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Tomorrow begins the 100 Day Challenge 2020

I am a firm believer that creativity builds self-trust and thwarts anxiety. I spent a lot of time studying the inverse relationship between creativity and anxiety. So much so that I have deemed myself an Ambassador to Creativity. As such, I am always wanting to create ways that we can create together. And participating in the #100 Day Project has been one of those ways.

I have completed the project two years in a row. I was very pleased with my results from the first year when I validated my suspicion that I could draw with pastels and pencils. As a study in mindfulness, I drew an object from my life or my household or my past daily. See the wrap up post for 2018’s project HERE . The second year, I just did collages on postcards which also doubled as my contribution to the ICAD (index card a day) challenge. See the Wrap up for 2019’s project HERE and all the links within for the posts prior.

The trick to this challenge is always to put yourself to something daily that won’t take anymore than 15 to 30 minutes. I’ve seen people do haikus and quick embroidered quilt squares. You have to be able to actually do it. Because in the first couple weeks, it’s easy to give up. But there’s a point when the creating becomes a habit, a need, and a sort of religious-like discipline.

The 100 day challenge starts tomorrow and I am still not exactly sure what I’m choosing to do but I do know that there has truly never been a better time to take on this sort of creative challenge than right now. And I look forward to connecting with other like creative minds and cheer them on as they create a positive memory in a time that feels more than a little negative.

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I Feel Your Fear Friend

People are exhibiting some weird fear behavior right now. Fight or flight stuff playing out at the stores across the world. Here in Maryland, the virus has worked it’s way into the state so much that the Governor has put everyone in a timeout for now. We’re to stay at home, Damnit, except for food. And while I’m glad I don’t have to deal with throngs of panicked people, I still had to venture out for groceries today. How do we think in a way that allows for our and others’ humanity in times of crisis. How do we not take it personally?

I have often said, when I act like a jackass, it’s usually because I’m acting from my fear. And when I have been wronged by someone, it’s probably for the same reason. Yet somehow we forget, or deny, that we are not the only one being puppet-mastered by our emotions, our hormones, and primitive brain. And when we’re scared, we often make the most dreadful unkind and hurtful choices. How do we forgive people for their misbehavior? How do we allow ourselves to be human?I Feel Your Fear on Shalavee.com

I think the only response to anyone who may have tossed unkind behavior or words my way, is to say,”I feel your fear (friend)”. And repeat it.  I acknowledge that you are feeling fearful and perhaps I am too. We are all in this together despite how personal it all feels. I feel your fear. Forgive yourself for acting like a selfish arse and do something extra kind to compensate for it.

Much love and compassionate virtual hugs for everyone today.

We Need to Call it Physical Distance not Social Distance

The fact is, they’re not really sure how this Covid-19 virus is actually spreading. Obviously from person to person, but is it the breathing, sneezing, touching and transferring, or just plain smashing it into your face with your unwashed hands that’s spreading it ?

So maintaining physical distance would be helpful for a couple of these transference methods.

However, in a time when we can not get our physical needs met for handshaking or hugging from friends and neighbors, more than ever we need to be compensating with increased social interaction. We have denied this aspect of our humanity for too long and it’s feeling more like need than a want in these isolation days.we need to call it physical distancing not social on shalavee.com

We are not going to contract anything from someone standing six feet away making eye contact and smiling. That’s what we should be seeking to know that we are not alone. We should be sharing our stories, our senses of humor, and our grief with one another to confirm that we are not alone. We need to feel a part of a larger community to cope with our isolation better.

So if you find yourself out walking and someone is passing you, or you see your neighbor, take a moment to respectfully ask how they are, make eye contact, and make sure you ask their name. Be the mirror you wished others would be for you. Keep your distance but make it physical not social distance. I think we’ve had enough Social Distance to last a lifetime.

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Keep Safe and Keep Walking

Besides wanting to fight off the extra pounds that will be attempting to attach themselves to my butt during this plague season, the reason that I exercise regularly is so that I can sleep harder and better. It’s good to alleviate stress and get me away from my family who is getting on my nerves and, Yes, I know it’s good for my heart and essentially will allow me to live longer to see my kids grow up. But I hate not sleeping well. It’s a waste of downtime.Keep Safe and Keep Walking on Shalavee.com

But with the recent restrictions piling up about keeping distance away from people, we all start to think that we need to stay inside where it’s “safe”. In fact, when I went out walking, I found it equally odd that people refused to meet my gaze. You know you can’t get this virus by eye contact right? I began to question if exercising was verboten and banned as well and we were exercisers were all guilty of some crime.Keep Safe and Keep Walking on Shalavee.com

Then I came across this article today on Medium titled This Is the Exercise Your Body Needs During the Coronavirus Outbreak written by science writer Christie Aschwanden, which spoke to the exact issue of exercise. I’m sharing what I read to empower everyone out there who values exercise as much as I do. (As for those who don’t really want to exercise, I wonder whether they’re just happy to have an excuse not to have make any more effort than obsessively worry about the end of the world.) Seems that we need to alleviate our stress with exercise.Keep Safe and Keep Walking on Shalavee.com

“In this time of danger and uncertainty, we all need to engage in self-care, and exercise is one of the best tools we have to keep ourselves well.”

You can exercise outside while still adhering to social distancing guidelines. Even under California’s “shelter-in-place” order, going outside for a walk or exercise is allowed, as long as you keep six feet apart from other people. No matter where you live, whether walking, running, or cycling, if you come upon another person on your path, move away to maintain a distance of at least six feet as you pass. Avoid touching things like jungle gyms, parcourse equipment, or gates that could have come into contact with someone carrying the novel coronavirus.”Keep Safe and Keep Walking on Shalavee.com

And PS, speaking with people, as in saying “HI!” and “How are you?” is actually a considerate thing to do when you walk by someone, even 6 feet apart. And making eye contact and smiling is always the respectful way to meet people. So many people need hugs right now and smiling and acknowledging people is a way of giving mental hugs out without touching.

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Family Time and the Coronacation

In many ways, this forced isolation has expanded my heart. The persistent time spent with my family, and they with each other, has changed us. Where before we were all living our own busy lives, suddenly we are living together.

And seeing each other in a deeper way. We are building trust funds between one another. There have been a few more “I love you’s” than usual.Family Time and the Coronacation on Shalavee.com

One of my most concerted goals with creating a family, has to been to consciously create a closeness between my kids. To foster their connection that will be more important as Mark and I age. We are older aged parents so we might not be around as long in their lives as our parents have been. And no one is allowed to complain about your parents but your siblings.

On the flip side, having suddenly had all of one’s daily routine sucked away leaves small and large people questioning authority and feeling a little claustrophobic. Fiona’s self image so relies on her friends who’s she’s not allowed to see. Duty and demands have replaced my alone and creative time and I’m a little twitchy to say the least.Family Time and the Coronacation on Shalavee.com

Lastly, I watch and listen to my friends and family as they fret over what they can not control. Anxieties and not enoughness are scarring and scaring them and there is nothing I can do to help except keep my humor, keep the news out of my house, and continue to create joy and food for my family.

I will always twitch when I hear the words “self-distancing”. There is such a thing as too much information. And my heart bleeds for the people who have lost loved ones from this illness. We are responsible to each other as humans without this reminder.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

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