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The Good Mother

As a mother, we strive to be “good”, to do our best. You always need a goal. Sometimes you reach it and sometimes you’re left feeling the weight of a job not well done. And then you start all over again.

I have a boy and a girl, 8 years apart. I am 47 years old. And these are my stories.

Value the Heck out of Our Good Educators

Posted by on Oct 5, 2018 in Creative Soul Living, Little Guy Lessons, Midlife Motherhood, Son Shine | 0 comments

Value the Heck out of Our Good Educators

We have our kid enrolled in a public school. He’s a super smart kid, scores ridiculously high on those school standardized tests, and we’d absolutely go into debt to pay for a private school if it was the right thing. But he’s a musician and the music program at his school is marvelous. The reason the school’s music program is so very good is because of one teacher. One amazing dedicated inspirational teacher. He’s the guy who was a music nerd in school just like my kid. He’s turned Eamon and his classmates...

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With No Definition of Success Or Enough, You’re a Hamster on a Wheel

Posted by on Sep 7, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Family, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 4 comments

With No Definition of Success Or Enough, You’re a Hamster on a Wheel

I once read that you won’t know if you have succeeded if you don’t have a picture of what success looks like. I found that profound and daunting as I wasn’t allowed to succeed so I’d be unable to come up with that. I can also see now that having no definition of enough would wear one out in a never-ending pursuit of it. The proverbial hamster’s treadmill of running and never getting there. Yet aren’t these two words the hinge pin for American success? They used to call me the Energizer Bunny because I was...

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Pitching the “When I Lose Weight” Clothing

Posted by on Jul 11, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Health and Body Wellness, Wisdom Lessons | 7 comments

Pitching the “When I Lose Weight” Clothing

I am still engaged in a lifelong battle against my own body. A perpetual hostage of “when I lose weight”. Most of the past three decades has been spent judging my physical self as under par and trying to fix it (This may also have applied to how I felt about my mind too but we’ll stick to the injustice at hand …and belly and… ). I have been in a perpetual battle of disgust with myself and I am so very tired now. I’d like to call a cease fire. There is no fix for this fixed fight and I will always lose....

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Summer 2018 Continues

Posted by on Jul 10, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Family | 0 comments

Summer 2018 Continues

Summer 2018 is rolling out in a leisurely fashion. It started out at a run when we went straight to the beach the weekend after school let out. But that ended up being a great thing for all of us to be put into the official Summer mode. I’ve allowed myself to sleep or lay in bed in the mornings knowing there was no rush to do anything. I have kept up with dual art challenges which forces me to take a break and be creative. I had a great time just being outside in the beautiful weather we’ve had recently. And generally, it feels...

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They Do As They See

Posted by on Jul 4, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona | 0 comments

They Do As They See

We all mean well as parents. Well most of us. We mess up trying to overcompensate for the advantages we didn’t have as children. We spoil them and we coddle them when all they really need is our undivided attention and our faith in them. But the one thing many of us seem to overlook is that how we treat ourselves shows them how to treat themselves. And that is only a good story if we are good to ourselves. There is a woman at the exercise gym I belong to who teaches several fitness classes. And her hyper self-loathing comes out when she...

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I May Still Be a Runner Yet

Posted by on Jun 15, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Health and Body Wellness, Random, Self-Discovery | 4 comments

I May Still Be a Runner Yet

A while back, I wrote a post titled, I’m No Longer a Runner. I bemoaned the fact that my apparent SI joint malformation was increasing in pain and that it may stop me cold from doing the one thing that had always been my happy exercise: running. Because when we are faced with chronic pain, we think we have to give up hope. We begin to compromise and make due and tell ourselves there are other ways we can be happy. Never an excuse to stop following the breadcrumbs to our wellness but it slows us down with the not knowing. I am happy to...

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Being on Purple : The Good Girl Control

Posted by on Jun 13, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Little Guy Lessons, Midlife Motherhood, Raising Fair Fiona, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Being on Purple : The Good Girl Control

At my daughter’s school, the children’s behavior is monitored daily by a stoplight inspired grading system. If you’ve behaved yourself , you get on a green status. If you received a warning, its yellow. And a bad choice will get you to red status and probably get you sent to a principal’s waiting room, or maybe that’s just what I remember. But the most insipid of all is the purple. Because that represents better than good behavior and it’s all my daughter seems to want. To be the good girl. When she’s...

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Loving Your Inner Daughter

Posted by on Jun 1, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Loving Your Inner Daughter

About a month ago, my therapist and I were discussing the constant upset that my daughter seems to experience. And she stressed the fact that I needed to encourage my daughter to comfort herself. That knowing that you can be there for you and love yourself through to feeling better is the first step in empowering her and making sure she doesn’t seek out other methods of comfort for quelling the pain. When I discussed being there for yourself with my daughter, she referred to it as having a Body Buddy. That she came up with the phrase...

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A Few Thoughts On Mother’s Day

Posted by on May 14, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

A Few Thoughts On Mother’s Day

All-consuming, persistent, relentless, and unforgiving. Motherhood is 365 days per year of these and many more words, flattering and not. One day to recognize all of this feels cheesy. But then Christmas feels all too short to celebrate our oneness with Gratitude and salvation. We’ll be celebrating more Mother’s day next weekend as my husband had to work this weekend. And honestly, the kids are cute and smart but they’ll only take as much initiative as they’re told to when it comes to Mother recognition. So my thought...

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Why Make the Effort?

Posted by on May 4, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Why Make the Effort?

When you don’t feel you are worth it, like the effort to go to the doctor or make those changes to your diet or get more education for a better paying job, why and who you are making the effort for may be your key to motivation. You don’t value yourself enough for the effort? So be it. But if you have children, their needs for your best You always trump everything. Your why is always your key to getting your life done. And if you have kids, they are a bigger why than we even realize. They are witnessing everything that we do and...

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