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Fool-headed Husbands Need to Let Go of Control

I was a lunch guest of a woman whom I liked her and admired for starting her own Interior design business. I always thought interior decorating was one of those professions I’d missed my calling for. And she was a liberal thinker, funny, and kind.

Within her lovely home, there was a dining room set that was funky and chunky but dark. And when I suggested she just go ahead and paint it, she said “Oh no, my husband wouldn’t approve of that.” They’d bought it together at an expensive local antiques dealer’s you see. He felt had a stake in it’s future. Fool-headed husbands need to know their place.Fool-headed Husbands Need to Let Go of Control on Shalavee.com

While speaking to another woman recently about something house decorating oriented, I heard her repeat the echo of how her husband wouldn’t like that. And I realized I feel slightly crazed at this concept. As in, what the heck are people doing?

In the case of the designer, she’s the designer! Unless her husband’s a renowned designer himself, who cares what he thinks. In the case of every other woman, the home is ours to command. We deserve at least this much room to be happy within. Husbands are typically installation and demolition. Why do they feel the need to control all other realms of the home? If it makes us happy, let us be happy. Did I say What the Heck?Fool-headed Husbands Need to Let Go of Control on Shalavee.com

I often say to women, “You know you are in charge right?” Maybe you don’t really want to always be and I can understand that but the man who doesn’t fear and respect his wife is a ding-dong. We’d give selflessly of ourselves, share our food and our lap with any small beast in need. I believe we deserve to be supported in whatever makes us happy within the house. We need some compliance within reasonable bounds. The generosity shows back up in your beds you fool-headed husbands.

Because, as a former president once said to the rest of the former presidents at a luncheon for incoming president Obama, “If Mama’s not happy, no one is happy.” Wise men they all were.

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Why I’m OK Teaching a Creativity Workshop

If I had a dime for every time I heard, “Oh Shalagh you are so creative”, I’d at least have five bucks. This became one of those phrases that made me twitch perhaps because I didn’t think of myself as having any kind of creative superpowers which was obvious to them but not to me, until it finally was. I think perhaps what they meant was they wished they knew the secret creative permission spell too.Why I'm OK Teaching a Creativity Workshop on Shalavee.com

Fast forward to the past several years when I intentionally indulged myself in creative challenges to gain creative confidence. I followed many of my creative curiosities until I finally owned that I was an Uber-creative. And I am beginning to understand that I believe in creative living aka Creativism as a way of life, one that is at odds with the consume and destroy mode of existence I see all too much of.

So if there is a purpose to my life, one of the facets seems to be sharing my creativity with others so that they too have permission to create.  To this end, I am offering a creativity workshop locally this Fall because I believe that everyone can benefit, and perhaps heal, from increased creativity in their lives.Why I'm OK Teaching a Creativity Workshop on Shalavee.com

Each of us looks to understand ourselves based on our interaction with the world. The advertising propaganda would have us believe conformity and possession would be our best safe bet to easy existence. But in fact, we crave to understand our uniqueness through our interactions. We long to be carefree, to be unique and yet connected to our community at the same time. We want self-confidence that comes from owning our own uniqueness and perspective. Not only are these human needs, they are only a few of the many benefits of creativity.

Somehow, as we become older, we conform to the idea that creativity will get us outcast from the tribe. That we need to focus only on the earning of money and security for our family. My hope is that by opening up a conversation with people, and consequently they with themselves, the tantalizing benefits will begin to tickle people slightly out of their fear zones so that they may try creativity in small bursts in their lives. A little creativity in one’s life is better than none. And the money people can save by ceasing to try to find themselves by spending rather than creating will make it an even more enticing proposition.Why I'm OK Teaching a Creativity Workshop on Shalavee.com

My final realization is that I don’t have to a “professional” artist to legitimize my knowledge and experience around creativity. I can be a small “a” artist. I only need to acknowledge that I am creative and share what I feel and know to be my truth around this process as it relates to my growth and development as a more rounded human being. I can honestly say that the permission I have given myself to create has created a better happier more confident me. And that is a completely good thing.

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When Being at Home Can Happen Anywhere

My daily prayer is for a shift. Please let my mind shift to see me and my world and my potential differently today. To value what I have and what I know with respect and reverence. I leave the house hoping to break my “same brain”. And I do for a little while driving or shopping. And then I return home and I feel the inevitable slip back into my rut.

