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The Rise and Fall of Self-Doubt

What a struggle it is not to succumb to one’s self doubts.

I lose my way in that forest of can’ts and shoulds and wander aimlessly about hoping for a little light to peek through the canopy and show me the way.

Sometimes it’s just a matter of waiting.

I wait for my mood and my hormones to shift.

I connect with my people online.

I follow my curiosity and read something, anything.

I name what I’m grateful for.

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And eventually, I find a hole. A beam of light breaks through and I climb that light to the top of the canopy. For however long, I view the landscape, the future, my blessings, myself.

If this cycle of rising and falling is all I can hope for, shouldn’t this be enough?

I am human after all.

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What Would Make My Life a “Success”

What do you do? The answer to this question implies your worth and productivity to the world. This question is why you stopped going to events where there might be strangers. Because you aren’t certain that there’s an answer you can provide that will bring satisfaction to you and them.

But what if we stopped valuing and judging ourselves on what we do? Gasp. What if we valued ourselves and our presence in this world and instead focused on what a successful life looked like to us not others? What would that look like?What Would Make My Life a “Success”  on Shalavee.com

To spend enough quality time with my kids and eat dinner with them most nights.

To have the time and energy to live a creative life outside of all my musts of parenting and household upkeep.

To be the kind of friend and parent that I want to have.

To honor my skills as a writer and respect my need to pursue that by scheduling regular writing time.What Would Make My Life a “Success”  on Shalavee.com

Three out of four I’m actually doing pretty well at. So I’d say my life is mostly already successful. The trick is to not aim so far ahead of your true life that you miss enjoying living it.

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Puzzling Out My Realizations

The weather has broken finally. Usually it’s hotter than heck around this time in August. I am not complaining.

In the Spring I was taking daily walks and I have been able to return to these. Like a moving prayer, I feel all sorts of hopes and connections bubble to the surface as I walk.

Today, I put my realizations together. I was truly at my best this Spring when I was walking and writing bis juicy essays. I felt great. And I didn’t have time to fuss about this weight gain that has happened to many of us. I realized that all that stuff will take care of itself if we do what we need to do to connect ourselves to the larger source of our happiness.Puzzling Out My Realizations on Shalavee.com

Doing what makes us happy and where we express our genuine selves is what we’re here to do. And yet it does take some concerted effort to show up, do the work, and make the happy machine work. I get caught in all or nothing places. In what ifs, disaster scripts, and not enoughs.

But at the right times, I see what could be for me. How I am already the person I need to be, I just need to put the work into showing the rest of the world what I can do.

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Know That You Are Necessary

One can’t create the life one wants without envisioning its form first. But knowing that you are necessary to this world, that your gifts, stories, and laughter are necessary, the journey can not even begin without knowing these absolutes.

I named the life that i want to live ‘Creative Soul Living’. Yet l often forget that l even dreamed that commitment. The mirrors of self-worth l was missing in my childhood often prevent me from seeing my worth to the world today. My fight is often simply to remember.

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I’m a Nice Person Who Makes Mistakes

I said the wrong thing. I made the wrong choice. My fallible humanity spilled out onto someone and now I’m in the wrong. I messed up, I made a bad choice. And that makes me a nice person who makes mistakes. Nothing more.

I’m a kind person who chooses unwisely sometimes. Those bad decisions should not go down on my permanent record and reflect my character as a bad person from hereon out. It does not serve anyone for me to hold onto and berate myself for my unwisely chosen words.

If you choose to befriend, employ, or even marry the wrong person, there is no contract that says you now have to suffer with that person forever. You are not responsible for their feelings, you are only responsible for yours. “I am sorry you feel that way but I need to do this for me” is an irrefutable phrase.

I forgive myself for my fallibility, the bad choices that I have made and will make. Because without these bad choices, I will not be able to learn and to move onward. I can only know they are coming and apologize to myself or to when they happen. A toast to the messy grueling business of being human. It’s all this nice person can do.

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