was reading the Hunger Games. Had been talking about how his friend had read it and he was going to check it out. And he had. I was a little skeptical. Thought it may be over his head. So I asked the librarian. Miss Amanda knows my kid. Her daughter’s a lot like Eamon in his reading voraciousness. And we traded stories about how both our children had teachers this year who want to hold them back in their reading levels. We discussed how we feel about that. We concurred that we have to defer to the...

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The Spilled Milk

Posted by on Oct 25, 2014 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Housewifery, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 3 comments

The Spilled Milk

I think the number one thing I feel guilty for in raising my kid is all the times I yelled about the spilled milk. Yes there’s bound to be spills. Yes, my boy was a spastic child doing his spastic thing. And yes, as Big Bird sings on Sesame Street, everybody makes mistakes. But for the love of Pete, the apple juice and grape juice and milk that have poured down on my clean kitchen floor time and time again. And all those dried sticky puddles under the table legs. They always just aggravated me. Like being mugged just as you are entering...

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Letting Him Go

Posted by on Aug 6, 2014 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 11 comments

Letting Him Go

All along I’ve been letting him go. When he was a baby, I let our friends take him to the mall. We encourage him to order his own soft pretzel or nuggets. I ask him if he could go to the deli and place the order for the sandwich meats. And today, I’m letting him walk home from the library by himself. I’m letting him go slowly. He’s nine now. You can see the library from our house. And if you were to go the long way, down the street, across, down the street, across, you’d pass the sheriff’s office. The great...

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Their Needs Come First, Then Come Yours

Posted by on Jul 30, 2014 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Eastern Shore Experiences, Gathering My Lessons, Housewifery, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother, The Soapbox | 6 comments

Their Needs Come First, Then Come Yours

I love that feeling you have when you’ve successfully gotten away, had time to unwind and relax, and gained some perspective on your life. You return with fresh eyes and see your life a little differently. And that is so not what I got from my recent vacation. Not in the least. I got exhaustion and irritation and the knowledge that no matter what, it’s not about my expectations ever. It’s about making sure that my children’s needs and delights are taken care of first. Despite that a person never really feels like...

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100 Days Of Happy Project

Posted by on May 21, 2014 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 2 comments

100 Days Of Happy Project

I took Eamon to see his talking doctor last Friday. Her name is Sasha, she’s a social worker, and she is so young and so lovely. The reasons are many as to why this is a little necessary. Originally, we began to see her because my son had one too many anxieties for a little guy. He’d break down at night and cry uncontrollably saying he was never going to be able to go to sleep. No matter what we assured him with, he just kept falling down the worry hole. Recently we found we have a 9 year-old who really doesn’t feel like...

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