In the light of the upcoming birthday party and having guests over, I am doing some home renovations. Throw a party and you’ll make progress. My hallway is getting a long overdue facelift. 2 gallons and two quarts of paint later, the hallway is completely different. And while I am feeling thrilled and empowered with this change, I also have simultaneously discovered the home and safe passage I am looking for is nowhere I can physically touch. The home I truly seek is within me.When being at home can happen anywhere on Shalavee.com

Whether in my heart or in my soul, the safety and comfort I’m seeking is inside of me. It’s the comfort of a place where I can trust being me. It is the safety of knowing that I will not allow anyone to mistreat or disrespect me here. Trust in myself is like the biggest most comfortable couch to lounge on. You either own it or you don’t.

Although I do think the change in my abode will do me a world of good, the courage for the change is coming from a change inside of me. 12 years ago I renovated a house down the street and made it my shop. I boldly painted the floor there and loved it. Today I took the chance again and painted the floor of my home and I love it again. Go figure.When being at home can happen anywhere on Shalavee.com

I had to toss out some of the same fears that I always had about painting wooden floors and just had to do it to make me happy. I am certain that, in this same way, I need to just plow over some of my fears about success that keep me stuck. The fears need to be renovated or tossed because they have kept me staring at the same ugly uncomfortable couch for far too long. I’d rather sit on the floor with some nice throw pillows than feel the burden and dread of that same old seat on that smelly old fear couch. What would you do to be your own hero today?

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The Trivia Fundraiser Design

Our Fellowship fundraiser this year happened in the middle of February (since when does February get so busy?).  But the Trivia night activity had me stumped and grumped for a visual theme for a trivia fundraiser.

I like to make one big visual statement with each event. The anchor applique for the Anchors Away fundraiser last year. The huge bandana for the Hoe Down fundraiser. But this theme had no visuals for me to work with, other than heads with gears. So I just went with colorful and cheesy. Set up for trivia fundraiser on Shalavee.com

The room for the trivia fundraiser on Shalavee.comTrivia fundraiser on Shalavee.com

I had to have the silver tinsel curtains, known as slit drapes, in the front of the space to give us that game show feeling. I was terribly dubious of the card tables’ stability but they did fine. And the tablecloths, well let’s say that, without paying anything, they were what I was using.

I must pay it forward to my husband and his wonderful lighting toys because those are really what brought this design to life. The LED up-lights are cordless and can be set up pretty painlessly. And those pool balls( yes they’re water tight) change colors slowly if you choose the fade mode.

Trivia fundraiser in full swing on Shalavee.com

Young and old having fun for the trivia fundraiser at Shalavee.com

I hadn’t planned to participate in the trivia event itself but it ended up being a hoot. Our table won second place, no thanks to me truly. And the silent auction items were a nice range of offerings, including a Mexican dinner fixed by me this coming May. And really lovely themed baskets were raffled off.The MC and his Dad at the end of the trivia fundraiser on Shalavee.com

All in all, it was a fun fundraiser and was a complete success!

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Our Creative Selves Challenge Continues

Sometimes, I need an excuse to just mindlessly stand at my craft table holding scissors and glue in my hands for an entire week. And that’s what I’ve done here by creating this Our Creative Selves Challenge. And I invited a few friends to the party. Because I believe in the healing power of creativity especially in community. Find the introduction to my challenge post here.

The first day’s prompt was exploration and boy, there was such inspiration out in the wide world for this prompt. It was the best way to start with an excuse to play.our creative selves challenge day one on Shalavee.com

I chose to make a paper flower in honor of the woman who gave me a most exquisite paper flower making book. It was satisfying. Other participants grabbed oil pastels and brayers and clay and enjoyed the excuse to play. our creative selves challenge my exploration on Shalavee.com

The second day’s prompt was circle. And oh the loveliness that’s filling my eyes. There was knitting, paper clay making, puff paint, and prisma markers. And that each person made sure to take time out of their day to indulge their inner children, that is the good stuff right there.our creative selves challenge day one on Shalavee.com

This is what I said at the end of my Instagram post in which my circle art was posted.

our creative selves challenge my circles on Shalavee.com

 

“Create with abandon. Create with permission.

Steal the supplies, steal the time, and notice all worries fall away,

at least for a short time, as you find out what you make of your world.”

 

Here’s to Five more days of making! Hope you get a chance to create today just because you can. No really, you can. I’ll lend you the permission.

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