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A Heads Up For Oncoming Summer

I thought I’d write a little fair warning for myself for next Summer seeing as how June hit and I was blindsided by the inevitable craziness, again.  I’ll share it now and then schedule it for next May for good measure.

July 18, 2015

Dear Shalagh,

Just a little reminder about what you may be in store for if you don’t take some heed from previous Summers and get onto some pre-planning. The word of this year’s Summer is Proactive. The opposite of “ignore the inevitable and be very very sorry you did that” reactive.

If you have already signed Eamon up for his Summer camps, good for you. But just remember to write them down on every loving calendar you have. Last year’s oopsie with soccer camp nearly had you missing it. And make sure you buy a new bottle of Neutragena Ultra Sheen sporty sunscreen in a can and put it right in the car with the extra obnoxious baby sunscreen stick for faces. Eamon’s blistered nose last year will hopefully be another bad memory. Maybe in the Winter, have the kids come up with little recipes for fun un-bored Summer Days. Make recipe cards for them and make a special anti-boredom recipe box. Like “pack a picnic lunch and a craft and go to the park and ask a friend to meet us there”. Or “let her draw all over herself with washable markers and then Fill the Hello Kitty pool with pink bubbles and let her get a bath”. Well worth the advanced effort in entertainment and photo ops.

Bicycles on the tennis courts on Shalavee.com

Hopefully you have updated your Summer Supplies at the end of last season. New bubbles, freezie pops, bathing suits, and some other toys to pull out on the day when everyone’s bored. It’s never too early to put rendezvous and day trips on the calendar. Wednesdays at the beach is a great tradition and also request guest appearances from helpers. And send out pre-notes for play dates to see who is interested and ready to book.

sharing ice cream on Shalavee.com

Plan out some Meals for July when the fruit and veggies kick in. Sundays and Mondays worked out good for cooking double meals. Gazpacho, fish tacos, grilled meats and fruit salsa. And truly make sure there’s at least 3 things that are either already made or easy DIY for breakfast. Because Summer means you can have a break too. In fact, let go of the notion that everyone has to show up for breakfast at the same time. Vacation mode means it would be nice but whenever is good too.

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Schedule a pedicure and a wine drinking friendship night right off the bat so you have something to look forward to. Wear your friendship bracelet, tell everyone to come over to your house and throw a party if you can’t get out. You need to be with your people more than once every 3 weeks.

And lastly, you need to ask that husband to pick a day and a half every week that he’ll be taking the kids. Away preferably. It’s nothing personal, it’s just a daft guy thing. And have him figure out a lovely date night for the two of you and arrange the childcare. OK?

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The biggest favor you can do for yourself, if nothing else, is to relax the schedule. Let the kids stay up, let them sleep in. Make it OK to take a little more time to get up, cook or not, clean the kitchen, and get out. And know that this way, when there’s no way in heck you are even making it to the gym for even a second workout this week, that’s OK. Because you’ve got two kids and something has got to give. Might as well let the Summer schedule give back to you too.

Good luck and I hope with a little forward thinking and mapping, your Summer will not be even half as stressful as the last two have been.

Take care of yourself please,

Love,

Shalagh

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My Year of Making in July

Almost hard to believe that it’s well past the middle of the year. And yet happily, I have continued my mindful chronicling of my everyday making.  I’ve kept up with monthly making picture files with each picture dated. And I realized earlier on that I am a maker in many ways other than art and word. 11 July I'm Speaking Up post on Shalavee.com

I take copious pictures with the intention of using them here on the blog, there on Instagram, and sometimes on Facebook. It’s almost a bit much to keep track of. I know many are lost in the archives. But despite my lousy system, I’ve been consistently maintaining these files. 5 June It's OK to be OK post Fiona-in-the-tub-on Shalavee.com

And I love sharing the pictures to give myself credit for my continued Year of Making. These are some of my favorites from June and July.29 June Summer's Stutter Start post on Shalavee.com26 June Visit with Pegeen on Shalavee.com5 July The Fourth with sparklers on Instagram on Shalavee.com9 June Ready post and sky art on Shalavee.com4 July Key Lime Pie on Shalavee.com19 June Solstice decorations post Finished Floor cloth on Shalavee.com

 

 

 

 

28 Making cards on Shalavee.com

Most likely, I’ll be back with more of my pictures of my making next month in September. Enjoy the rest of the weekend. See you with a post, as always, on Monday.

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And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Electrolysis, One of My Best Decisions Ever

Back when I had the shop and had my first baby, I had a discussion with one of my valued customers about electrolysis. This is the process of permanently having unwanted hair removed from you body by way of a teensy needle with a teeny bit of electricity. And I absolutely believed this woman when she told me this treatment worked for her completely.

I contend that hormones are the cause of most of the world problems as they certainly are the cause of many of mine. Post pregnancy hormones did all sorts of tricks on my body and one of them was growing a beard. A neat row of hairs right along my jaw bone like a little Italian lady with a few rogue dark ones on my lip for flair.

When I quit smoking, I devised a master plan of self-care to end all master plans. I took the money that I saved up from all the unsmoked cigarettes and I took myself to see an Electrologist in Easton, Maryland. I even did some research into laser hair removal but that woman said my hair wasn’t dark enough for that procedure.

The cost of the Electrolysis was $30 for a half hour session. The area was numbed so there wasn’t much pain. The woman explained to me that it’s good to try to catch the hair at a certain phase during it’s growth. No matter when I went, I found the treatment just worked.

