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We are all Fear Puppets, it’s Not Personal

I caught myself again being frustrated at someone for their fear. When people are afraid, which seems a constant mode these days, they make choices to protect themselves or avoid stuff that makes them feel wiggy. And this really isn’t about you. But it certainly feels like it sometimes…most of the time.

Taking it personally seems to be automatic for us. You didn’t say hi to me when we passed each other on the street so immediately I think that must mean you don’t like me. But you may not want to be seen with that extra 10 pounds you gained or truly think eye contact will make me want to talk to you and you’re in a hurry. Whatever the reason people make choices, it’s not always about us.

This pandemic has people really scared. No matter what, their fear just doesn’t understand reason. Fear keeps us discombobulated, separated, and unreasonable. So this is definitely not a good time to decide on the quality of people’s character. Fear is making us all act like nincompoops.

Instead, we need to dish out a giant dose of compassion…again and again and again. For ourselves, our neighbors, our sisters and brothers, and our friends who aren’t acting quite like themselves. Everyone shows their fear in a different way and you just may be at the wrong place at the wrong time and get hit with a blast of someone’s fear crazies. Allow it not to be about you and see if you can help them to not feel so alone.

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Ten Things about this Pandemic that Bother Me Most

I am sure we all have had enough of certain aspects of this Pandemic. I decided to list mine. And no, the masks didn’t make it to the list because I understand their necessity.

  1. Our mandatory mistrust of one another in order to be safe is so bothersome to me ie. I trust and someone dies. No one wants to kill their mother after all.
  2. Despite all the information posted everywhere, most people have no understanding of this virus’ mode of transmission (via spittle into the face), contagion period (less than a week before symptoms and three weeks at most after it presents), or what an antibody is (immunity in your body).
  3. But presenting with the antibodies means nothing. Not enough is known as the virus mutates to know if you are immune to one strain but can catch the next one coming through. Ten Things about this Pandemic that Bother Me Most on Shalavee.com
  4. No real school program in place for our public school children.
  5. Capitalism continues to thrive in our high anxiety climate of not enoughness and plague fear.
  6. The richest companies in the country just tripled their profits from the anxiety-fest.
  7. I gained ten pounds.
  8. No vaccine for the pandemic this year or perhaps even next.Ten Things about this Pandemic that Bother Me Most on Shalavee.com
  9. Zoom meetings.
  10. With all this time , I still manage to mismanage my time and feel like I’m getting nothing done.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Enrolled and Sharing the Creative Doer Course from Anna Lovind

I am currently enrolled in the Creative Doer course constructed by Anna Lovind to find clarity on the creative project we have been dreaming of doing and the freedom, clarity, and inspiration to proceed. I knew this would be what I needed because her Creative Doer book was one of the most amazing reads, outside of Big Magic, I’ve ever read on the subject of Creativity. Anna’s been with me for over five years supporting me in my creativity journey.

In the beginning of my creative journey, I was desperate for wisdom and a plan. I grabbed tidbits and paid for courses on fear and branding and finding how my soul ticked. I was a black hole of need. And each scrap I threw at the hole burned up before it made a difference. Because what I was really looking for was freedom from the bondage of my low self-esteem and that would be an inside job.Enrolled and Sharing the Creative Doer Course from Anna Lovind on Shalavee.com

I attended therapy sessions and forced myself to show up online in social media circles with like-minded people. And this is where I started to shift. I was not the only one who was experiencing the death gripping fear of creativity. I was joined by women and men all over the world of all ages and I felt better. And one of these people was Anna.

She has continued to influence and impress me in the last five years. Anna Lovind is a Swedish author and revolutionary. She is a creative sister, a trauma victim, and the truest soul you will ever meet.

I wrote blog post upon blog post about what I was learning and how I was growing, or how I wished I could grow. I stayed present and truthful. As my circle grew, I found I had courage to reach out to this remarkable women.

In this Q & A blog post, I queried her on the balance of being a creative and a mother. I called her a “necessary resource”. Creative mothers need extra support.

In this blog post titled The Seesaw of Being a Creative Parent, I include all the Q and A’s I did on being a creative mama.

In this blog post titled Permission to Be a Changed You, I found inspiration in her words,

I am the person who is allowed to change. I don’t owe anyone consistency. I don’t need to be faithful to what I used to be (unless I want to).”

We all must find those people who we admire and trust to follow out of our depths. Anna is so fiercely devoted to her work and to her children that she allows me to know I am too.Enrolled and Sharing the Creative Doer Course from Anna Lovind on Shalavee.com

If you are at all interested, go join her via this link for a live question about he online Creative Doer course I am currently enrolled in. It’s a go at your own pace completely supported course in getting clear about who and what you are in need of doing as a creative. Tell her I sent you.

Love,

Shalagh

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Realizations During This Un-busy Season

Unattached to our auto-busyness, I think we’re realizing that we have a lot more power to choose our lives than we formerly thought. We can live our best lives proactively, thoughtfully, and consciously. You’d think we’d be dancing in the streets for realizing this freedom, but we are all such control freaks that freedom’s a bit of a scary concept.

Here’s what I’ve noticed shifting or not in me recently.

No matter how much time I have, I never seem to have enough to read. Still.

If I put an activity on a calendar or a list however, it gets done.Realizations During This Un-busy Season on Shalavee.com

If I plan my meals for the week, I feel freer and often get a little ahead with some prep.

When I exercise, I feel like I gave myself love and wings.

I am using more of what I have on hand and not wanting as much … but new clothing is still necessary.

I am less scared to have my kids home for the Summer than usual because I have found ways that I can get my alone time needs met by setting boundaries and asking others to help.Realizations During This Un-busy Season on Shalavee.com

I still hate obligations like dentist appointments but now they’re more adventurous.

The world is too loud and confusing so I am still in need of no news. I feel what I need to learn the most can only be heard in the silence inside myself.

Compassion is always the way through.

Here’s a post from the same time a year ago and it’s interesting how it’s all the same except I hear the overwhelm.

Hope you are holding up well. I have wonderful achievements coming to share. This Friday is the publishing of an essay I am proud of on the Lessons I Learned in Lockdown. And the 100 Day project will be wrapping up in two weeks!

 

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Grow Through What You Go Through

Grow through what you go through.

The best way out is always though.

For me, the largest shift happened not because I chose for it to happen

But because I stopped stopping it from happening.

My story two years ago,

The Fear shield comes up.

It disallows all the work I’ve done prior to matter.

Infantalizing me, ignoring all my efforts, it insists it needs to keep me safe in its way.

But I’ve done all of this work i say. I’ve studied and thought and grieved to get here.

Let me pass.

But there was always an impasse. Until l introduced anti-anxiety medication into my equation.

Then an unexpected shift happened.

I felt less resistance to my thoughts and dreams. My perpetual daily fear tape stopped running.

And I began to feel hope and movement.

Growth wanted to happen. It took all my learning and knowledge and applied it.

And fear took a back seat.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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