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Gathering My Lessons

I am constantly learning from my life. Someone special to me said that I could glean a lesson even from a recipe.

Which is what I did in my post, When The Recipes Must Go.

I call them Ahas. I can also stand on a Soapbox every once in a while.

And I learn some pretty big stuff from some little people in my life. The good and the bad and

the happy and the sad. My friendships are very important to me. The past holds some wisdom yet to be learned.

And my husband’s lessons are occasionally shared by his voice here. I may repeat myself, but guaranteed,

I’ll get you to think about life just a little differently.

Spring 2018 Soul Selfie Challenge Kicks Off

Posted by on Apr 30, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Spring 2018 Soul Selfie Challenge Kicks Off

I subscribe to a few various blogs from people whom I admire and who inspire me. And recently, a fellow blogger and friend Heather, who pens the blog called Thrive in Midlife at Heather Serody.com , wrote how “healing begins the moment we shine a light on (these) shadowy corners and how they instantly become less scary”. That when we allow those places of fear and perhaps shame to be seen by others, suddenly someone else has the courage to claim their fears and shame. How witnessing each other becomes permission to be human, that is the...

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My Family Self or Myself : Who Do I Know Myself to Be ?

Posted by on Apr 27, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

My Family Self or Myself : Who Do I Know Myself to Be ?

I am on a journey to understand myself. This involves both understanding who I thought I was based on the information I gathered as a child, and who I think Myself to be thus far as an adult. And knowing that I have the power to change what I think of me ensures I stay in process and don’t get stuck in my past. But for people who are used to being told who they are, considering being anyone different may be a daunting and inconceivable project. But it’s quite necessary if you are to decide on what makes you happy because truly no...

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The Triangle of Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions

Posted by on Apr 25, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

The Triangle of Feelings, Thoughts, and Actions

My Mother’s maiden name is Head. My Grandpa used to say, “Wherever you are, you’re a Head.” How nice it would be to know with certainty that you are always ahead. I know that at any given moment, there’s a story I’m telling myself about where I am. Although I can’t necessarily argue with my actual physical placement, I decide if I’m ahead or behind in my conceptual placement. And what I think will trigger a feeling and an action and that’s how our life’s days go. What if I choose the...

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Edit Your Story and Persist with Faith Like Cinderella

Posted by on Apr 23, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery, The Soapbox, Used To Be | 2 comments

Edit Your Story and Persist with Faith Like Cinderella

The story that is our life, up to a certain point, is written and told by others. We do not choose our parents or where we are born or the social status we are born into. Nor do we have control over who keeps us alive and what they teach us as littles. Our lives are a given in many ways and at least we can be grateful for our chance to exist. But then the story becomes ours to tell.  Cinderella was loved and wanted when she was born. But bad things can happen to nice people. And the reverse is also true. We can be born into chaos and find a...

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Habit and Anxiety Makes Us Feel The Fear is Real

Posted by on Apr 18, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 6 comments

Habit and Anxiety Makes Us Feel The Fear is Real

Our societal addiction to anxiety is epic at this point. Number one mental disorder of the world is anxiety and it’s companion, depression. Depression is the leading cause of disability in the U.S. for people ages 15 to 45. Undiagnosed and untreated, people are on autopilot in their everyday lives perpetually bridging the gaps between their fears and the dopamine, the hormone that the brain releases that would quell it. Our “chosen” method to deal with our anxious selves is to emotionally regulate with our personal chosen “binkys” of...

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What Are We Not Talking About ? Let’s Talk

Posted by on Apr 16, 2018 in Ahas, Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Writing | 0 comments

What Are We Not Talking About ? Let’s Talk

(A little late coming to you today as I was sick this weekend and still am) If you read me regularly, you’ll know there’s not much I’m not talking about. Not necessarily current events but I will discuss what they really mean to each of us. I will always tell my truth, I will offer perspective, and I will look for hope. So what am I not talking about that we should be talking about? How about Women’s issues? It really wasn’t until recently that I realized that women were oppressing themselves.  That was a new...

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Being OK With a One Pain Level

Posted by on Apr 13, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Being OK With a One Pain Level

I went for two more appointments to follow up on my SI joint pain. That even though I am at a one mostly with the pain level, I had committed to seeing myself through to be pain free. And this is what happened. I found out I was not a candidate for the traditional radio frequency ablation (intentional nerve damage to cease the ongoing pain) because the usual nerve branches were not the ones causing the pain. But the procedure I researched that would help? That’s being done at Hopkins. And by the way, my SI joint is malformed. That I...

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Body Buddy

Posted by on Apr 11, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Raising Fair Fiona, Self-Discovery | 3 comments

Body Buddy

When my son was little, if I saw he was doing something that would hurt himself intentionally, I’d say, “Don’t hurt my friend”. I say this to my daughter as well.The idea being that I care about them as much as I would a friend seems to be not as obligatory but a choice to care about them. I love each as a buddy and friend and as children. The more I learn about self-care and self-trust, the more I know I need to teach my daughter how to self-soothe and be there for herself instead of looking for the comfort and acceptance outside...

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I Can Cards and Excerpts from my Journal

Posted by on Apr 9, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

I Can Cards and Excerpts from my Journal

What could speak louder than the words I say to myself, in private. And it happens that some of those words are in written form in my journal, loud and clear for me to reread. I was struck by gratitude at rereading this excerpt and wanted to share my journal entry here so that you my reader could see what great self-talk sounds like. “I am on the precipice of seeing myself as who I truly am and how that is valuable to the world.” “Releasing my wholehearted story was/is magical. It is the story of creativity vs. anxiety. The magic of...

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Have to Do’s or Else

Posted by on Apr 4, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

Have to Do’s or Else

As I uncover the layers of my neuroses, the anxious scripts that have made me jump and overcompensate for decades, I’ve noticed that there’s always an understood truth at the bottom. An absolute that I am working from that the thought of not attaining makes my anxieties skyrocket. These are my Have to do’s. I’ve been a hostage to these Have to do’s as long as I saw them as absolute truths. Somehow, I’ve gotten myself programmed to think a myriad of ridiculous thoughts that if I don’t attain or...

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