I returned regularly, maybe bi-weekly for probably 6 months. And I can not tell you what an ever-loving relief it was to have that done.

No more fretting and tweezing and grazing at my face with the tweezers or fingernails to yank the offending intruders when I suddenly discovered their splintery presence in my face. She explained that when you shave them, they grow back and waxing wouldn’t potentially banish the unwanted dastardly follicles forever. So the electrolysis option was truly my only hope. And I was so happy when this worked.

I received the electrolysis about 7 years ago. And only recently, after a second child, did I notice another offending hair or two in my face in need of permanent removal. Of course, besides the coarse thick ones, there’s also the really long light-colored ones to now look out for. Old lady hormones cause these. And I say, why try to remove and do all this with my failing eyesight. Instead, I want to revisit the electrolysis table for a few tune-up zaps and be on my merry way.

Here’s the place to find the Electrologists in your State. And here’s a page of the most frequently asked questions on Electrolosis. Interview the practitioner to make sure you understand the exact steps of the procedure and see if you can stand their personality. Perhaps ask to speak with one of their satisfied customers. If they refuse to be helpful, they are not the practitioner for you. And I’d say that goes for any wellness professional.

Electrolysis was one of the best self-care choices I have made. It was well worth the minor cost for the major relief of not having to feel self-conscious anymore. And I’m sharing this because if you need permission to do this, I want you to take a fistful of it from me. And please don’t hesitate to ask me anything or converse with me in private if you’d like.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Through You

When something really really bothers me, say I’m obsessing over something I have to do or how something someone has said to me irks me, I can become stuck. Like having a brain hiccup, I keep going back there again and again and, once in that room, I find it hard to exit. Obsessively stuck moments flag an opportunity to grow. I know I know, afgo.Lewes beach July 1, 2015 on Shalavee.com

And what I’ve come to realize with my increasing age and wisdom, is that there is actually a way, completely within our power, to get over it. But it’s not the “easy” way. The Robert Frost quote I have hanging next to my chair says, “The best way out is through”. I think it’s a little more about having it go through you. The only way to release something from your psyche is to own your part in it. Because the more you push it away, the longer it will stay.Caitlin and Fiona at Lewes on Shalavee.com

If we act from fear, we usually make bad choices. I do it a lot. We choose to avoid, to blame, and to detach. We think it’s easier to let it go, avoid confrontation, or laze out and not show up. But you can’t respect people, including yourself, who shirk responsibility, pass bucks, or skip out. Even small children know when their choices are unwise and perhaps naughty. Even though you say them them them, you know it’s you . We project on others so we don’t have to make a change.

It takes a better person to admit their part in a situation instead of blaming the world or everyone else.

My first marriage was a catastrophe. I choose to own my part in it and in doing so, I was able to leave.

It takes bravery and integrity to ask to be forgiven even when there were equal mistakes made on all sides.

  I had to forgive myself for choosing that abusive situation and not leaving sooner.

And life is way easier when we just get on with the dreaded task we’ve avoided.

A year of separation and the divorce was done and I had met my now-husband right before the papers were signed.

Instead of wasting time avoiding stuff, we can be proud of ourselves as we get stuff done and know we are leading by example.

Prior to leaving him, I’d spoken with two women who’d gone through divorce and although it was lonely and weird at first, it was my only choice.

Eamon and Fiona at Lewes Beach on Shalavee.com

And when you honestly own your part in any and all choices that got you to the wrong place, you’ll immediately find yourself in the right place. The problem goes through you and the truth develops a shiny happy little hopeful baby face on the other side. And that is well worth the price of ownership for your bad choices. And will speak louder to those around you, especially your children, about what integrity really looks like.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter orPinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you for your visit.

Summertime Doing

Certain elements feel like Summer. Are almost necessary for Summer to achieve Summer-ness.

Fiona and that face in the hello kitty pool on Shalavee.comon

There’s bubbles, fireflies, sparklers, s’mores, and “swimming”, which just means being in “woger” to Fiona.

ripening tomatoes on Shalavee.com

On the Shore here, Summertime means local food. Crabs, corn, tomatoes, and cantaloupe.

Maryland Blue Crabs on Shalavee.com

And all activities related to obtaining these yummy ingredients.

crabbing on the Eastern Shore on Shalavee.com

We went dip net crabbing once and had a blast.

A day at the blustery beach on Shalavee.com

Visiting the beach can be a challenge with the onslaught of traffic but well worth the effort for a Wednesday outing.

Adam's Market on Shalavee.com

Stopping back by the Adams market on the Delaware line for produce.

shucked corn on Shalavee.com

crabcake and corn salad on Shalavee.com

And then fondling, shucking, and cooking your treasures. Crab cakes, corn salad, and pita chips.

obligatory sunburn on shalavee.comAnd as always, there’s the obligatory sunburn at soccer camp.

Yup, chaos and boredom aside, I think we’re hitting some sweet Summer notes, grabbing great pictures, and actually having fun.

One month left. I think I may need a vacation from this vacation however.

And If you enjoyed what you read, subscribe, via the subscription box in the sidebar, to my thrice weekly posts via your emailbox. And visit me on Instagram to see my daily pictures, friend me or like my page on Facebook. Or come find me on Twitter or Pinterest too. I am always practicing Intentional Intouchness so chat at me please. I live for conversations.

And, as always, Thanks to you tremendously for your visit.

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