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Gathering My Lessons

I am constantly learning from my life. Someone special to me said that I could glean a lesson even from a recipe.

Which is what I did in my post, When The Recipes Must Go.

I call them Ahas. I can also stand on a Soapbox every once in a while.

And I learn some pretty big stuff from some little people in my life. The good and the bad and

the happy and the sad. My friendships are very important to me. The past holds some wisdom yet to be learned.

And my husband’s lessons are occasionally shared by his voice here. I may repeat myself, but guaranteed,

I’ll get you to think about life just a little differently.

Reserve the Right to Make a Bad Decision

Posted by on Feb 20, 2019 in Ahas, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 3 comments

Reserve the Right to Make a Bad Decision

This morning, I was considering how hard it is sometimes to make a decision. Especially with our epidemic perfectionism, we are often paralyzed by the idea of making a “wrong” decision. But truly, the hardest part about making the decision is making the decision. The carrying out of the decision and the consequences are a matter of wrote and history at that point. Choice and changes are inevitable. “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice”, from the song Free Will by Rush . There is no way out of change. If we...

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It’s Monday, Be Here Now

Posted by on Feb 18, 2019 in Ahas, Community, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 1 comment

It’s Monday, Be Here Now

Twitchy and his /her mate are helping themselves to the cat food outside on the back porch. I just told Crackers to go enjoy squirrel TV at the window. The heat just kicked on and the heat registers are creaking and squeaking their symphony of protest. No school and I am leisurely writing my post. Because what matters is now. I’ll let the squirrels graze on cat chow for a few more minutes and make myself some breakfast. Our family is going to the movies today to see the second Lego movie. We’re all excited. There really...

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F*%ked up

Posted by on Feb 15, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

F*%ked up

You know, in many ways, I was less eff-ed up throughout my life than I thought I was. Understanding that much of my screwy self was created when I was little living in a dysfunctional family, I did well to come out with the drive to heal that I have. But in a few ways, I was a little more eff-ed up than I admitted I was. In fact, I think we all are. We’re all playing a grand game of “I’m Fine, See?”, but I’m not buying it.Last year I was certain I was doing everything I possibly could to battle my anxiety. I have...

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Self Love Day

Posted by on Feb 13, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 5 comments

Self Love Day

Valentine’s week is here. And I found myself considering what self-love meant to me. Undoubtedly we can not truly pay someone the attention and respect of love unselfishly if we do not have some to spare from our own hearts. But what does self-love look like at it’s best. And can we court or woo ourselves into liking us better? Self-love is part care-taking and part self-compassion. It’s being a good parent and a gracious host. I love myself when I eat good for me food I’m happy to eat and that’s yummy too. I...

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The Mundane and Marvelous Life We Live

Posted by on Feb 11, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Random | 2 comments

The Mundane and Marvelous Life We Live

“You don’t own anything, not even your memories. You only get to borrow your life as long as it will let you. “ Life is tenuous and marvelous and if you catch me at a random moment, I probably won’t be appreciating these poetic facts. I’ll be cleaning or chewing or driving. Yet it is so wondrous to exist, you’d think we’d spend more time being in awe of this. So I recognize the necessity of mundanity. And I also commit to stopping as often as possible to be in my life at that very moment knowing that I am the...

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The Truth of a Lie

Posted by on Feb 8, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 4 comments

The Truth of a Lie

It was bound to happen. My son delivered a bold face lie to my face. When I realized I said,”I knew you’d lie to your Dad but I never thought you’d do it to me.” Needless to say, he was very remorseful for disappointing me. And here’s the thing, we all make choices that are just not good. The bad choices that we make can hurt others or just ourselves. They are the ones that make us cringe when we think about having made them. And we all make them. So the next day, I asked my son to tell his sister what he’s done. Why...

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Spread Your Humanity

Posted by on Feb 6, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Friendship | 4 comments

Spread Your Humanity

I like you because you are uniquely you. Your opinions and anecdotes are from your own life’s experiences. No one else has the perspective you have on life. Being weird is good. I realize that the same applies to me. All the little things that I think are “wrong” with me are the things that make me uniquely me. My humanity is nothing to be ashamed of. It is the very thing that we have in common. I’d like to encourage everyone to share your humanity today with someone else, a loved one or even me. Give them something real,...

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How Do you Know the Wannas from the Shoulds ?

Posted by on Feb 4, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

How Do you Know the Wannas from the Shoulds ?

I am in the process of clearing and cleaning out my files and shelves in January. After my collapse of November, I decided that all goals and shoulds from last year are suspect. Because I truly got the sense that I was striving for much of that based on what I thought I should be doing. But I couldn’t help but think, when do many of us have the opportunity or are encouraged to live for our own happiness? As women, we are programmed to take care of other’s happiness. As children of narcissists, we are not supposed to exist but for...

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I Was in Happiness Debt

Posted by on Feb 1, 2019 in Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

I Was in Happiness Debt

I was thinking this morning about how I used to live my days from waking to sleeping , thinking I was inept and incapable. Every undone thing around me was proof that I was inept and incapable. As I set standards so sky high, I withheld approval for my life to be enough and I was a hostage. This had gone on for so very long that I was in Happiness Debt. How it is that we come to decide that we are unworthy of happiness is a simple story of a moment in our life, our childhood when we decide that the love we know in our hearts we deserve is not...

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My Definition of Me Project

Posted by on Jan 28, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Random, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

My Definition of Me Project

It all started when I asked, who do I think I am? I intended to facetiously ask myself this as in do I have the authority to speak on this subject? And then I realized that knowing who I am is in fact a good way to star the year. I am on my 11th day now of defining myself via pictures and posts on Instagram and it’s been an interesting project. Here are a few of my Instagram posts. “Today I decided to challenge myself to two weeks of claiming Who I Think I Am. Every day I am going to focus on a facet of me that I appreciate. I am...

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