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Living the Freelance Family Life

Posted by on Jan 27, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 2 comments

Living the Freelance Family Life

My freelance family life is a little unconventional. When my husband’s full-time job disappeared less than 10 years ago, he went freelance. And this is still not an understood way of life. The days of trusting the corporation to take care of the family through pensions and retirement are long gone, vanished with the unions and plowed down by corporate trading less than 30 years ago. Yet freelancers are still regarded as oddballs without a 9 – 5 lifestyle. Freelance means that my husband has multiple sources of income. He accepts jobs...

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Perspective Saves You From Feeling Sucky and Unlucky

Posted by on Oct 28, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 0 comments

Perspective Saves You From Feeling Sucky and Unlucky

During the first week of school, Eamon’s teacher told the class that Bullies don’t know, or care,  that you are very important to someone in your life. You are just not too important to the bully, who in turn wishes those people in his/her life who supposedly love him/her would act like it. It’s your perspective of your worth that can stop the bully from coming after you. You matter whether you recognize it or not. People are mean to one another. Empathy and compassion are missing in many places, in many people. And...

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The Opposite of Scarcity is Enough

Posted by on Sep 30, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 2 comments

The Opposite of Scarcity is Enough

I can hear myself saying more more more, not enough. The house is never clean enough, fixed enough, or redecorated enough. My body is not thin or young or tan enough. My efforts to succeed as a writer, blogger, online maker are not ever enough. And so every day I come up short and scared. If I am not enough, I am plain afraid you’ll find out. I have lived my life at a deficit for years. All of those thoughts have been real and gone through my head. The standards by which I am comparing myself to are randomly based on an American ideal....

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Addiction Pimps Out Your Anxieties to Feed its Need

Posted by on Aug 31, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 2 comments

Addiction Pimps Out Your Anxieties to Feed its Need

Fear, anxiety, and addiction work together in a hooker and pimp relationship. In order to quell the fear of death or abandonment, an addiction was created to cope. Not the truth necessarily but our primitive brains think it is. The addiction is then an alleviation of the fear of something that isn’t true. Often the substance or act releases the calming hormones in our brains that we are also addicted to releasing. So addiction relies on anxiety to amp up the fear trigger and give it a reason to feed. Fear’s lie is that if you...

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Unethical Electrical Supply : A Horror Story

Posted by on Jul 13, 2016 in Daily Shalagh, Eastern Shore Experiences, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 2 comments

Unethical Electrical Supply : A Horror Story

At the beginning of the year, I say to Mark,” We got this notice in the mail about switching to an ethical electrical supplier. What do you think?” He says, “Well it’ll cost a little more. It’s up to you.” I say, “Well it seems a good idea let me just do it and be willing to pay a little more.” How I wished my husband hadn’t been so easygoing that day. That he’d been a cheapskate and said for me to forget being ethical this time around. But he didn’t proclaim “change is bad” like any other control freaking out...

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Care For the Caretaker

Posted by on May 18, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Good Mother, The Soapbox | 2 comments

Care For the Caretaker

Why is it hard to take care of ourselves? All the rallying I’m reading for our personal radical self-care reminds me that there’s a deficit in our self-priorities. But why? I know our expectations of our treatment of self come from our environments, our upbringing, and our role models. I heard and saw my mother disrespect herself, deny her beauty and power by the way she allowed the world to treat her and her husband, my father, to treat her. I knew she was anxious and felt unworthy by the way she fretted about the world she lived...

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My Grocery Shopping Fantasy : Being DONE

Posted by on Dec 16, 2015 in Daily Shalagh, Random, Silly I Tell You, The Soapbox | 4 comments

My Grocery Shopping Fantasy : Being DONE

I declared sometime during Thanksgiving week, in the middle of the continuous trips to the grocery store for yet more nuts I thought I’d gotten and more butter and those trash bags I forgot to get, that I wanted to be Done with grocery shopping! Wouldn’t it be fabulous if you could know that this shop was going to be your very last. You would never have to run to the store for the one thing you’d forgotten ever again. To never have to pretend to care about planning out the meals and stocking up the cupboard or getting...

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Imagine

Posted by on Aug 21, 2015 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 2 comments

Imagine

Driving southward to Peace Camp this July and John Lennon’s Imagine comes on the radio. It plays through to the first chorus and I ask Eamon if he knows what the song is about. And he is spot on when he answers, “he doesn’t want there to be any war”. And I say, yes and all those things that he’s imagining away are just reasons for people to dislike and ultimately kill each other over. Land, Damnation, Redemption, and Ethnicity. At Peace Camp we had a brief assembly and talked about what it means to be a...

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Healthcare Revisited

Posted by on Jan 14, 2015 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, The Soapbox | 8 comments

Healthcare Revisited

My most controversial post to date was the one I wrote and published while I was newly pregnant with Fiona and flippantly claimed that I was going to have to use government healthcare to have her. I then had an opportunity to write a bigger article for a local publication here. We were 6 years without healthcare since Mark’s Union President days. We weren’t going to be able to afford the miracle that I was hoping to create. Although thankfully, all children are always covered in every state by law. The subject of the proposed...

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Anxiety

Posted by on Oct 11, 2014 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, The Soapbox, Used To Be | 4 comments

Anxiety

Quite honestly, there was never a time when I wasn’t anxious. I have always been anxious. The baby was three weeks old and boy was I anxious. I’ve always felt anxious and therefore I was. Got it honestly from my family. I was so used to being this way that, in college, my growing stomach pains were just something I tried to ignore. Until one day I was told I had gastritis and soon to have an ulcer. I tried to mend my anxious ways. The pain would come and go but it really wasn’t until a year ago that I actually got rid of the...

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