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Don’t Let the Tech Be Your Downfall

Back in May, I wrote piece bemoaning my forced march to get used to new tech and a new car. You can read that little rant here. My new car definitely still has its drawbacks like the fact that it looks like every other car so that I’ve actually approached other cars thinking they were mine and even opened a door! But it’s clean and has great pick up for a four-cylinder.

The new Android Samsung phone is still being paid for and I’m getting used to it. The clear case I bought is turning yellow on the edges probably from skin oil. Ewww. And I still can’t figure out how to have it go straight to where I want it to without having to tap and swipe. But I can send pictures straight to my blog’s gallery!

It was just at the beginning of the Summer that my ratty old computer gave it up. It’s wi-fi chip burned out. And we had the $1,000 to buy a new Dell so I did. But again, new tech aggravates me. I allowed it to sit for a while as I’d scheduled blog posts and it was the beginning of Summer. But eventually, I had to touch it.Don't let the tech be your downfall on Shalavee

The keys are something I have to get used to. I am a speed hunter and pecker but the play and spacing are different for this keyboard. I like the swipe scroll which I used to have and then burned out a long time ago on my old laptop. But now I can not figure out how to download my pictures off my phone and I’ve truly done everything. 

This is where I’m going to tell you, it’s time to get the tech guy in here. So many times I’d allow the technical problems to overwhelm me. Creatives are often technophobes. But there is no reason to torture ourselves like that. We need to ask for the right help at the right time. I got my own tech guy last year and have not had nearly as much anxiety since I did. Please never let a technical snafu stand in your way of creating again. Your creativity is way more important. Let the right people do the thing they are good at and you continue to follow your passion , Okay?

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What if It Was a Given

____Enjoy this repost from October 1st, 2016 which I just happened to reread and thought it seemed a nice thought to remind myself of today. What you need to happen will.________

I was speaking to a very favorite Lady friend of mine about all the things I’m paralyzed to do. Certain I can’t do them for lack of time or technological knowledge, I put off even trying these things while envying everyone else who seems to be able to just trudge onward and get them done. She said she’d heard someone say, “What if you were imprisoned and had all the time in the world?” How would you approach your task then? “What if it was a given?” I thought.

First, it seems to me that not having permission or empowerment to move forward with any dream is in fact an imprisonment of its own. You are trapped in your “I can’t cage”, unable to move for lack of resources, lack of time, or lack of money. And for me, lack of technical experience thwarts my dreams even though it would seem I know a bit with all the blog stuff I’ve endured.

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But all these lack excuses are just subterfuge for the real excuse: fear. Simply, if I make this effort and it flops, how much of a fool will I look? Or if I do this and it succeeds, how much more stress will I add to my life? My excuses are just ways to overthink myself out of the risk of being ashamed I’d even tried and failed.

But what if it was a given? What if the thing that you wanted to do was already predestined. If the scroll was written and you no longer had to be responsible for whether or not you were to manifest your destiny. If it just were already a fact. Then you might be curious to find out, despite your shortcomings of resources, how you’d made it happen. Like knowing how the mystery ends but not knowing how it unfolded. Would I be curious enough to want to write the miraculous middle?what if it was a given on Shalavee.com

It will happen. With assuredness never before held, I could just know it will happen. That’s a kind of faith in my life which I’ve never had before. Yet, everything I have wanted that I knew would make me happy, I have manifested. So it would go to reason that if I really want it, if it really needs to happen in my life, it will. No amount of worrying about whether it will or not ever really made a difference. It was the conscious effort to connect my dots, despite my fears, that did. Knowing that whatever is best for your life and you is just meant to be.

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Life as an Uber Creative

Is that there’s too many things you’d like to devote your creative attention to?

When I was younger, I considered acting. I considered music. I thought about art for a long time before I finally allowed myself to practice it. And I have now indulged my writer enough that she feels calm. But other parts of me loiter around like groupies waiting for a break. My photographer is resigned to get her chance in my retirement years.

