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Raising Fair Fiona

Opinions, Entitlement, and the Value of Your Voice

Posted by on Mar 29, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother, Used To Be | 0 comments

Opinions, Entitlement, and the Value of Your Voice

Opinions are like noses, we all have them. But are we entitled and allowed to have them? If I find it hard to find a voice to express them, I may not feel I’m allowed to have an opinion in the first place. As a woman, it can prove tough not to judge myself for what I have to say as necessary or valid as I’m considering actually saying it. Then I may choose to keep quiet. I have my own internal bouncer at the thought door checking the validity, wittiness, or profundity of my outgoing thoughts and opinions. And often, they’re...

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Fiona’s Fourth Birthday Bash

Posted by on Mar 6, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 2 comments

Fiona’s Fourth Birthday Bash

Today was Fiona’s fourth birthday party and it was a complete success, by her standards and mine. Yes, she got enough Frozen themed party paraphernalia and stuff to satisfy all Frozen itches for a decade. And I got to bask in the knowledge that me and my daughter matter to all these lovely people. The reason I go to such efforts to decorate and to heap yummy food on my kitchen table is a tribute to the love that these people have for and show me and my family. My gratitude runs very deeply. I am almost speechless but then, not quite,...

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My Children are the Bully and the Terrorist

Posted by on Feb 18, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Housewifery, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 2 comments

My Children are the Bully and the Terrorist

It’s conflicting to be a parent. They are of me but not mine. I need to be open and honest for them to trust me. But I need to keep a safe distance when they have to work out who they are because sometimes, that work is at my expense. Frankly, my children will bully me to get their needs met. They’ll be disrespectful but only to me. It’s business, not personal. They’re working themselves out and I’ve got the bruises to prove it. My son’s a bully when he wants more screen time or when he needs food because...

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The Gift of Empowerment

Posted by on Oct 12, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Little Guy Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, Son Shine, The Good Mother | 0 comments

The Gift of Empowerment

The sound of my whining children is like a mosquito circling my head. But instead of swatting the bug/child, I realize that they always think that they are never going to get their way, get their needs met, or be able to negotiate for themselves. Just as you have to tell them that all movies are make-believe and any movie I allow them to see will always end well, you have to tell them they are allowed to ask for their needs to be met. They don’t know they’re entitled yet to positively ask for what they need. They don’t know...

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In Your Face

Posted by on May 20, 2016 in Daily Shalagh, Raising Fair Fiona, Silly I Tell You, The Good Mother | 0 comments

In Your Face

I am large and she is small. While I tend to her needs these days, I am stooped down often sitting on a stool while I’m dressing, diapering, buckling, or scolding her. And I’m right in her line of fire. I am the sight-line, the moving target for her assault. Toddlers are spastic. They get excited when they eat sugar, are cold, or have to pee. And when they’re excited, they are likely to mess with and shriek at whatever’s in their face. Which means me at bath time, me at diapering time (now done while she’s...

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For The Upcoming New Baby Mama

Posted by on Apr 18, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 0 comments

For The Upcoming New Baby Mama

There are two lovely young women that I know that are both expecting miracle babies. Both did not really believe this was going to happen and probably are still holding their breath on occasion. But it’s real, one’s expecting a boy and the other a girl, and I thought I’d do a baby round-up sorta post for them to share some of the tidbits of wisdom I’d posted for the miracle baby expecting and having. When my friend Claudia was having her first of two miracle babies, I wrote this article entitled A Few More Baby Tips....

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The Relentlessness of Motherhood

Posted by on Apr 8, 2016 in Ahas, Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 4 comments

The Relentlessness of Motherhood

My go to word in describing parenting is relentless. My baby daughter, ungrateful and miserable, can cry at me at least ten times today, what feels like 70 percent of the day, beating me down further and further into defeat. The relentlessness is daunting. You’re review is in. Fifty percent of today will not meet with her satisfaction and, according to her, you suck at parenting. My top seven words to embody my experience with motherhood are: Chaos Temperance Perseverance Relentless Confusion Patience Exhaustion All problems could be...

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Saturday Snowday

Posted by on Jan 25, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Eastern Shore Experiences, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 5 comments

Saturday Snowday

When we were kids, snowday meant a day off from school, more TV than usual, and maybe some rice crispy treats. Playing in the snow was a special added plus. I’m all grown up now with my own children and I can earnestly say that for Mommys, snowdays are a dreadful hell on earth. Add a sick child and they’re a more special hell but still a hell. No matter how much I prepared and shopped and cleaned, the actual “being trapped in the house” snowday meant perpetual messes and no time alone for myself unless I was cooking. It meant a...

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Create or Die Trying

Posted by on Oct 6, 2015 in Ahas, Creative Projects, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Pretty Pictures, Raising Fair Fiona, She's Crafty, The Good Mother, Visual Me | 6 comments

Create or Die Trying

Today I gave my collaging a break. Wanted to artfully describe the frustration, the real feelings I feel when I go to create and I can’t. I wrote posts instead. And I also wanted to share the other art that’s happened so far. Let the catharsis continue. Create or die trying. Hands poised over the keyboard, a hovering potential of something to come in the space between. Then…The horrible screeching of toddler joined by an unskilled clarinet honk. My nerves already frazzly. “Why is she crying” I scream. “Put...

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My Color Purple Story

Posted by on Oct 4, 2015 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Raising Fair Fiona, The Good Mother | 4 comments

My Color Purple Story

One of my very favorite movies that I haven’t reseen in a long time, The Color Purple, has one of my favorite scenes of all time. I’ve mentioned this before but here I go again. Oprah Winfrey’s character Sophia Butler was spirited. After she is struck down and jailed for her spirit, she’s deformed and in the service of a neurotic white woman named Miss Millie who is loathable. In this scene, Sophia gets to go see her family again and she drives herself there with Miss Millie in Miss Millie’s car. She arrives and...

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