Daily Shalagh
Daily Shalagh is otherwise known as everything I think and say and do. Or another home page.
Stay Strong and Let it Be OKay to Not Be OKay
At the bank today, I overheard a woman say “Stay Strong” and I said, “I prefer that to’stay safe’.” The teller said that the woman who said that was starting a campaign to promote mental health awareness and depression support through this time. And I said, “I can totally support that. I’m spreading Stay Strong”. I am definitely affected by the weather, by my bodily and hormonal cycles, and by what I’ve heard or what has happened to me today. Some days I have the energy and some days I just don’t. It needs to be...
read moreHow My Feelings Freak You Out and What to Do About It
As you know, I truly disregard other’s judgment of my expression of feelings here. This space has always held safety for me. Even when I’ve been attacked, I still know that I am entitled to be honest about me. I sometimes think I should be more so. And what I’ve come to realize is that not only do people truly not understand that it’s Okay to be not Okay, they think that my expression of self-doubt or fear to be me is somehow a reflection of instability. After all, who thinks this is Okay? I Do. In fact, if we were all...
read moreKnow That You Are Necessary
One can’t create the life one wants without envisioning its form first. But knowing that you are necessary to this world, that your gifts, stories, and laughter are necessary, the journey can not even begin without knowing these absolutes. I named the life that i want to live ‘Creative Soul Living’. Yet l often forget that l even dreamed that commitment. The mirrors of self-worth l was missing in my childhood often prevent me from seeing my worth to the world today. My fight is often simply to remember. And If you enjoyed...
read moreI’m a Nice Person Who Makes Mistakes
I said the wrong thing. I made the wrong choice. My fallible humanity spilled out onto someone and now I’m in the wrong. I messed up, I made a bad choice. And that makes me a nice person who makes mistakes. Nothing more. I’m a kind person who chooses unwisely sometimes. Those bad decisions should not go down on my permanent record and reflect my character as a bad person from hereon out. It does not serve anyone for me to hold onto and berate myself for my unwisely chosen words. If you choose to befriend, employ, or even marry the...
read moreSummer Simmers Along Slowly
Summer simmers along slowly. My daughter’s mood is much improved since our trip to RI. This sweet little thank you note she gave me while we were there says it all. She and her new little cat Sassy get each other wound up and scream and run through the house. The purple stitches will be removed tomorrow from her eye removal two weeks ago. We have a kinda rhythm going. Sleep and eat and do as we need to. I’ve been planning meals to make it easier on me with Eamon making one per week. Eamon has had his band over to practice weekly....
read moreAs Long as Never Enough Is the Mutter
I waste moments in my day thinking about how lucky other people are. Well of course they can work out for two hours, grab a coffee with a friend, or sit and read for hours, they aren’t parents of small people. I’m comparing my apples to their oranges. One day, I’ll have that time back. And this just goes to prove my underlying understanding of my life : there’s never enough time, energy, or money to do all the things I want do. So you’d think I’d go ahead and lower my standards to feel better about my life....
read more“You Got This” Makes My Skin Crawl
Every decade we are bombarded with viral trendy pop-psychology or amusing catch phrase. Where’s the Beef. You Go Girl. Peace Out. It’s All Good. Whoop There it is. Talk to the Hand. Don’t Have a Cow. Agree to Disagree. Drop it Like it’s Hot. Just Saying. The very one I am completely irked by and done with is, “You Got This”. It just won’t die off seven years later. The insincerity of peppy positive people saying “You got this” makes me cringe at best, glower at worst. I’m flattered that you feel you need to...
read moreMy 9 Year Blogaversary
My Blog at Shalavee.com, the home for my consistent creative writing outlet, turns 9 years old this month. She was born from a need to commit to my creative writing. She was an excuse to come out of my shell and show up online. And what I found out about myself through my honest words and connections with people in the world was that I had unlimited thoughts to convey and words to express them with. I have regularly owned my words and shared them out loud on my blog. My thoughts weren’t always greeted with kindness and I was so insecure...
read moreWe are all Fear Puppets, it’s Not Personal
I caught myself again being frustrated at someone for their fear. When people are afraid, which seems a constant mode these days, they make choices to protect themselves or avoid stuff that makes them feel wiggy. And this really isn’t about you. But it certainly feels like it sometimes…most of the time. Taking it personally seems to be automatic for us. You didn’t say hi to me when we passed each other on the street so immediately I think that must mean you don’t like me. But you may not want to be seen with that extra...
read moreAbsence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
My sister lives in Rhode Island and purchased a house with extra rooms five years ago with the intention of having us come visit. But until this year, we hadn’t. My daughter was too small and then there were Summer camps. We didn’t have the right vehicle and then she just came and visit us instead. But we just returned from our Summer vacation to RI. All my daughter wanted to do was swim in the pool. I ended up spending all my time with her there. And we ate out a lot. I just needed to decide what I wanted to eat. So not a lot of...
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