search
top

Housewifery

 

house front

“Practicing the Art and Mystery of Housewifery”

We took a trip to Williamsburg, Virginia in the summer of 2012. Standing in the hot kitchen building where the cooking hearth fire had just been extinguished, the living historian explained the duties of the woman of this house in the 1700s. She oversaw all the domestic activities and practiced the art and mystery of housewifery. I asked him to repeat that. He repeated this and added, you didn’t want everyone to know all your secrets. I am, however, willing and glad to share mine here.

My definition of Housewifery encompasses mothering, housekeeping, gardening, and cooking. And includes decorating, diapering, and ridding my house of squirrels.

 

Click On These For The Stories

On ‘The Good Mother’

Or read ‘Mommy’s Thought Thoughts’

 On ‘Raising Fair Fiona’ 

Or read ‘Oopsie Daisy Mommy

 On ‘Son Shine’

Or read ‘Ready or Not, Here’s Mommy’

 On ‘My Joy of Cooking’

Or read ‘Beautiful Buttermilk’

On ‘How Does My Garden Grow’

Or read ‘My Brown Thumb’

On ‘To Clean or Not to Clean’

Or read ‘New Year’s Urge’

I Will Not Ask Your Permission to Parent You

Posted by on Nov 10, 2020 in Homebody, Little Guy Lessons, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

I Will Not Ask Your Permission to Parent You

As you may know, we now have an official teenager in our home. Not the 13-year-old wanna be teen. Not the emerging effort teen. We have the full out hormones are making me weird and mindless teen. And no matter what you say, there are certain things I will not accept as normal for a teen. This is a kid who was so good I used to say he needed a day where he had permission to just be bad all day. He was polite if not thoughtful. Sure Dad, yes Mom. And then, girlfriend, lockdown, and his demands to make his own decisions about his use of “his”...

read more

An October ’20 Update

Posted by on Oct 29, 2020 in Family, Homebody | 12 comments

An October ’20 Update

Let me catch you up dearest readers on what has blown up my life. If you follow me on social media, you’ll already know that I have been dealing with my mother’s fall and her subsequent hospital visit. But this story goes much much deeper for me as many mother stories do. I have been called back many any times in my life to take care of my mother. I’ve cleaned her house. I’ve euthanized her cats. Anything and everything to return to rescue her from herself. And I’ve carried a huge resentment around for it all. My...

read more

Ah Do Do Do, Ah Da Da Da, S’all I Want to Say to You

Posted by on Oct 6, 2020 in Daily Shalagh, Family, Homebody, Keeping House and Mind Aligned | 1 comment

Ah Do Do Do, Ah Da Da Da, S’all I Want to Say to You

Am I doing it right? I dunno. Am I doing it anyway, Yup! This week is filled with anticipation of Autumn and all the cleaning and doing projects that seem to accompany the break in hot weather. Home and garden maintenance and cleaning. The windows look horrid. The bought potted perennials need planting. Things need painting. The littlest child is returning to school on Thursday. Seems no one died from the virus this week in Maryland. She will be masked and I will be driving her to school. But it gives me some hope that this will all be a...

read more

Plague Parenting

Posted by on Sep 29, 2020 in Homebody, Midlife Motherhood, Son Shine | 1 comment

Plague Parenting

I’ve been with my kids perpetually since March. Which means I have been their sounding board, their punching bag, and their home base. To maintain our family’s equilibrium, and my sanity, I’ve had to get even craftier about my parenting. Buying them things sometimes brightens the mood. Restricting screen viewing works occasionally. But what I’ve found is very effective is installing a carrot that you can yank whenever they get used to the taste. Bwahahahahah! My son is just about driving age. So physically learning how...

read more

September Has Arrived

Posted by on Sep 2, 2020 in Creative Soul Living, Keeping House and Mind Aligned | 0 comments

September Has Arrived

September has arrived. The crickets forewarned me. The temperature dropped a delightful 15 degrees Fahrenheit although the humidity has kept its nasty reign on out region. I look forward to these things. To the schedule, rhythm, and routine of the school work week so I may advance with my own progress. To the planning, implementing, and shutting down of the garden workload. To bringing down the fuzzy rug and turning on the fireplace because it’s cold outside. To wearing clothing that covers the back of my thighs. To firepits in the...

read more

What Would Make My Life a “Success”

Posted by on Aug 26, 2020 in Creative Soul Living, Homebody, Midlife Motherhood, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

What Would Make My Life a “Success”

What do you do? The answer to this question implies your worth and productivity to the world. This question is why you stopped going to events where there might be strangers. Because you aren’t certain that there’s an answer you can provide that will bring satisfaction to you and them. But what if we stopped valuing and judging ourselves on what we do? Gasp. What if we valued ourselves and our presence in this world and instead focused on what a successful life looked like to us not others? What would that look like? To spend...

read more

Summer Simmers Along Slowly

Posted by on Aug 12, 2020 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Eastern Shore Experiences, Homebody | 0 comments

Summer Simmers Along Slowly

Summer simmers along slowly. My daughter’s mood is much improved since our trip to RI. This sweet little thank you note she gave me while we were there says it all. She and her new little cat Sassy get each other wound up and scream and run through the house. The purple stitches will be removed tomorrow from her eye removal two weeks ago. We have a kinda rhythm going. Sleep and eat and do as we need to. I’ve been planning meals to make it easier on me with Eamon making one per week. Eamon has had his band over to practice weekly....

read more

As Long as Never Enough Is the Mutter

Posted by on Aug 10, 2020 in Daily Shalagh, Homebody, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Midlife Motherhood | 0 comments

As Long as Never Enough Is the Mutter

I waste moments in my day thinking about how lucky other people are. Well of course they can work out for two hours, grab a coffee with a friend, or sit and read for hours, they aren’t parents of small people. I’m comparing my apples to their oranges. One day, I’ll have that time back. And this just goes to prove my underlying understanding of my life : there’s never enough time, energy, or money to do all the things I want do. So you’d think I’d go ahead and lower my standards to feel better about my life....

read more

The Emperor’s New Couch

Posted by on Jun 3, 2020 in Homebody, Silly I Tell You | 0 comments

The Emperor’s New Couch

I had finally found “the couch”. Our TV room couch, aka Parlor couch, is a slip-covered mess. When I got it in the 90’s back in Baltimore, it reeked of smoke and was covered in a blue gray 80’s fabric. The only thing different now is that we’ve gone through several slipcovers and the smoke has been replaced with farts. But it’s gargantuan and fits all of us on it for a movie. And if you stuff a pillow behind you, your back won’t hurt as much. But in the back of my mind, I’ve been cheating on the couch with...

read more

Just Five Things

Posted by on May 20, 2020 in Community, Creative Projects, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Family, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Just Five Things

I have joined a week long exercise in mindfulness and community expansion this week. Created and run by Michelle GD, The Just Five Things Course is asking me to pause three times a day and list five things based on the prompt word of the day. I must admit that “Gratitude” was a hard prompt for me to be inspired by yesterday. However, what came to my attention is that maybe I truly need way more intentional time carved out for myself for my well being. My boundaries are a little wobbly sometimes. Today is Home and I wanted to share...

read more
top