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Gathering My Lessons

I am constantly learning from my life. Someone special to me said that I could glean a lesson even from a recipe.

Which is what I did in my post, When The Recipes Must Go.

I call them Ahas. I can also stand on a Soapbox every once in a while.

And I learn some pretty big stuff from some little people in my life. The good and the bad and

the happy and the sad. My friendships are very important to me. The past holds some wisdom yet to be learned.

And my husband’s lessons are occasionally shared by his voice here. I may repeat myself, but guaranteed,

I’ll get you to think about life just a little differently.

Social Media is Good For You

Posted by on Jul 31, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Social Media is Good For You

The increased use of social media has changed the world in ways many people will suggest are all bad. Saying that this new crop/generation of ego soaked narcissists wouldn’t have come about without the social media medium is short-sighted. My thought is that this medium just gave everyone a voice that they were already feeling entitled to use while disregarding anyone else. It didn’t make them this way, it just aided them to be heard.And watching this definitely made many of us a little more shy online. But just because...

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Catching Up and Telling the Truth

Posted by on Jul 26, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 6 comments

Catching Up and Telling the Truth

What a slippery perspective buster “truth” is. The truth is that this first month and a half of Summer has been rough. Not in the hard ways my Summers used to start , but in very personal ways. Ways I was not even telling myself about. Today’s truth is that I am still awaiting the steroid injections I received two days ago in my ouchy SI joints to take effect. I’m still holding my breath for the positive outcome. I’ve fought my way here and still there’s truly no change. And continued pain messes with your mind a little as it...

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Impress Yourself and Be Your Own Hero

Posted by on Jul 24, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Impress Yourself and Be Your Own Hero

You and I work so hard everyday to keep our lifeboats afloat. There are people to care for and bills to remember to pay. And I know I am not stepping back far enough to truly see how much I’m accomplishing. All this may impress you but I’m used to this. I’m valuing the wrong things apparently. I found myself sad some months ago about how people I knew were letting all these marvelous things happen, flinging doors open. Walking towards their success. When I should have been happy, all I could think was “Why not me?” The...

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Books That Don’t Help

Posted by on Jun 20, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Books That Don’t Help

  (If you’d like to listen to me read this post, there’s an audio recording at the bottom of the post. Scroll down and Just press play and Soundcloud will do the rest) Is it that I’m too pragmatic or my expectations are too high? Because I believe that if you’re going to make the effort to write a book or create anything that you want people to buy or buy into, you need to make sure it will in fact help them and not just you. Books need to have a little more purpose for the money they ask. There’s a book up...

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Living in Paradox

Posted by on May 26, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 4 comments

Living in Paradox

It occurred to me recently that life necessitates living in a paradox more than we seem to be comfortable with. Our need to categorize and be perfectly right has us believing there’s a right way or there’s the highway. But I’ve bumped into several situations that would seem we need to lighten up and accept we can live on both sides.   I read somewhere, “You’re allowed to be Ok where you are and want something different too” and I froze. What? How is that possible? My disgust with my body would necessitate changing it, right? But...

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Judge Not Lest Ye’ Be Judged

Posted by on May 8, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Judge Not Lest Ye’ Be Judged

Opinions are like noses, everyone has one. And you know of course, that makes everyone capable of being Judgy Judgertons right? But judgements are actually necessary. We judge if that old lady really is feeble enough to need a hand opening the store door and whether or not the pain we are currently having requires a 911 call for an ambulance. We’ve been taught that judging others is bad. But even if  I choose to refrain from judging you, this probably won’t stop you from judging me. You will do what you will do. And so will...

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Garden Grief

Posted by on May 1, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Garden Grief

I told my husband this morning that I’m beside myself with frustration and grief from the garden shrub and tree flowering that got screwed up with our early warm spell and freeze this March. There was no umbrella of blossoms on the weeping cherry tree. There are three blooms on the wisteria. And the beautiful tulip magnolia tree next door just sprouted leaves without flowers. I am grieving for the Spring that got stolen. It happens every year. The wisteria gets interrupted. The hydrangea bushes were taken back down to the ground as were...

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Placeholder People

Posted by on Apr 28, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Placeholder People

Some people embody placeholders. They see themselves as having no purpose, no fate that betters the world. That their purpose is to just keep quiet, keep moving, have a couple of children, make money to feed their family, and just be. Their subsistence and distractions are their definition of happiness. Perhaps those babies will grow up to have a bigger purpose, to do something amazing. Maybe not. Either way, there are people who aren’t meant to shake the world. And they too are very necessary. I respect your claim that you don’t...

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Just Because You’re Afraid Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Brave

Posted by on Apr 26, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Just Because You’re Afraid Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Brave

Fiona was inconsolable with her self-pity after her recent round of shots. I thought she needed them for Pre-K but it seems we got them a year earlier than necessary. They’re done now. And those band-aids that I couldn’t remove from her thighs for days were proof that she wasn’t brave. Don’t even suggest it to her because she’ll begin to cry and tell you she wasn’t. Still isn’t. In preparation for the day at the doctor’s office, I had read her a few books on going to the doctor’s and she...

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A Real Day

Posted by on Apr 21, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

A Real Day

I lived another real day. Nothing “exciting” like a grocery store run. Just waiting on a service man, cleaning up a pee puddle or two from a stubborn 4-year-old daughter. Stasis. Stillness. Stupid brain. Wishing I’d grabbed those few valuable moments of peace when she was sulking and half-naked in her room upstairs. But instead, I just wasted a half hour looking for that perfect rug online again. The waiting has gotten me so much more than I’d credit it for. The waiting has made me catch up and slow down with my real purpose....

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