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Edit Your Story and Persist with Faith Like Cinderella

Posted by on Apr 23, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery, The Soapbox, Used To Be | 1 comment

Edit Your Story and Persist with Faith Like Cinderella

The story that is our life, up to a certain point, is written and told by others. We do not choose our parents or where we are born or the social status we are born into. Nor do we have control over who keeps us alive and what they teach us as littles. Our lives are a given in many ways and at least we can be grateful for our chance to exist. But then the story becomes ours to tell.  Cinderella was loved and wanted when she was born. But bad things can happen to nice people. And the reverse is also true. We can be born into chaos...

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Habit and Anxiety Makes Us Feel The Fear is Real

Posted by on Apr 18, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 6 comments

Habit and Anxiety Makes Us Feel The Fear is Real

Our societal addiction to anxiety is epic at this point. Number one mental disorder of the world is anxiety and it’s companion, depression. Depression is the leading cause of disability in the U.S. for people ages 15 to 45. Undiagnosed and untreated, people are on autopilot in their everyday lives perpetually bridging the gaps between their fears and the dopamine, the hormone that the brain releases that would quell it. Our “chosen” method to deal with our anxious selves is to emotionally regulate with our personal chosen “binkys” of...

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What Are We Not Talking About ? Let’s Talk

Posted by on Apr 16, 2018 in Ahas, Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Writing | 0 comments

What Are We Not Talking About ? Let’s Talk

(A little late coming to you today as I was sick this weekend and still am) If you read me regularly, you’ll know there’s not much I’m not talking about. Not necessarily current events but I will discuss what they really mean to each of us. I will always tell my truth, I will offer perspective, and I will look for hope. So what am I not talking about that we should be talking about? How about Women’s issues? It really wasn’t until recently that I realized that women were oppressing themselves.  That was a...

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Body Buddy

Posted by on Apr 11, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Raising Fair Fiona, Self-Discovery | 3 comments

Body Buddy

When my son was little, if I saw he was doing something that would hurt himself intentionally, I’d say, “Don’t hurt my friend”. I say this to my daughter as well.The idea being that I care about them as much as I would a friend seems to be not as obligatory but a choice to care about them. I love each as a buddy and friend and as children. The more I learn about self-care and self-trust, the more I know I need to teach my daughter how to self-soothe and be there for herself instead of looking for the comfort and acceptance outside...

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I Can Cards and Excerpts from my Journal

Posted by on Apr 9, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

I Can Cards and Excerpts from my Journal

What could speak louder than the words I say to myself, in private. And it happens that some of those words are in written form in my journal, loud and clear for me to reread. I was struck by gratitude at rereading this excerpt and wanted to share my journal entry here so that you my reader could see what great self-talk sounds like. “I am on the precipice of seeing myself as who I truly am and how that is valuable to the world.” “Releasing my wholehearted story was/is magical. It is the story of creativity vs. anxiety. The magic of...

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Have to Do’s or Else

Posted by on Apr 4, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery | 2 comments

Have to Do’s or Else

As I uncover the layers of my neuroses, the anxious scripts that have made me jump and overcompensate for decades, I’ve noticed that there’s always an understood truth at the bottom. An absolute that I am working from that the thought of not attaining makes my anxieties skyrocket. These are my Have to do’s. I’ve been a hostage to these Have to do’s as long as I saw them as absolute truths. Somehow, I’ve gotten myself programmed to think a myriad of ridiculous thoughts that if I don’t attain or...

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You’ve Never Been Alone

Posted by on Mar 28, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

You’ve Never Been Alone

There’s a saying used behind the closed doors of the Anonymous meetings. People with addictions are “terminally unique”. Somehow, the dreadful feeling of isolation and alone-ness is a sort of backward badge of honor giving you full on permission to kill yourself by your addiction of choice. Addictions plays us like puppets; fearful of conceived promise of death by not continuing our addictions, we stage our own deaths inadvertently. Makes me think of the person who would die of hunger while the man next to him held out a...

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I Forget Myself

Posted by on Mar 26, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

I Forget Myself

Am trying to find my way back to me. Seems my fear of vulnerability and my Impostor Syndrome regularly derail me from my course settings and I find myself off-roading, distracted by the current tasks and scenery, and I soon forget what it was I was doing. I forget how much I’ve already accomplished. I forget myself. This realization happened again to me this week. I am certain I have even written this blog post before. I feel like the Tom Hanks short-term memory guy character on Saturday Night Live. He kept turning around and saying to...

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Give Yourself the Credibility for the Courage You’ve Already Shown

Posted by on Mar 23, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery | 1 comment

Give Yourself the Credibility for the Courage You’ve Already Shown

It took me exactly 51 years and 179 days to have the courage to get here. There’s much that I will not remember about this half century I’ve lived. And there’s much that I could remember if I put my mind to thinking about it. But I think the greatest tragedy is the disrespect we can show ourselves as we forget ourselves. As we underplay our achievements. When we invalidate ourselves by blowing off a compliment or comparing how we feel about ourselves compared to what we perceive someone else is/has/has done, we commit such a...

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Valuing Our Belonging and Creating Community

Posted by on Mar 21, 2018 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons, Self-Discovery | 1 comment

Valuing Our Belonging and Creating Community

Without a sense of belonging and knowing our own value in the world, we see no one there for us. We do not see ourselves within a community simply because we cannot understand how and why they would value us. Further, we’re suspicious of them if they do tout our value. What do they want from us? Our families may be the only people we interact with and this may be similarly stressful. Yes you have to show up because you’re family but do you really like me for the person I am? This sense of not belonging in the world, even...

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