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Daily Shalagh is otherwise known as everything I think and say and do. Or another home page.

The Lesson I Relearn : It Takes as Long as It Takes

Posted by on Jul 31, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

The Lesson I Relearn : It Takes as Long as It Takes

I am ecstatic to report that I have made such immense strides lately. I saw my therapist yesterday and I had so much progress to report, I was almost surprised for all I had to tell her. And I talked so non-nonchalantly; no big deal. But let me tell you, this progress is a very big deal. I can remember often holding myself emotionally hostage, frustrated because I wasn’t further along than I was. How come that person seems so far along in their journey? They apparently have figured out how to move beyond their fear so why can’t I...

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Hello From the Other Side

Posted by on Jul 26, 2019 in Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Hello From the Other Side

Sitting on my couch in my bay window bathed in morning light, I just saw a hummingbird hovering outside the window. Midsummer will be buzzing outside soon and the oppressive heat has broken for the moment. I heard the daughter go back to sleep above me in her bedroom. Sigh. I have emerged from an eight month haze full of doubt and listening, healing from a self-inflicted trauma, to a new place. Perhaps it was a period of grief as I let go of ways of mistreating myself that no longer served me. Allowing myself to just Be and See while doing...

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Recognizing Your Superpowers

Posted by on Jul 24, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 1 comment

Recognizing Your Superpowers

I am of the opinion that everyone has superpowers. Skills that they possess that they are truly good at. Inklings from childhood about ourselves that are waiting to be retrieved from under our beds. But somehow our humanity convinces us that we should be good at all sorts of things other than what we are good at. And we no longer recognize ourselves. In an effort to reclaim myself, I have made a habit recently of exclaiming out loud when I use of my superpowers. I recognize these following actions as being some of my superpowers. I believe...

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Do You Rage or Resign Yourself ?

Posted by on Jul 22, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Midlife Motherhood, Nestmaker | 2 comments

Do You Rage or Resign Yourself ?

Have you ever found yourself frustrated because you have a chore to do and you just don’t feel like doing it? It’s too hot to take the trash out. There’s dishes piled in the sink and it’s late. My feet are dirty and I’m too tired for a bath. There’s nothing to eat in the house but the thought of take out food turns your stomach? When things smack of effort, we can feel resentful, angry even. We don’t feel like it. But what we are also inadvertently saying is that we aren’t worth the effort. Life...

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I Should Love Myself

Posted by on Jul 19, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, Wisdom Lessons | 1 comment

I Should Love Myself

I wanted to title this, I Should Love Myself More. But I decided that loving myself at any level, much more to the more, was a necessary thing. I can say that I like myself. But I can not say I love myself today. I have said I love you recently to myself. But why did that disappear? Self-love is as necessary as breathing. And yet we aren’t taught how to do this very well. We are taught how to hold ourselves to impossible standards and berate ourselves perpetually sure we don’t meet these standards. But the importance of self-love...

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Permission to Be Me

Posted by on Jul 17, 2019 in Creative Projects, Creative Soul Living, Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery, writing | 0 comments

Permission to Be Me

It is truly hard to claim yourself. What do you like and who do you believe yourself to be are two of an intricate network of questions for which the answers represent you. Except we are so inundated with facts on who we are supposed to be a that by the time we are old enough to have the power to define ourselves, we’ve all but forgotten who we are. “You can be anything you want to be” is such a ridiculous statement, we think. I’m supposed to be all these other things. I keep thinking that I need focus on who I see myself as. To...

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Who Do You I Think I Am Vs. Who Do I Believe Myself to Be

Posted by on Jul 12, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Who Do You I Think I Am Vs. Who Do I Believe Myself to Be

Why is there a presumed challenge in the question, “who do you think you are”? As if anyone is ever entitled to question your opinion of yourself other than you. Perhaps only people who don’t know who they are ask this question in a way that suggests you are less. But I am thinking more and more this month about who I believe myself to be. My definition in me which leads to who I believe myself to be. And it perpetually occurs to me that who I think I am is a lot less than who you think I am. And that it may be possible to increase my...

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Sumptuous Summer Time

Posted by on Jul 9, 2019 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Wisdom Lessons | 0 comments

Sumptuous Summer Time

I never sleep in. Until Summer. This Sunday morning, I was so languorous in bed, my ear hurt from laying on it. And after I rose and descended the stairs for my first cup of coffee, there were no children demanding things of me. Luxurious sumptuous Summer Time. Remembering my creative soul life. I made a loving breakfast of last chance potatoes, mushrooms, eggs, and thyme from my porch garden. And now I sit listening to the Sleepy Hollow radio program on WXPN with my daughter arting on the floor with her markers coloring seascapes. My hand...

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Falling Away

Posted by on Jul 8, 2019 in Daily Shalagh, Self-Discovery | 0 comments

Falling Away

I am always battling with who I think I am. I strip off parts and then I forget parts. Bits of me fall away from me like sand and I begin to disappear in the wind. It’s as if I have to remind myself of who I am. Again and again and again. I can hear the “can” coming in and out. I can hear “my life is good” going in and out. It is these decisions about my now and future life that shade my satisfaction of my now. And there is nothing else more important besides my now. Ever. And If you enjoyed what you read,...

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Pride and Shame

Posted by on Jul 5, 2019 in Daily Shalagh | 0 comments

Pride and Shame

I crave that feeling of pride I get when I complete a project that was a little challenging. I want the pride that little kids wear on their faces after they draw a picture and come to show you it. I felt that way this weekend when I staged a beautiful Garden Party along with a substantially revamped garden. But before that, all I felt was shame for that garden. Yesterday I considered that the opposite of pride is shame. I can tell myself that I should be doing such and such and feel ashamed that I am not making progress on that “should”...

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