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“Practicing the Art and Mystery of Housewifery”

We took a trip to Williamsburg, Virginia in the summer of 2012. Standing in the hot kitchen building where the cooking hearth fire had just been extinguished, the living historian explained the duties of the woman of this house in the 1700s. She oversaw all the domestic activities and practiced the art and mystery of housewifery. I asked him to repeat that. He repeated this and added, you didn’t want everyone to know all your secrets. I am, however, willing and glad to share mine here.

My definition of Housewifery encompasses mothering, housekeeping, gardening, and cooking. And includes decorating, diapering, and ridding my house of squirrels.

 

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On ‘The Good Mother’

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 On ‘My Joy of Cooking’

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On ‘How Does My Garden Grow’

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On ‘To Clean or Not to Clean’

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Do You Rage or Resign Yourself ?

Posted by on Jul 22, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Nestmaker | 0 comments

Do You Rage or Resign Yourself ?

Have you ever found yourself frustrated because you have a chore to do and you just don’t feel like doing it? It’s too hot to take the trash out. There’s dishes piled in the sink and it’s late. My feet are dirty and I’m too tired for a bath. There’s nothing to eat in the house but the thought of take out food turns your stomach? When things smack of effort, we can feel resentful, angry even. We don’t feel like it. But what we are also inadvertently saying is that we aren’t worth the effort. Life...

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A Summer Morning Walk in Denton

Posted by on Jul 1, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, How Does My Garden Grow, Pretty Pictures | 2 comments

A Summer Morning Walk in Denton

Missed posting this morning bright and early because the Garden Party happened. I took a long walk as the weather had broken and other than the fact that my feet hurt, it was a glorious walk. All the cottages in town looked proud and festive. The dappling of the Summer light through the trees was so enticing. And in the cacophony of cicada and cricket song from the trees to the meadow, I heard the lullaby of lazy days to come. Crabapple tree I owe you a garden and garden party post and now that I have time to do that, I’ll do that. And...

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Let It Be

Posted by on May 6, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Family, Midlife Motherhood, Nestmaker, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Let It Be

So many things I think I should be doing. I should have a spiritual practice. I should be exercising more. I should be publishing my brilliant writing in big magazines. But most of the time, I can’t accommodate all of my shoulds. And my day turns into cleaned bathrooms, walk taken, and dinner made. Throw a holiday in there and I don additional job hats as a fat elf and an invisible bunny rabbit. There’s no such thing as regularity. Yet somehow I keep hoping it’s possible. Yes I could use a wife. And here comes Summer time...

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Mugged by Grief

Posted by on Apr 29, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Random | 2 comments

Mugged by Grief

I admitted that finding the remaining single earring from a pair made me feel grief all over again. And I resolved to let go of that which causes me grief.

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Gardening Mojo

Posted by on Apr 19, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, How Does My Garden Grow | 0 comments

Gardening Mojo

Since I had Fiona, I have been unable to regain my gardening mojo. The very thing that brought me to buy a house, dirt to plant a garden in, had become a burden I was buried under. Looking every year at my overgrown garden overwhelmed and depressed me. Last year, I made a charitable donation and received a garden consultation. And this spurred me into enthusiastic gardening action that I hadn’t felt in a while. I head “I could” again. I worked on a couple beds last Summer. And this year, I’ve picked back up where I left off. I...

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Clearing Away the Clutter and Chaos

Posted by on Mar 27, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Clearing Away the Clutter and Chaos

In the beginning of the year, I began the simplification and clearing out of my house yet again. A couple years back, I read Marie Kondo’s book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up . I adopted a few of her storing techniques but never went all through the house. In January,I start stripping my life of my past chaos and applying more of her techniques to embrace the magic. I got new towels for Christmas so in January, I cleaned out my linen closet and the old ones went to the SPCA. The chaos of too much stuff is overwhelming. I begin to...

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Self Love Day

Posted by on Feb 13, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 5 comments

Self Love Day

Valentine’s week is here. And I found myself considering what self-love meant to me. Undoubtedly we can not truly pay someone the attention and respect of love unselfishly if we do not have some to spare from our own hearts. But what does self-love look like at it’s best. And can we court or woo ourselves into liking us better? Self-love is part care-taking and part self-compassion. It’s being a good parent and a gracious host. I love myself when I eat good for me food I’m happy to eat and that’s yummy too. I...

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How Do you Know the Wannas from the Shoulds ?

Posted by on Feb 4, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

How Do you Know the Wannas from the Shoulds ?

I am in the process of clearing and cleaning out my files and shelves in January. After my collapse of November, I decided that all goals and shoulds from last year are suspect. Because I truly got the sense that I was striving for much of that based on what I thought I should be doing. But I couldn’t help but think, when do many of us have the opportunity or are encouraged to live for our own happiness? As women, we are programmed to take care of other’s happiness. As children of narcissists, we are not supposed to exist but for...

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Making Room For ME

Posted by on Jan 30, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned | 0 comments

Making Room For ME

I am gaining clarity by clearing my space of clutter. And I realized that I am making space for me now. I have grown beyond where I was.

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Stillness Thoughts in a New Year

Posted by on Jan 2, 2019 in Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Self-Discovery | 4 comments

Stillness Thoughts in a New Year

The stillness of the house is like a pond in a winter’s morning. It beckons me to sit and just listen to the tick of the clock like a cricket in the weeds. Instead of leaping up and jumping in, I sat down and napped in the yawning silence. I haven’t had time to myself in a week and a half. I organized my linen closet yesterday because I asked for new towels for Christmas. I filled three trash bags full of stuff I don’t need anymore or maybe never needed. A white matelasse bedspread I’ll never use as well as old towels...

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