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Gathering My Lessons

I am constantly learning from my life. Someone special to me said that I could glean a lesson even from a recipe.

Which is what I did in my post, When The Recipes Must Go.

I call them Ahas. I can also stand on a Soapbox every once in a while.

And I learn some pretty big stuff from some little people in my life. The good and the bad and

the happy and the sad. My friendships are very important to me. The past holds some wisdom yet to be learned.

And my husband’s lessons are occasionally shared by his voice here. I may repeat myself, but guaranteed,

I’ll get you to think about life just a little differently.

Give Yourself a Place To Be Seen

Posted by on Jun 10, 2019 in Ahas, Community, Daily Shalagh | 0 comments

Give Yourself a Place To Be Seen

I am such a human beast most of the time. I react without thinking and overthink situations without acting . I crave to be acknowledged and fear being seen. I spend more than enough time alone in my head. But what I do know is that we humans are naturally pack animals. And as women, we need the intimacy afforded us in these groups like we need water. I’ve been inspired by many women in real life and online who have brought this need to my attention. Whether we were playing bridge or washing our clothing at the watering hole or hanging...

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How We Learn to Be More Self Aware

Posted by on Jun 5, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

How We Learn to Be More Self Aware

I often say, “The reason that teachers know their subject so well is because they’ve taken classes in the same subject and reviewed the material over and over until it’s drilled into their heads. By the end of their educational careers, soon to be teachers will have had four or five years of concentrated studying of their specific subject. Can we learn to be self-aware in the same way? I began to think about what this meant when applied to the work of self-actualization and self-development. I have been studying concepts on...

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My Herstory of Unwanted Advances

Posted by on Jun 3, 2019 in Ahas, Community, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

My Herstory of Unwanted Advances

What’s the official name for an uninvited unwanted advance? Those occasions when men have ungraciously invaded our personal spaces to “offer’ their manliness to us. Situations that put we women into a victim role warding off hands or words of a sexual aggressive nature? Yeah the incidents we’ve accepted as just part of womanhood. I’ve had more than several of those. I just didn’t give the advances or my distaste for their memory any credence. But they’re still there lurking about testifying to a world that...

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Hush Hush Voices Carry

Posted by on May 31, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Hush Hush Voices Carry

I have always been a loud person. I got my boisterousness, my exuberance, and my volume honestly. My mother’s laugh is loud enough so that you can find her at a State Fair. I am a truth teller, a devotee to honesty and the catharsis of storytelling. When I was a teen, I met many people who really wanted me to hush up, quiet down, tone it down, etc.. My loudness, my truthfulness made them nervous. And so I began to resent being Shushed. But I believe my honesty makes people the most nervous. In a world where you have to strive to fit in,...

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Why Do I Do It? When My Reasons Don’t Ring True

Posted by on May 24, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Why Do I Do It? When My Reasons Don’t Ring True

I recently told you that I did not achieve the weight loss I had hoped to withing my given amount of time. In fact, I admitted I think being on Weigh Watchers seemed to make me gain weight. As in, who are you to tell me how many points I need, I’ll decide that. 4 months later, I ask myself, what if my why is just wrong. Because no matter the physiological cause and effects, “Whys” run the show. So I am regarding those today and seeing what my truth might be. In the case of the losing weight, I think my reason is to be...

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Expanding Our Meet-Up

Posted by on May 13, 2019 in Community, Daily Shalagh, Friendship | 0 comments

Expanding Our Meet-Up

Admittedly, when I assembled the hopeful attendees for my Meet-up Group (which turned 2 years old in March), I wanted them to say “yes” because I looked forward to getting to know each of them better. And my wishes were surpassed when they said yes and I felt perhaps I had a good idea not just for my benefit but everyone’s. I was right of course. Women need to hear what other women feel and think so that they can feel more normalized. We want to hear that we’re not alone. We want to know what other people are doing about their...

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Low Self-Esteem is Debilitating

Posted by on May 10, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Low Self-Esteem is Debilitating

There’s a problem I have with how people give you instructions and advice. That “All you need to do is” attitude may work great for some people. Yes, you really may have no idea how to build a readership or self-publish an E-book. Most of us can find a number of resources to tell us how to get there. I stumble don’t stumble with the how but with my low self-esteem. My can’t. For people with low self-esteem, it isn’t as simple as just do this to get that result. There’s another layer of difficulty that blocks us...

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Let It Be

Posted by on May 6, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Family, Midlife Motherhood, Nestmaker, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Let It Be

So many things I think I should be doing. I should have a spiritual practice. I should be exercising more. I should be publishing my brilliant writing in big magazines. But most of the time, I can’t accommodate all of my shoulds. And my day turns into cleaned bathrooms, walk taken, and dinner made. Throw a holiday in there and I don additional job hats as a fat elf and an invisible bunny rabbit. There’s no such thing as regularity. Yet somehow I keep hoping it’s possible. Yes I could use a wife. And here comes Summer time...

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The Alone Zone

Posted by on May 3, 2019 in Community, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

The Alone Zone

Undeniably, we spend our lives alone. We are the only ones in our bodies, in our minds, and in our souls. Our family and friends will love us but they will always think of themselves first. It’s just humanity in action. We are loyal to preserve ourselves. Yet, we are also pack animals. We need to be in community, to be witnessed and heard by our fellowship. To hear that we are in fact not alone. That we aren’t the only ones feeling this way. Leave me alone but hold me. Stay away from me but I’m lonely. Love me but...

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The Hurry, Scurry, and Worry

Posted by on May 1, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Health and Body Wellness | 0 comments

The Hurry, Scurry, and Worry

I became so tired of the hurry, scurry, and worry. As I read blog posts and Instagram posts about how people had experienced adrenal gland burn out from all the anxiety juice they were pumping into their bodies, I understood even more my own addiction to Doing. In my case, the anxiety manifested into stomach problems. As a child, I had stomach aches. As a college student, I had gastritis which was one step away from an ulcer. And when I had my children I would devlop a pain in my stomach that went straight back to my rib cage. My anxieties...

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