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The Good Mother

As a mother, we strive to be “good”, to do our best. You always need a goal. Sometimes you reach it and sometimes you’re left feeling the weight of a job not well done. And then you start all over again.

I have a boy and a girl, 8 years apart. I am 47 years old. And these are my stories.

Motherhood is a Choice, Not Mandatory

Posted by on May 22, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

Motherhood is a Choice, Not Mandatory

Mother’s Day was a hoot this year. Mark made sure that my every need was overly taken care of. My children said they loved me every half hour and I got thee wishes plus one more fulfilled. Household tasks I would otherwise be blown off for asking were taken care of speedily like sorting through a pile of paperwork and reattaching my newel post. And I only went shopping and cooked a tenderloin and a pie. The rests of the meals were taken care of by my family. But I also understand that Mother’s Day is one of those holidays that not...

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A Walk in the Woods for a Little Forest Bathing

Posted by on May 20, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Health and Body Wellness | 1 comment

A Walk in the Woods for a Little Forest Bathing

Walking the Cross Island Trail on Kent Island here on Maryland’s Eastern Shore, USA, is an escape walk for me. Even with the whooshing of the nearby highway, I go just 100 feet down the asphalt pathway and suddenly I’m surrounded by tall trees and wondrous birdsong. I went forest bathing, or Shinrin-yoku, today and the Nature Therapy is always necessary. I chose to go East this time instead of West. And I enjoyed the change of the feel of the forest and the water views. Old dark stumps crouching on the woods floor felt like cat...

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Let It Be

Posted by on May 6, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Family, Midlife Motherhood, Nestmaker, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Let It Be

So many things I think I should be doing. I should have a spiritual practice. I should be exercising more. I should be publishing my brilliant writing in big magazines. But most of the time, I can’t accommodate all of my shoulds. And my day turns into cleaned bathrooms, walk taken, and dinner made. Throw a holiday in there and I don additional job hats as a fat elf and an invisible bunny rabbit. There’s no such thing as regularity. Yet somehow I keep hoping it’s possible. Yes I could use a wife. And here comes Summer time...

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The Hurry, Scurry, and Worry

Posted by on May 1, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Health and Body Wellness | 0 comments

The Hurry, Scurry, and Worry

I became so tired of the hurry, scurry, and worry. As I read blog posts and Instagram posts about how people had experienced adrenal gland burn out from all the anxiety juice they were pumping into their bodies, I understood even more my own addiction to Doing. In my case, the anxiety manifested into stomach problems. As a child, I had stomach aches. As a college student, I had gastritis which was one step away from an ulcer. And when I had my children I would devlop a pain in my stomach that went straight back to my rib cage. My anxieties...

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Easter 2019

Posted by on Apr 24, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Family | 0 comments

Easter 2019

This year, my son’s birthday fell on the same day as Easter. So we had more family around and multiple days to do all the activities. The Easter egg hunt was on Easter/Eamon’s birthday orchestrated by him and Miss Sue aka the Easter Chicken. The hunt privilege has been passed down from Eamon to Fiona and this year featured a treasure hunt. Egg dying happened later in the day after Mark tilled his vegetable garden. There was probably 2 dozen eggs and I let my children, sister, and mother dye all of them save one. There was some...

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My Purposeful Life as Mother

Posted by on Apr 8, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

My Purposeful Life as  Mother

I have long been frustrated with my fearful self. I’m so smart and so talented so need to make an impact on the world. Let everyone know who I am and what I know. And if I don’t, I’m a loser. It’s the smart girl’s sabotage. It’s the knife I perpetually hold to my throat. And then the other day, Fiona and I were returning from the library, she ahead of me climbing the hill beside the steps, and I realized she was so deserving of the purpose she is for me. I devote and leave so much of my life open to her. I...

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Our Fear of the Growing Older Pains

Posted by on Apr 5, 2019 in Health and Body Wellness, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Our Fear of the Growing Older Pains

I have gone through a lot in the past two years to rid myself of the aches and pains that I garnered from an aging body. I endured needles jammed into my backside multiple times. And then waited cautiously to see if the procedure worked. I waited again to be pain free when I had another needle in my shoulder. I then awaited the pains to return. And waited. How was it that my ever-exuberant self became to person who sat and waited for pain? What I discovered is that aging is a unknown and therefore fearful. We’ve seen others age and we...

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Keep Aware of Your Dreams

Posted by on Mar 15, 2019 in Raising Fair Fiona, Random | 2 comments

Keep Aware of Your Dreams

Last night I had a dream that I was being challenged by a short red-eyed robot girl who might have had red hair too. I topped that dream with a waitress dream. The one where I can’t put my waitressing uniform together or find a ticket book or a pen to take the orders. Thankfully, I woke up after telling everyone to evacuate the area which was under attack by an army. But I now know the robot girl is Fiona. I am keenly aware of my subconscious today. How about you? And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in...

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The Seesaw of Being a Creative and a Parent

Posted by on Mar 8, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

The Seesaw of Being a Creative and a Parent

The seesaw of being a creative and a parent . As mothers and creatives we can doubt ourselves. But creativity is necessary. It just requires our devotion to being in the moment, both with kids and us.

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Fiona is almost 6 years old

Posted by on Feb 27, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona | 3 comments

Fiona is almost 6 years old

My Wee Fiona is about to turn 6 yrs old in a week. She’s over 55 pounds and 4 feet. She’s a solid beautiful little lass.  We’re at that place where she’s demanding competency and independence. Reading like a pro. On the verge of her life. And life has many many lessons to teach both of us. So I leave her in her bathtub for a few minutes the other night and I hear her call me. ” What do you need Fiona ?” “Can you bring me my blond Barbie baby?” “I don’t know where it is.”...

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