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Gathering My Lessons

I am constantly learning from my life. Someone special to me said that I could glean a lesson even from a recipe.

Which is what I did in my post, When The Recipes Must Go.

I call them Ahas. I can also stand on a Soapbox every once in a while.

And I learn some pretty big stuff from some little people in my life. The good and the bad and

the happy and the sad. My friendships are very important to me. The past holds some wisdom yet to be learned.

And my husband’s lessons are occasionally shared by his voice here. I may repeat myself, but guaranteed,

I’ll get you to think about life just a little differently.

Navigating the World’s Shoulds

Posted by on Dec 7, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Navigating the World’s Shoulds

So many shoulds coming at us daily. Other people’s recipes for our lives flooding our heads. The shoulds of womanhood, motherhood, parenthood, successful people, healthy people, and intelligent people. Of good daughters and good citizens and good Christians. Oh you know what the shoulds sound like. I should have a clean house, a balanced diet, and spiritual practice. I should have polite children, a health insurance plan, and an IRA account. Everywhere I turn, there is some spoken, or unspoken rule that tells me what I should be, say,...

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The Daunting Freedom of Choice to Fail

Posted by on Dec 5, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

The Daunting Freedom of Choice to Fail

I have written ad nauseam about the amazing gift we have to choose our lives. We get to choose our lifestyles and who we call community. We get to choose what we believe and how we practice what we believe, where we spend our money and where we don’t. And while it’s a giddy freedom to know that our choices are truly up to us, it is also daunting and possibly terrifying. The potential to make a mistake is forever your company. I have a “first marriage”. There were people we hired to work on our house who we shouldn’t have....

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Is My Life a Problem or a Pleasure?

Posted by on Dec 3, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

Is My Life a Problem or a Pleasure?

I woke up this morning doubting my ability to accurately decide if I was living a good life. “Is my life a problem or a pleasure”, I asked myself. I questioned my decision on this day being a good one or a bad one because I truly hadn’t lived any of it yet. Yet, how often do my thoughts on my life then immediately lead to feelings about my life, good or bad?  What we focus on, be it the things that we need to “fix” or the things that we’re grateful for, determines our feelings about our lives. How we feel about our...

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My Cup is Half Full

Posted by on Nov 30, 2018 in Ahas, Keeping House and Mind Aligned, Random, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

My Cup is Half Full

A cold rainy day has driven me to light the fire and my favorite smelly candle. My first cup of earl grey tea for the season has been brewed. There’s a lull between holiday storms. Thanksgiving is only leftovers and memories and Christmas is still contained in lists. And I am maintaining a ‘be here now mindset’ as the calendar moves ever onward and may to try to hijack me and my anxieties with “all the things” to come. Gratitude and appreciation keep us grounded. I am grateful that this old gas fireplace is still...

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Two Weeks After the Emotional Fallout

Posted by on Nov 28, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Two Weeks After the Emotional Fallout

It’s been two weeks since the anxiety episode that hijacked my heart and silenced my soul. It wasn’t a panic attack, it was just a crisis of confidence. I’ve had these before. And after I took myself to the doctor’s to ask for some pharmaceutical help and did all the various and assorted self-care activities I could, I’ve just been sitting back and taking it easy. Listening to and watching what my inner-self needs. Not overtaxing myself with have tos but asking what I want to do instead. Perspective is always a...

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Devotion versus Drive

Posted by on Nov 26, 2018 in Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Devotion versus Drive

I am caught in a place of decision and doubt. What motivates me and delivers me to purposeful outcome is in question. Where I see Devotion as doing what you do for the benefit of others, I see Ambition and Drive as being motivated by your own ego or fear. Knowing that what I do, write about, and figure out for myself helps other people seems a handsome impetus to continue. Devoting myself to this process for my sake and theirs is perpetually my next phase which is often held back by fearful lies about my competence to do so. And then...

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Thank You to Me

Posted by on Nov 19, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Thank You to Me

In an effort to regain the self-trust momentum I seem to have lost of recent, I thought I might take a moment to appreciate myself. Throw my humble self a slice of gratitude pie and see where it sticks. So here’s what I am grateful to myself for this past week. Thank you for not judging my body and telling me I’m fat or imperfect. Thank you for dressing me in comfortable clothing that also flatters me. Thank you for taking me to the gym just enough to know I went this week. Thank you for asking for support from your community when...

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Practicing Compassion like God

Posted by on Nov 16, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 4 comments

Practicing Compassion like God

I was truly inspired after I listened to a podcast recently from the unbelievably smart Sas Pethrick. It was the 30th episode of her podcast called Courage and Spice and she interviewed Jane Reeves, author of a book I recently bought on practicing Loving Kindness (aka Compassion) titled A Heart of Gold. The reason I originally got the book? Because I have come to believe that the only way out of the self-torment and judgment cycle I’ve been subjecting myself to for the greater part of my life is to practice self-compassion. And these...

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Ignore Your Brain, Feel Your Feels

Posted by on Nov 14, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 2 comments

Ignore Your Brain, Feel Your Feels

This week, I had a really bad spell of the feels. I finished up my creativity workshop and instead of feeling that amazing “I did it” feeling, I felt like an impostor. Who was I to think I had anything to say about creativity? And then, why did I put myself in this jeopardy? And PS, this is the same doubt spell I had at the end of my creativity/anxiety sermon I gave at my church. So I rolled around for a day feeling really crappy. Letting all the silly mean stuff rip around in my head. Grieving the marvelous feelings I was supposed to feel in...

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Creativist or Consumerist : Which one are You?

Posted by on Nov 12, 2018 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, The Soapbox | 0 comments

Creativist or Consumerist : Which one are You?

I believe that you are choosing to live your life on one of two paths. You are either living your life as a Creativist or as a Consumerist. And this is how this story and the dawning of my understanding between creativism and consumerism unfolded. I made friends with fellow uber-creative Olivia Sprinkel via Instagram. And I see in her bio she calls herself a creativist. I ask her what’s this? She answers, “Hello! I saw a friend’s Facebook post about Eddie Izzard, an English comedian who asked ‘Are you a capitalist or...

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