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Daily Shalagh

Daily Shalagh is otherwise known as everything I think and say and do. Or another home page.

Placeholder People

Posted by on Apr 28, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Placeholder People

Some people embody placeholders. They see themselves as having no purpose, no fate that betters the world. That their purpose is to just keep quiet, keep moving, have a couple of children, make money to feed their family, and just be. Their subsistence and distractions are their definition of happiness. Perhaps those babies will grow up to have a bigger purpose, to do something amazing. Maybe not. Either way, there are people who aren’t meant to shake the world. And they too are very necessary. I respect your claim that you don’t...

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Just Because You’re Afraid Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Brave

Posted by on Apr 26, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Just Because You’re Afraid Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Brave

Fiona was inconsolable with her self-pity after her recent round of shots. I thought she needed them for Pre-K but it seems we got them a year earlier than necessary. They’re done now. And those band-aids that I couldn’t remove from her thighs for days were proof that she wasn’t brave. Don’t even suggest it to her because she’ll begin to cry and tell you she wasn’t. Still isn’t. In preparation for the day at the doctor’s office, I had read her a few books on going to the doctor’s and she...

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He Gave Up On Me, So I Did Too

Posted by on Apr 24, 2017 in Daily Shalagh | 2 comments

He Gave Up On Me, So I Did Too

My Dad left our house when I was little. I visited him on designated weekends. He wasn’t particularly cuddly but I was wanted. In fact, he wanted to own me. Until he gave up. And because children believe that how they are treated is what defines their worth, I wasn’t apparently worth it. So I gave up on me too. So tragic on so many levels and yet, it’s very much a reality for many many children. Like Peter Pan’s lost children, we are left with to our devices to seek out our worth in the world. In my case, I kept...

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A Real Day

Posted by on Apr 21, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

A Real Day

I lived another real day. Nothing “exciting” like a grocery store run. Just waiting on a service man, cleaning up a pee puddle or two from a stubborn 4-year-old daughter. Stasis. Stillness. Stupid brain. Wishing I’d grabbed those few valuable moments of peace when she was sulking and half-naked in her room upstairs. But instead, I just wasted a half hour looking for that perfect rug online again. The waiting has gotten me so much more than I’d credit it for. The waiting has made me catch up and slow down with my real purpose....

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Let Me Take You to Frumpytown

Posted by on Apr 19, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Let Me Take You to Frumpytown

Cold and rainy, now snowy day. I just wanted to put on my old ugly fleece coat. The one I was surprised to find in the closet since it was from when I was pregnant, has a busted belt loop, and possibly a paint splotch on it. But it’s like wearing a blanket on a wet cold dreary day even if it’s a definite decision to be frumpy. I made the opposite decision yesterday when I decided to not go out looking and feeling frump-a-liscious. I heated up the curling iron and put on some make-up darn it. It’s not about what I think...

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Soul Goals

Posted by on Apr 17, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

Soul Goals

I recently arranged and hosted a Mastermind Meet-up with a group of women who I admire and respect. The purpose of this meeting was to gather to inspire and enlighten each other. And beyond talk of random politics and religion, because how cool is it that we women can do that without conflict, we spoke of what our goals for ourselves may be. Well, I threw mine down on the table and offered everyone an opportunity to consider what their soul goals may be. My friend and women’s intuitive coach Samantha Wheatley uses this phrase soul goal...

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Universal Message

Posted by on Apr 14, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 1 comment

Universal Message

The universe gave me a message this week that I mattered. Not intimidating like God speaking to me, but just a general nudge from my more intimate universe that I am rocking my life in good ways. We matter. You’ve heard this and blown this off a million times. But those who grab it and put it inside themselves, those people are the one who feel entitled to ask for the changes the world needs to see. It’s a matter of allowing, coercing, and getting ourselves to see how we matter and agree with the rest of the world on this matter...

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The Soul Buffer Zone

Posted by on Apr 12, 2017 in Ahas, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 4 comments

The Soul Buffer Zone

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about what it would be like to have a “soul buffer zone”. Having been raised codependent and since having children, my boundaries are a little wiggly. And the thought of having space around me that I keep myself safe within is really appealing to me. In fact it’s downright necessary if I’m ever going to make my life the zen experience I long for. The idea is that there’s a mental space between you and the outer world. And you intentionally maintain that by not letting people make...

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The Value of Doing and Seeing Things Differently

Posted by on Apr 7, 2017 in Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 2 comments

The Value of Doing and Seeing Things Differently

There’s a woman I’m social media friends with who has chosen to engage in a year-long project she has named her Year of Doing Things Differently. When I asked her about this concept, she said she’d seen it in a book at the library. I like this concept a lot. I always say, “If you change nothing, nothing changes”. The phrase “doing things differently” is just another way of saying change but it sounds better somehow, more enticing. The problem is that our habits are so ingrained, they’re familiar and comfortable and we...

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Codependency

Posted by on Apr 5, 2017 in Blogging Along, Daily Shalagh, Gathering My Lessons | 0 comments

Codependency

Codependency is such a dirty word to say these days. I think most people have heard of it and my suspicion is that most people suffer to a degree from it. And like allergies and anxieties, most people also deny that. I can remember being in a therapy session when I was around 21 and feeling bad about something for my boyfriend. Like I had responsibility for having caused his feeling or I was trying to fix him (no surprise) and the therapist brought this to my attention. This was the first memory I can have of being aware that my tendency to...

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