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The Good Mother

As a mother, we strive to be “good”, to do our best. You always need a goal. Sometimes you reach it and sometimes you’re left feeling the weight of a job not well done. And then you start all over again.

I have a boy and a girl, 8 years apart. I am 47 years old. And these are my stories.

Testing, Testing, is this Parent On ?

Posted by on Sep 11, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Little Guy Lessons, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona | 4 comments

Testing, Testing, is this Parent On ?

This first week of school is notoriously rough for our youngest. There are new teachers, new routines, and new buses to acquaint themselves with. And I fully expect our train to derail somewhere in the middle of back to school week. I was slightly mistaken in that there weren’t as many neurotic breakdowns and a crying fits. But the weekend brought me the brunt of the week with not so fab behavioral choices. The tall one was seemingly good until we found he’d smuggled his phone up to his room for late night phone poking and gaming...

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Oh Universe, What Would You Have Me Do?

Posted by on Sep 9, 2019 in Ahas, Community, Daily Shalagh, Essayist, Health and Body Wellness, Random, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Oh Universe, What Would You Have Me Do?

We mistrust ourselves so much, we have to hand much of our decision making over to another power. We create elaborate ways to make decisions. Drop a divining line down and see which way it swings to decide (dowsing pendulum). Pick your arm up and drop it to see if you should eat it (applied kinesiology). Because it’s awfully hard admitting that you have no faith in your own decisions and easier to give it over to something else. The exception being God. But most of us are faithless and frenetic. The Drowning man story is the best story...

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Labor of Mom Love

Posted by on Sep 2, 2019 in Family, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

Labor of Mom Love

My sister asked if I had any plans for the day. I said nah, I’m not doing anything. Just my regular stuff, no big deal. And she says, I would say you do a lot of stuff and a big deal. And I realize that I just belittled myself and all the hard work I put into my house that I do make it look clean and easy. I am at the store with my son and he asks if this half a cart full of groceries is a regular size shop. I ask if he knows how many meals a week I am responsible for. 21 meals and that includes any that I have to pay for at his school...

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My Key Lime Pie Recipe

Posted by on Aug 19, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, My Joy of Cooking, Raising Fair Fiona | 2 comments

My Key Lime Pie Recipe

After a few decades bringing food to potlucks, you develop your own go-tos to make. In the Summertime, my must bring is Key Lime pie. The recipe is ridiculously simple and the graham cracker pie crust tins make great carrying containers. Key Lime Pie One premade graham cracker pie crust 4 egg yolks and one egg white 14 ounce can of sweetened condensed milk ¾ cup lime juice Tub of Cool Whip topping Kiwi fruit peeled and sliced The premade crust asks to be painted with egg whites and precooked for 5 minutes at 375 degrees F. Mix egg yolks,...

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“Do You Work?”, He Asked

Posted by on Aug 16, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Wisdom Lessons | 4 comments

“Do You Work?”, He Asked

I finally scheduled the procedure to have a fatty lump taken off my belly this week. I’ll spare you the gory details. But while the surgeons had the scalpel poised over my belly, he asks me, “Do you work?”. I said not in a traditional job but I do work. “Are you a housewife?”, he asks. I respond that this phrase is outdated. “Well what do you call it then? “ he says. Homemaker? Domestic Engineer? I found myself explaining that I work very hard to maintain our life and our home plus am a writer, but that old nagging self-worth question...

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What 2018 Taught Me

Posted by on Aug 14, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Health and Body Wellness, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery, The Soapbox | 0 comments

What 2018 Taught Me

I felt like I was making great strides in growing myself last year, 2018. I was feeling more sure of what my creativity was giving me both personally and perhaps professionally. I offered up a Wholehearted Living piece to a writer friend’s blog. And I started to create my own theory on the inverse relationship of creativity and anxiety. I felt a rhythm was coming. And then I suffered an anxiety setback that set me reeling. I abandoned my aspirations and hunkered down to ride out the storm. And I took myself to the doctor’s and...

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Co-creating with my Family

Posted by on Aug 12, 2019 in Community, Creative Projects, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood | 2 comments

Co-creating with my Family

You know that I’m all about creativity. I’ve been described as an ambassador to creativity. Putting a slice of yourself into the world is affirming in the most wonderful ways. And I also believe that community creativity is a sure fire way to join people together. My family is regularly subjected to family art projects by me. In the Fall, group pumpkin carving is mandatory. We go out and pick our pumpkins and one night before Halloween, we sit at the kitchen table, draw out our jack-o-lantern faces, scoop out, and carve our...

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Creativity Couldn’t Cure Me

Posted by on Aug 5, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Health and Body Wellness, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

Creativity Couldn’t Cure Me

Back in November, I had what I’ve referred to as an emotional fallout. It was like an anxiety caused implosion which caused me a couple days of waiting and watching the grief I was experiencing. I consequently took myself to my doctor and asked for some anti-anxiety meds. While these were exactly what I’d needed for a very long time, this also caused me a new wave of grief for admitting to a failure to “fix” myself without them. Creativity couldn’t cure me. I am a devoted self-development practitioner. I have been chasing a...

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Do You Rage or Resign Yourself ?

Posted by on Jul 22, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Nestmaker | 2 comments

Do You Rage or Resign Yourself ?

Have you ever found yourself frustrated because you have a chore to do and you just don’t feel like doing it? It’s too hot to take the trash out. There’s dishes piled in the sink and it’s late. My feet are dirty and I’m too tired for a bath. There’s nothing to eat in the house but the thought of take out food turns your stomach? When things smack of effort, we can feel resentful, angry even. We don’t feel like it. But what we are also inadvertently saying is that we aren’t worth the effort. Life...

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My Body Temple

Posted by on Jul 10, 2019 in Health and Body Wellness, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

My Body Temple

I recently committed to attending as many classes at the Y as I could. I remembered seeing a woman I knew once and she’d lost all sorts of weight and looked great. I asked what she’d done. She said she’d…gone to as many exercise classes as she could. Here’s what I wrote in my journal in January (it has taken me 6 months). “I talk about being a part of a community but I don’t join in the exercise classes at the YMCA. My brain says, ‘But what if I can’t keep up with it. ‘ But we show up for...

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