 I finally adopted my new self definition as uber creative three years ago in 2015 and wrote this funny piece about my busy-brained eagerness to create it all. And since then I have also discovered that I am an over-worker. This stress and fear coping mechanism is otherwise known as Industrial Over-Focused. I can see how I combined my fear coping mechanism and my creative drive and added a little fear of visibility,perfectionism and have made my uber-creativity into a bad combination affliction.Life as an Uber-Creative on Shalavee.com

I believe that you can never have too much creativity in your life and that if you actually allow your intuition to make more choices for only you in your life, you’d be way more stress free. But combining a need to please and get it right with the need to create can ruin the joy of creativity for anyone.

I looked up the concept of Uber Creative on the internet and found a very interesting article that has 14 ideas on how to be an Uber Creative here. Who doesn’t need outside inspiration at some point? Just as creating for others instead of yourself isn’t any fun, neither is creating in a vacuum.Life as an Uber-Creative on Shalavee.com

So a Huzzah to everyone who wants to create and hello to my fellow Uber Creatives ! There’s no better balm for your soul than creativity. I encourage you to write your secret creative desires down out of earshot of your inner critical parent. And then trick the parent into signing a permission slip to indulge your inner child in a little playtime and see what happens.  Everyone is actually creative (capable of combining new ideas together essentially) and that once we embrace the meaning of creativity as a way of living and not a perfect product, the world will shift.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Action Brings Courage

In a recent perusal of my favorite inspirational bloggers and speakers,I rediscovered and owned that my chosen method to accommodate my fears is to procrastinate. Ah yes. However,when I do this, I end up feeling ashamed that I am not getting on with making my purpose a reality and a shame storm repeats itself. More reading brought me this simple nugget of wisdom: Action brings Courage. 

Take any action towards the perceived goal and suddenly, it all feels better. The antidote to hopelessness and unworthiness is action. It immediately resets everything. The action says that you are not in fact stuck but in motion! And you feel suddenly relieved of the previous definition you had of you being lazy and unworthy.Action brings courage on Shalavee.com

The trick is to figure out how it is that you can keep  yourself choosing this action which propels you a bit further and a bit further. I find talking about it gets me going. Handing over my intentions to other people become a form of accountability. They heard me say it so I now probably should do something about it. The idea of an action list with steps broken down and actually scheduled into your calendar is also a very crafty to outwit yourself.

But in the end, I suppose you should make double-decker sure that the thing you think you want is actually for you and not for someone else. And then just have compassion for yourself for putting it off. And start again. That is the current story of several different areas of my life which I will be sharing soon.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Forgiving the Stuck

Ah the stuck. It smells of mildew and shame. It’s the place that you dread being when things need to happen. It’s the place you don’t want to admit to being, especially when everybody knows you just need to do “this” and “that” and it will all be done. Over it. Moving on. But here you are, still stuck, feeling bad, and generally sad.

Oh I know I look super busy and productive to you making all these things happen and those things shiny and feeding my kids. But honestly, there’s always that thing that you can’t see that I really have intended, meaning to get to. And all the things were just a way of avoiding that one thing.

Call it Self-sabotage or procrastination, it’s just fear. I fear that I can’t do the other things when I get there. I won’t be in the right place. I will be in the right place and it won’t be hard anymore and that will be hard. Whatever the reason I am here in the Stuck, forgiveness is the way out.Forgiving the Stuck on Shalavee.com

You be my witness dear reader as I shower myself with compassion. I am sorry that you feel you let yourself down Shalagh. You are stronger than you think. I am sorry that you have held yourself hostage to a daily dose of “Bad Dog”. You do so many other great things, it’s sad that you get judged for this one failing. I’m sorry you are scared of your future because from where I stand, if you keep doing what you are doing and following your intuition and your heart, you will only experience joy when you get there. I’m sorry that you are afraid of just being you. I think you are pretty great without ever doing a thing.

 

Much Love to you,

Shalagh

 

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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