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On Bossing Yourself Around

Posted by on May 21, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

On Bossing Yourself Around

Kids and big folks alike don’t want to be told what to do. At my house we jokingly say,”Because if you tell me to do it, I’m not gonna do it”. We quite openly use reverse psychology on our kids. “Hey Fiona, whatever you do, don’t go to the potty.” And off to the potty she goes. It works every time even though she knows exactly what we are up to. So bossing yourself can prove to be difficult as well. I think a lot of us never grow out of that punk attitude of not wanting to be told what to do. Besides making it hard to follow...

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Shadowy Places

Posted by on May 18, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Shadowy Places

I had the pleasure of a private communication with a friend recently and thanked her for her forthrightness on the subject of over-drinking. I mentioned her and the piece she wrote about her own experience getting through to a new place with that anxiety driven behavior when she inspired me to look at my behavior and see how my assumptions about my life were no longer true. And now I don’t have to quell needless anxieties anymore. Or not as much perhaps. It struck me as significant when she said that many other of her connections had...

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Endure and Enjoy Like a Cat

Posted by on Mar 14, 2018 in Daily Shalagh, Friendship, The Furry Side of the Family | 0 comments

Endure and Enjoy Like a Cat

I’m walking into the gym, anticipating the discomfort of exercising and the whine of my joints as muscles. And then I think about how it is what it is until it isn’t anymore. Just be in the moment like a cat. Cats have this now mentality. If they’re in pain they think, this really sucks. They just live life one need and one emotion at a time. And when they’re happy and tired, they’re happy and tired. Cat naps are their superpower because they are necessary. Knowing that you absolutely need to indulge in self-care...

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Your Community

Posted by on Jan 15, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Your Community

The beginning of the year found me dreading my duties ahead. I had somehow volunteered to spearhead our fellowship’s fundraiser and I was not excited. My ego was dreadfully afraid of failing and two wise men gave me some extraordinary advice. One said, “your community will show up for you” and the other said, “if it fails, it’s your community that will have failed not you”. Permission and perspective were gained immediately.   Two days ago, I sent out an email requesting help with the food for this Cuban themed event. I needed some...

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The Fall Soul Selfie Challenge is Here

Posted by on Oct 6, 2017 in Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Friendship | 2 comments

The Fall Soul Selfie Challenge is Here

On May 15th of 2016, I hosted my first Soul Selfie Challenge. As you may already know, I’m all about introspection. And I conceived of the hashtag #Soul_Selfie to house posts that I felt were deeper . And so naturally, next I had to offer up a week-long Instagram challenge to share some deeper thoughts with my community. Except, I was terrified! I direct messaged a group of four people I trusted and asked them if I should host a challenge and their solid advice was to take the Nike approach and “Just Do It”. Bless their supportive...

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The Trivia Fundraiser Design

Posted by on Feb 24, 2017 in Creative Projects, Daily Shalagh, Eastern Shore Experiences, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons, Visual Me | 0 comments

The Trivia Fundraiser Design

Our Fellowship fundraiser this year happened in the middle of February (since when does February get so busy?).  But the Trivia night activity had me stumped and grumped for a visual theme for a trivia fundraiser. I like to make one big visual statement with each event. The anchor applique for the Anchors Away fundraiser last year. The huge bandana for the Hoe Down fundraiser. But this theme had no visuals for me to work with, other than heads with gears. So I just went with colorful and cheesy. I had to have the silver tinsel curtains, known...

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We Gather to Feel Hope

Posted by on Jan 25, 2017 in Ahas, Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons | 3 comments

We Gather to Feel Hope

As she poured us some of her white sangria, our hostess Annie admitted that she was compelled to organize our Saturday night gathering since she wasn’t a participant in the Women’s March that afternoon. I hadn’t traveled to Washington either and so the six of us, all Moms, sat and shared our feelings and concerns. And I felt grateful to be able to gather and share my fears and doubts with these women. It was validating and affirming and necessary. And as each of us had brought a nibble and a sweet, our opinions and stories...

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What You Must Think of Me

Posted by on Jan 23, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons | 6 comments

What You Must Think of Me

  It would be impossible not to consider what others think of me. Were I not a writer, you couldn’t prove I care. But I must care a little to want you to read what I’ve written. Or is it possible to be thankful that others approve but not base your own value on what others think. That has been a problem my entire life. Until now. Surely I can come off to some as a bit pompous and a loopy, talking about all this touchy feely stuff. Liberal spoutings of a girl who refuses to see what the world really is. But I submit that every last...

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Your Worth and Your Community

Posted by on Oct 25, 2016 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Friendship, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Your Worth and Your Community

It keeps coming up in my life, the importance of community to me. Aside from the understanding of community’s importance to our survival, where many hands guarantee we will eat and sleep safely under shelters, community is a place to find our own personal worth. That my gift to my community, however small, is still very important. My efforts are never without impact or purpose. It’s only in valuing this that the circle is completed. That the community itself is a life force, an entity that holds the people within, each with their...

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Our 15th Wedding Anniversary

Posted by on Oct 6, 2016 in Daily Shalagh, Friendship | 2 comments

Our 15th Wedding Anniversary

Dear Bubby, Happy wedding anniversary! It’s been such a fast ride here. Where did the time go? My kind compassionate handsome do-good man. When we met, we were well aware of what a bad marriage decision looked like. And we knew this was a good one. We have two cute smart kids and careers that are absolute reflections of our talents and passions. We are a home. And I’m happy to be here. You and I created a place where we are free to be us, and where our children feel safe. It’s old and leaky sometimes but it’s comfy. I...

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