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I Return to the Matter of Self-Value

I am always circling around to a question of my self-value. I stop short of setting goals or understanding my purpose for the simple fact that I do not understand my worth. I suspect I’m not alone in this either. So many women are waiting for permission to value themselves.

I picked up a self-development book by Rhonda Britten called Change Your Life in 30 Days, in which one of the daily tasks is to list five acknowledgements of things I’ve accomplished. And this seems to be a good task for refueling the self-value tank. So often, we would acknowledge anyone but ourselves for their contributions. But in crediting ourselves, we have actually added a value chip to our own pile. Continual practice of anything, “self-value-idation” included, will make you better at it. And I truly believe this is exactly where I need all my energy focused. I can’t truly contribute to the world unless I know the value of that contribution.

The next step for me will be to ask for validation from others. While my therapist says this is quite normal, the risk of being rejected and my value being refuted feels like a death wish. Definitely worth noting. But if writing is what I must do for the rest of my life, because the thought of not writing is now impossible, it seems a shame to waste my writing on only my ears. Might as well share it with an audience so that others may feel validated and inspired as well. Two for the price of one.I Return to the Matter of Self-Value on Shalavee.com

What I write is of meaning to me and I value the catharsis of the process. I’m endeavoring to increase my understanding of the value of my writing to know that what I write is everyone’s voice. Simple truths, Aha’s I find as I navigate my days are always of more soul value than any monetary worth. And by sharing them, I process and release them so that others may benefit from them as well.

So if you like what you have read, share it. Email a link to someone, share it on Facebook, or mark it to tell your sister-in-law about. Staying small and quiet has not truly ever benefited me. Nor am I a narcissistic megalomaniac who needs your approval to exist. But I have compassion for all those who feel isolated and alone and I don’t think this serves any one, surely not the next generation or the world. Our existence matters and we need to know it.

Perhaps you have a gift that you undervalue as well? Your thoughts are always appreciated here.

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Hello to October and My Plans

You’ve probably noticed it’s October already. Your calendar and your weather probably gave it away. But the meaning of the season change is personal and relative to each of us. For me it’s a slowing down and an opportunity for deeper work.

 

Yes, this is the month I got married and the month my husband and two of my very good friends were born in. It’s the weather shift I adore the most from Summer to actual Fall, and consequently I feel most alive in. But it’s also back to school time where I get more uninterrupted days in a row than before. Than Ever.Hello to October and What I Have Planned on Shalavee.com

 

And it’s been my practice for the past several years to challenge myself to post every single day of October on the blog. Quite the challenge that I always seem to pull off. But not this year. Where the busy blog may gain a few more readers that I can hope hold on through the holidays and all my decorating posts, that doesn’t honor my deeper needs and intentions for this blog and myself.

 

I am hoping to develop a deeper writing practice this Fall wherein I might come up with deeper thoughts and bigger offerings. To hone my passions and thereby, my purpose. November in fact is the month when many writers take part in the NaNoWriMo challenge. National Novel Writing Month started in 1999 and essentially is an established event during which a bunch of people finish writing their books.

 

What I’d like to establish is a writing habit. I could care less if I finish any book but would rather know I have the ability and the system that is in place to write and think in an organized productive fashion. Period. I’ve headed toward the intention to establish this and think maybe taking yourself seriously and creating a disciplined routine is a very good way to not only accomplish something but also prove you can.Hello to October and What I Have Planned on Shalavee.com

 

So my thoughts on October are for a month full of fall fun (cute pictures to come) and respecting those tasks and goals which you had to deny yourself before but can no longer deny beginning. Be it the painting of the walls of your ugliest room in your house before the weather changes, or creating disciplined habits that serve you well through the coming season, now is the time to set up the list of intentions, tools, and time tables. I’ll share my process with you as it works itself out.

 

Meanwhile, Happy October ! Hope you are embracing its meaning in your life too.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your email box. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest  too. I am always practicing Intentional In-touchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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